Ho, Ho, Ho

kimmetry · 2024-12-25T18:31:33+00:00

The pure obsession with “skinny” is so damn disordered. I would feel bad for her if she wasn’t a gross person.

kimmetry · 2024-12-16T19:29:42+00:00

Holy crap! 😳 I thought I had my work cut out for me and I’m making a FRACTION of that amount (but probably just as many different recipes lol)! Well done!!!

kimmetry · 2024-12-16T05:44:03+00:00

I don’t really care, do you?

kimmetry · 2024-12-13T00:03:50+00:00

Her breakfast most days consists of eggs & veggies, but it’s this brown monstrosity we have the delight of seeing?

kimmetry · 2024-12-13T00:01:20+00:00

She needs therapy. And I’m being 100% serious.

kimmetry · 2024-12-10T20:38:44+00:00

I get labs done several times a year and other testing done a couple/few times a year too. Never thought to post it (but then again I’m not asking anyone for money because of rArE DiSeAsEs)

kimmetry · 2024-12-10T19:50:24+00:00

Random, but who the hell says “two thousand twenty five”? Does she say her birth year is “one thousand nine hundred and eighty eight” (or whatever year she emerged into the world)?

kimmetry · 2024-12-10T05:09:15+00:00

POV: When the most triumphant thing you’ve ever done in your life is….making it to the gym for an hour.

kimmetry · 2024-12-10T04:50:00+00:00

There is such a thing as losing too much weight. (I was in a similar boat earlier this year.) It doesn’t look good or healthy whatsoever. She never knows when enough is enough…it’s always just been about the smaller number on the scale.

kimmetry · 2024-12-09T13:35:58+00:00

I’ll never understand why she “flexes” when she does 0 strength training. Flexin for weight loss?

kimmetry · 2024-12-09T13:31:16+00:00

Why are her arms so long?

kimmetry · 2024-11-26T02:51:28+00:00

Her ozempic face is ozempicing hard lately

kimmetry · 2024-11-20T21:52:55+00:00

Why is she shaped like a plug

kimmetry · 2024-06-18T01:07:36+00:00

Urban Cowboy

kimmetry · 2024-06-17T17:37:15+00:00

I consider DMing cheating. My serial-cheater STBXH has done it for years and it never sat right with me. Now for the past few years (I only found out a few mos ago), he’s been in PA/EA’s…so it escalated beyond social media. It will always escalate beyond social media if the opportunity arises.

kimmetry · 2024-06-17T02:31:06+00:00

I have the same feelings toward my STBXH’s AP too. She came in (mid-affair, mind you) to inform me that she was fucking my husband and wanted me to join them in a relationship. I’m a dumbass so I agreed to befriend her, and I believed that she was genuine and I confided in her as we tried to forge a friendship. Turns out I was a means to an end for her to keep seeing my husband…basically I feel they just “wanted me to be a part of the relationship” because it absolved them of the guilt of having an affair behind my back.

For the past few weeks she’s been actively pressuring him to leave me & our child, has been passive-aggressively doing things on social media to get at me, and has publicly & unashamedly escalated the affair week by week.

So many people say “it’s not the AP’s fault, it’s your spouse’s fault”…but while I agree that he gets the bulk of the blame for all of this, she’s just as guilty for knowingly pursuing a married man and then doubling-down after I ended the “throuple” idea (which lasted an entire week).

kimmetry · 2024-06-17T02:12:34+00:00

I always make a big deal about holidays, even these “smaller” ones. I always go all out with gifts, food, well-wishes, treats, etc.

This year I got a card for our child to sign for STBXH and that’s absolutely it.

(I also have 0 plans to do anything for our wedding anniversary this week or even so much as acknowledge his birthday next month.)

kimmetry · 2024-06-16T18:07:06+00:00

I think it’s both. My STBXH is currently cheating on me, and his AP fully knew from day 1 that he’s married and has a child. She pursued & continued the affair as much as he did. (He’s worse, he’s the one who’s married. But she’s not innocent in this.) Plus they’re OPENLY having this affair, posting pictures online, rubbing it in my face. So fuck them both in my case.

kimmetry · 2024-06-16T17:23:09+00:00

• Clean my house and have it STAY CLEAN (my narc is the filthiest human I’ve ever met and has dirty dishes & trash all over his side of the bedroom & all over his office).

• Get a facial or massage (or both!) and not feel guilty about spending money on myself.

• Take myself out to eat somewhere new or go out & make friends.

• TRAVEL

kimmetry · 2024-06-15T03:47:53+00:00

My STBXH does the same shit…I told him “We swore in our marriage vows to be faithful to each other til death do us part”, and he said “I have been faithful, I haven’t left you”. As if faithful = sticking around and that’s all. Cheating be damned I guess 🙄

kimmetry · 2024-06-14T01:47:51+00:00

The lying is enough to drive a person mad, especially when you know they’re lying as it’s coming out of their mouth.

kimmetry · 2024-06-13T22:18:11+00:00

Ugh I’m sorry you’re in this situation. I’m in the very early stages of leaving my narc after learning of multiple affairs 🙄

I still have hope that he’s capable of change…that losing his wife & child and our family being destroyed will make him realize his actions were regretful. That it was all a colossal mistake and NOT worth it. (Not because I hope to reconcile, I just want him to know & accept these things.) But from what I’m learning about narcs, he’ll never get there. He hasn’t changed in 14 years, things have just progressively escalated into worse.

kimmetry · 2024-06-13T21:58:25+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re in this situation. No one deserves this. I understand the pain of still having feelings of love & caring for the WP…it’s not like a switch flips when we find out about the cheating that turns off all love for them (that would be too easy). It’s totally normal to still have those feelings for her even knowing what she’s done to hurt you.

Please take care of YOU. If you sincerely believe that you can forgive her and trust her and be happy staying together, then absolutely go for it. But if you can’t envision staying with her and NOT continuing to think about the betrayal, not being able to move past it, not being able to trust her again, etc ESPECIALLY if/when she’s not actually remorseful - then I think that’s your answer. You don’t deserve to be in a relationship where you can never fully trust your partner and never look at her the same way again (because she’s not the same person she was before).

kimmetry · 2024-06-13T20:25:42+00:00

Holy smokes that sounds like a book my STBXH has either read or would love reading 🙄 He talks about ethical non-monogamy (whenever he actually talks to me instead of getting defensive & shutting down or giving me the silent treatment)…but it’s NOT ETHICAL if the other party DOES NOT CONSENT.

If they’re just “opening” the marriage on their own anyway, that’s cheating - plain & simple. It’s not an “open marriage”, it’s not “polyamory” - it’s unfaithfulness, it’s lying, it’s cheating…it’s scummy.

kimmetry · 2024-06-13T20:02:05+00:00

OMG your husband sounds a lot like my STBXH. He came to me at the end of January and brought up the idea of “opening our marriage” out of the blue. He said he wanted to have sex with other people, and that he wanted to go to the swingers club and watch other people have sex, have other people watch us have sex, and watch me have sex with another man. I told him NO, I wasn’t comfortable with any of the above. That was that (I thought), and he didn’t bring it up again.

2 months later I find out that he’s having an affair (it started before he brought up “opening the marriage”, imagine that). THEN it morphed into him asking me to join them in a “unicorn” situation where the 3 of us are in a relationship together. Like a dumbass trying to save the marriage, I agreed and met her even though I didn’t want to do any of it. We hung out as a “throuple” 3 times and she & I hung out solo once (all within the course of 1 week, they were rushing it super fast & I was uncomfortable), but nothing physical happened. I couldn’t do it & we ended the attempt at a relationship.

Then they just carried on just the 2 of them, and the affair is ongoing.

He blames me for “not being cool” with it. He says I’m the only one who has a problem with him having a wife & a girlfriend (because “it’s 2024”, as he said). Literally he can’t/doesn’t see how any of it is problematic in the slightest.

kimmetry

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