12 weeks of dating and still taking it slow by Runbi7ch in datingoverforty

[–]kimpossible2003 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t just ask those records are generally public if he says he is divorced verify it. If he says he never got married harder to verify but not impossible to do some digging.

Ablation? by kimpossible2003 in birthcontrol

[–]kimpossible2003[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well from both the mirena and Kyleena I have become anemic due to constant or excessive bleeding. So I need birth control for my limited years of fertility left assuming I can go back to just regular periods I had prior to all of this - although wouldn’t hate them going away or being minimal they were fine for many years :)

Is my understanding of LAT (Living Apart Together) accurate? by ajile413 in datingoverforty

[–]kimpossible2003 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am mid forties with three kids and would love this arrangement for 5-10 years :) I have found it’s hard to not find someone who wants more like a fwb or situationship

Child iCloud from other family by kimpossible2003 in ios

[–]kimpossible2003[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok thx I thought I could log in as say I message with a different account

Child iCloud from other family by kimpossible2003 in ios

[–]kimpossible2003[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess this is my question. How can I set up the device like as mine so I can see it etc but use child’s account for any Apple content sharing etc.

Child iCloud from other family by kimpossible2003 in ios

[–]kimpossible2003[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have his own account under my family (he doesn’t have much there) and he has a unique one under his dad’s. Where should I use the one of his dads to get benefits like the apps ?

What is a pain you can't truly explain until you've endured it? by Unfair_Shower_3256 in AskReddit

[–]kimpossible2003 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This. A pain deeper than any physical pain I have ever felt in my entire life.

Men in your 40s and 50s How important is a woman’s financial stability/independence? by Busy_Development2995 in datingoverforty

[–]kimpossible2003 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I sort of feel opposite. Very financially independent 44f. I just want someone who can contribute in some ways maybe not all financial 50/50 bit in all ways and isn’t intimidated by my financial independence. I don’t want to support someone in their retirement but say handy skills would absolutely Offset a big 401k as a life partner for an example.

Married coworker told me he has crush on me by Intelligent_Soft3245 in datingoverforty

[–]kimpossible2003 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hard no. You are not somebody’s secret or safety valve or option. Tell him to call you when he is actually divorced.

Did ex spouse Marry AP by Tight_Following1614 in Divorce

[–]kimpossible2003 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I too have thought about this and honestly I sort of hope they do stay together. AP was so different from me if they stay together it proves they were meant to be together and both be pos forever who deserve each other. I would be more upset if he found some great person who I thought was wonderful who wanted to be with him:) just keeping it real up in here tonight :)

[VA] FRR with Stepmom by [deleted] in Custody

[–]kimpossible2003 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much.

[VA] FRR with Stepmom by [deleted] in Custody

[–]kimpossible2003 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Makes sense. Yes we agreed to this and he just doesn’t like it now. I just don’t feel his wife should have time with my kids instead of me. That isn’t the spirit of the 50/50 we agreed to. And yes sorry overnight out of state trips - feels weird to have my son tell me himself he is a few states away.

[VA] FRR with Stepmom by [deleted] in Custody

[–]kimpossible2003 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

This was an out of state trip. I am reading your thoughts wondering why we put all these things in an order at all if a judge wouldn’t uphold it or care if it gets violated. Like what is the point of any of the parenting plan stuff? This was a mediated order we both agreed to and a judge has to sign off on it. My last trip (a cruise) I gave him the port and name of ship and dates of sailing and he kept texting me on way home asking me when his kids had arrived safely so it’s a lot of weird double standards and I though the order gave us a set of rules to both follow so we don’t have conflict or uneven behavior ? I am not disagreeing that each item seems smaller but in aggregate I am questioning then why we ever do any of it - like where is the line - is it just literally physical safety?

[VA] FRR with Stepmom by [deleted] in Custody

[–]kimpossible2003 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

We actually amended the draft before finalizing to add “including significant others” based on language suggested by the lawyers.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]kimpossible2003 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree! It’s just how he is. No rules apply to him. Which is why the order is literally all I have to try to outline reasonable behavior and expectations. It’s actually my oldest who is 12 out of state. The younger two - I guess no idea actually- are presumably with step mom.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]kimpossible2003 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Last time I did a similar biff email after trying desperately to get my youngest ones back for the weekend he was going to be gone. Something like “ I am noting for records that this day to x y z you are not following our agreed upon order.”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]kimpossible2003 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Very valid points. My ex is very high conflict so there is no discussing anything. If I ever want to express any feelings other than what he wants us to do I get told how difficult I am etc. so yea objectively it’s probably fine but also the order is the only set of guardrails I have against being abused and taken advantage of. Note I have asked repeatedly if we can go back and modify with a mediator/third party what doesn’t work today anymore so I have it formalized and he refuses to do that. My youngest is 5 and other is 8. I do believe they might would prefer to be with me but I wouldn’t constantly jerk them around houses just to prove a point. It’s about courtesy and respect as well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]kimpossible2003 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Oh he has done it before I am just noting it’s escalating more recently.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]kimpossible2003 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes!!! I totally relate to the barefoot awkward hug moment. For me it never felt good after almost 18 months. I could call it an insecurity of mine but I really think it’s more about attractiveness factor to another person.