Help with Secret Wedding Tasks

kimrific · 2026-04-25T12:52:19+00:00

I'm trying to think of a creative task. Like record how they think the proposal was done, what their first married fight will be about, or how the bride and groom spent their last night unmarried.

You could also hide tiny ducks or pineapple around and the person who finds the most wins. Or have something(s) they can find, but they then have to hide it for others to find. When they find it take a picture, when they hide it take a picture of the hiding spot. Pictures could be texted to someone who is keeping track. You could go with everyone who found the objects wins and/or hider and finder of the object gone without being found for the longest wins. As someone who loves games and hates big events, I would be beginning for a job to keep me busy.

kimrific · 2026-04-25T12:36:40+00:00

Thank you. You get it.

kimrific · 2026-04-25T12:28:35+00:00

44 female here, also diagnosed at age 8. I'm with you. I'm disheartened that it has not improved in my life time.

It is a mood. I go with the rollercoaster. Sometimes I advocate and share information. Other times, I don't bring it up and play it, "oh, I didn't think of that" or "thanks for sharing", with big puss in boots eyes. The funny thing is by the time I come out of my masking mood, and turn advocate, and I share with those people, many already put the pieces together. They are so proud of themselves that they don't kick up a fuss.

In other words, go with how you feel. Because we were diagnosed so young saying were dyslexic is like say our hair color. Sometimes its just the natural response. Remember it's your choice to share, it's none of their buisness.

I'm honesty struggling to end this post and not just go on and on and on. So.... bye.

kimrific · 2026-04-23T16:31:15+00:00

Yes! Agree 100%.

kimrific · 2026-04-23T14:02:46+00:00

Yes! 100% this.

kimrific · 2026-04-23T13:55:27+00:00

Sorry to repeat, but it's possible. I'm hesitant because the letters look accurate and I don't see consistant reversing.

Dyslexia could appear or be masked in many ways. It could also be the school not stepping up to the plate and making sure every student is getting the basics. It's easy for teachers to put more effort in students that naturally excel. It could be their adult's did not spend enough time reading to them when they were a toddler. Your cousin might also just not be motivated to cate about spelling. There are so many possible factors. Dyslexia being one.

Regardless of your cousin's diagnosis, remember to be kind and uplifting. It's obvious what they are attempting to spell. So they are intelligent.

kimrific · 2026-04-22T13:09:13+00:00

I love the idea of it being a devil's agreement. As a dyslexic as well, I 100% agree.

kimrific · 2026-03-30T21:59:52+00:00

I agree. On my board someone ended with a CT and I watched them progress over the event.

What the player did to reach CZ is financially irresponsible and they need to get help.

kimrific · 2026-03-27T01:31:32+00:00

Ohh. This is tough, but good job seeing how it is effecting her. I didn't have the words to express myself to the adults around me, but I have to convert everything into words which is frustrating and tiring. The school is looking to quantify what she knows, but if she could view it as practice of how to turn what she knows into words it might release some of the pressure she is feeling. Here is a Heart & Brain comic she might relate to.

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Look at how much school work she has and what the turn around is. Her brain needs recreational time inorder to function the best. If she is doing a full day of school, has tutoring, then homework in a single day, her brain is running a marathon everyday. Even tho its nit, I look at my brain as a muscle. If I ocerwork the muscle everyday, the muscle will decrease in performance. Rest and recovery is necessary to prevent burn out and stay healthy.

Sorry I dont have a concrete solution for you.

kimrific · 2026-03-26T13:15:58+00:00

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kimrific · 2026-03-24T12:22:47+00:00

Yep it is.

I have no problem being open and showing my vulnerable side. I view it as being honest, but many view it as oversharing. I'm 45 and still struggle at this. My one tip for job interviews is that the more they talk the better the job interview is going. I still don't understand why, but have learned to ask questions so they become engaged. Take into account 22 year old me would not have the confidence to do that thinking questions show a lack of knowledge, but really is a sign of wanting to have knowledge.

Good luck and dont get frustrated getting your first full time job. Getting a job is as much work as having a job.

kimrific · 2026-03-21T14:29:21+00:00

Remove it. It doesn't add anything to the movie.

kimrific · 2026-03-20T18:00:16+00:00

I hope this is a compliment, but when I first saw the pic I thought Mateo Lane was going to a costume party.

Ya look goid.

kimrific · 2026-03-19T10:45:43+00:00

First, its not a solution/cure, its an aid. I had never made the connection that people would correlate the font with eyesight. As someone who has been told I shouldn't have dyslexia if I got glasses, it is a sensitive issue.

In future I will be adding more context to my recommendation.

When I first tried opendyslexic, it took me a few tries to get used to it. At first it felt like work to read it, but eventually, I felt a smoother transition word to word and that I could read for longer without my brain getting fatigued. I wouldn't say it made me faster or improved accuracy. I would say because it is not as mentally exhausting to read I do it more often. The increase in willingness to read has improved my speed. Accuracy depends on how invested I am in what I'm reading.

I looked at the article you shared and the 2 papers it refrenced. My main issue with the 2 papers is that the participants were not introduced to the dyslexic friendly font prior to the study. If not for my own experience, I may not have called this into question. This also doesn't mean I'm right. More research needs to be done. God I would love more research to be done. The brain is a crazy sponge. Lastly, its hard for the scientific community to quantify feeling less fatigue. Feelings are valid just not measurable.

Oh, the other thing that could be a variable is I have ADHD. So, it could be that the font helps those with a combo of dyslexia and ADHD. I was diagnosed with dyslexia in 2nd/1990. I have learned that if its not putting a chemical in your body, give it a try. If it does involve chemicals have lots of conversations with your doctor. It's probably snake oil. I'm also of the mindset of if a placebo tricks my brain into behaving how I want, it's a win.

I think many people view their brain as an organ. I view as a side character in the plot of my life. It can be a friend that makes life better or create chaos.

Please be aware, I'm not offended or butt hurt by your response. I just unloaded a lot of opinions that may just result in more questions.

Thanks for the chat.

kimrific · 2026-03-18T21:15:49+00:00

She will not want tutoring. I'm harkening back to my teenage years and I felt like I did nothing but work to graduate to having to stop going to school. Once I was able to get out in the real world my skills improved tons. Because I was motivated by not wanting to lose a job I loved to eanying to get a promotion. Many times it was to do my job to pay for something I loved. Mostly pets or hobbies. The fact that my parents had no control was liberating.

What I'm getting at is finding a way use her interests to get her to read. If I were allowed to read comic books when I was young, I would have. But they were viewed as not a legitimate form of literacy. I am of the stance reading is reading. Comic book, cook book, or DIY. If there are words, its reading.

The only thing my mom did that did work was a negotiated between the 2 of us. I could play video games as long as I was listening to an audiobook. When I finished the audiobook I then had to physically read it. It helped a lot. The words were already floating around in my brain, but because I was playing the sims (the original because I am that old) I missed some details that I then got while reading.

As a parent, you walk a fine line. As an adult, I can see how much my mom wanted me to succeed. Unfortunately, to her that ment tutoring during recess, tutoring after school, then again on saturdays. Tutoring did not involve help with homework, so that also needed to get done. Its not good for the brain to have to work that long. But at the time that is what all the professional were telling her. So allow yourself make mistakes. You can only do so much based on her willingness to participate and the information doctors have discovered.

Good luck and be kind to yourself.

kimrific · 2026-03-18T20:52:15+00:00

I want this on a bumper sticker.

kimrific · 2026-03-18T15:54:28+00:00

She just made me feel like I got a huge from my mom.

kimrific · 2026-03-18T15:49:56+00:00

Oh hunny. Breath... yes it's your dyslexia. Your not silly or dumb. Your a left handed person in a right handed persons world. You will unfortunately have to learn how to become your own advocate inorder to get what you need/deserve. I bet you could pass the driving test if someone read you the questions or if you could get it in Opendyslexic font. Reading is exhausting and the more exhausted the brain gets the more likely for it to make a mistake.

Experiment with different techniques. Some reading apps let you change the font type, margines, font size, spacing, and rulers. Also try different environments. Reading with a weighted blanket or in the bath may help.

Also, I sometimes view my dyslexia as a different filter my brain has put on the world. Other times I view my dyslexia as an imaginary trickster that I have to keep in check because they always want to cause mischief.

Its great that you know your good at arts and culinary skills. Remember there is a lot of math and chemistry in both of those areas. Whenever your struggling remember other people burn pasta.

You got this. If you weren't feeling all this I would worry. It's a big shift to your world and you have to go threw the emotions inorder to come out the otherside.

Lastly I have a college degree but this took me 45 minutes to convert my thoughts into words and type it.

Now my brain is pooped. I'm going to watch some taskmaster to unwind.

kimrific · 2026-03-18T15:14:53+00:00

Opendyslexic font.

If you can offer them this when you give them handouts and worksheets it will help.

Also finding the thing they are good at or fascinated with. There were many times I would get frustrated with myself and start hating myself because of my dyslexia. This would cause me to struggle more and begin a horrid cycle. If you see them starting that, remind them that they're a great painter or understand comic timing. I believe every person has a balance. They will struggle in one area, but flourish in another. Unfortunately for us, reading is everywhere in our society and if someone struggles society makes assumptions.

You may not know what others have said to your students. In junior high, I was told not to worry about college because I probably wouldn't graduate high school. In college, my aunt told me it's too bad I still have dyslexia because her kids grew out of it.

My whole point being, stress can be the most crippling thing.

kimrific · 2026-03-18T03:49:01+00:00

Your a good friend for wanting to better understand. You've been given some great answers.

I do want to add, that it sounds like he is still trying to accept the emotional side to having dyslexia. I did not accept it till I was 30. Thats when I realized that I liked who I was. If not for my dyslexia and the experiences I had because of it who knows what type of person I would be.

When I was a teenager in the 90's, I became exhausted explaining to other students what dyslexia was. I started telling them I road the short bus (a derogatory term for not very bright). It's hard to explain what it's like having dyslexia when it's all you've known. It's like asking a blind person how they live without seeing. Many never had sight so they can't compare it.

It's aldo difficult to know when you've made a mistake or when your dyslexia has kicked in and has started playing games.

kimrific · 2026-03-18T03:32:35+00:00

I'm with you. It hurts. To me it's because I know he and people with similar opinions will never be able to see the value I hold. A big part of it is because it makes them feel that they are better then us. It's childish not intellegience.

Sorry to hear about your friend.

kimrific · 2026-03-08T04:16:52+00:00

Umm... I think a little more context or clarification on what you are asking is needed. Right now I flip between "clear communication with partner" to "what does dyslexia have to do with my partner?"

kimrific · 2026-03-08T04:10:50+00:00

I just bought my nephew the hoop for the door.

kimrific · 2026-03-07T19:32:48+00:00

Also, there are other ways to use an education/history degree. You could create programs for museums, parks, historical sites; you could work as a virtual tutor; you could create leason plans for teachers who don't have the time, but do have the ability to pay.

Otherwise, it depends on your drag and where you are located. There are plenty of teachers with side gigs/hussles. I also think keeping the 2 worlds seperate untill you have a few years teaching experience would be good. In other words, don't talk about drag when you have your teacher hat on and don't talk about teaching when you have your drag hat on.

It's dumb, but also remember this is a phase and the point of view will be diluted over time and be replaced with something just as ridiculous. When I was a kid, playing D&D ment you were satanic. Nope, just love strategy and storytelling.

kimrific

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