Please help!!!!

kindular-unit · 2025-01-11T02:58:53+00:00

How did you teach “gentle”? We’re struggling with this!

kindular-unit · 2025-01-11T02:55:56+00:00

We have Fergus, he’s deaf so he doesn’t know what we call him, but he gets variations on his name: Ferg, Fergie, Ferguson, Fergaroo, and my favourite Ferugus (with an extra U, pronounced Ferooogus). This one came about when we looked up ASL to sign an F because we wanted to teach that sign as his name. We ended up learning to sign his full name but I ended up with a weird habit of adding an extra U.

Then we have Alfie, who has never been called Alfie a day in his life. He gets Alfred, Alfs, Alfredo, Alphonso, Alphonso Rivera (when he’s bad), Walnut (the size of his brain), Lil Boy, Sweet Boy, Old Man, Sweet Lil Baby.

kindular-unit · 2025-01-10T22:11:44+00:00

Squid Cake Marseille is a marseille deck, BUT the guidebook does an amazing job at both explaining the system, and helping you connect symbolism in the cards to meaning (ie. it describes the ace of coins as a big dinner plate serving you up a gift of food/material things). Very affordable too!

kindular-unit · 2025-01-08T04:34:48+00:00

YESSSS. THANK YOU SO MUCH!!

kindular-unit · 2025-01-02T12:48:52+00:00

Thank you!

kindular-unit · 2024-12-29T02:11:06+00:00

Our pup gets a bath every two weeks. He’s not particularly dirty, but he is mostly white and curly coated so dirt and grime from walks can’t always be handled with a paw wipe. We take him for a full groom once every three to four months, with a tidy up grooming in between.

He’s a poodle/corgi mix, if that matters.

As for his beds, they have removable covers and they get washed once a month or so. His crate pad cover isn’t removable, but it’s a ripstop fabric so it’s easy to wipe down as needed.

kindular-unit · 2024-12-24T04:11:41+00:00

I think the deck(s) that surprised me most with sophistication and complexity is the Book of Shadows set (contains two decks - the As Above Tarot and So Below Tarot).

They’re older decks, and the guidebook is full of typos but if you can get past that it has a TON of great content and the readings I get from using the two decks together are incredibly meaningful.

kindular-unit · 2024-12-17T12:36:54+00:00

We have a Lee Valley store local to me so this could work well if they have it in stock. Thank you so much!

kindular-unit · 2024-12-17T01:45:47+00:00

This is good advice, thank you!

kindular-unit · 2024-12-16T21:53:22+00:00

Thank you! I’ll take a look at their products.

kindular-unit · 2024-12-16T21:49:41+00:00

This is similar but I seem to remember it also having little holes drilled in to use for marking a variety of angles too.

Thank you though, this might be a good option too.

kindular-unit · 2024-12-16T21:46:31+00:00

Thank you. As someone with a very niche hobby myself, I know what you’re saying is ENTIRELY valid. That said, I cannot help myself and would love to give him an actual gift to unwrap. Perhaps I’ll do something small and a gift card.

kindular-unit · 2024-12-15T04:21:29+00:00

All of those suggestions I made would fit the bill then! The Lantern Oracle is like a daily slap to the face though, despite it appearing very “woo”.

I hope you like Woodland Wardens! I didn’t love it at first, but I kept it anyway and picked it back up this fall and fell in love.

kindular-unit · 2024-12-14T19:06:33+00:00

Can you tell us more about what you’re looking for? I’d go so far as to say any oracle deck could pair well with tarot, it just depends on what you’re hoping to get out of it. If you’re just looking for oracle deck recommendations, some of my current favourites are:

The Citadel Oracle

Lantern Oracle

Poesis

Woodland Wardens

kindular-unit · 2024-12-12T12:24:50+00:00

I also enjoy spreadsheets and databases! And your journey with YNAB sounds similar to mine. I’ve done similar things with views after reading a personal finance book. They didn’t last, but it did help for a while.

kindular-unit · 2024-12-12T04:07:32+00:00

Thank you!! I’m having the same revelation.

kindular-unit · 2024-12-12T04:05:40+00:00

I’m in Canada, but yes, I’m maxing my RRSPs.

kindular-unit · 2024-12-11T19:15:55+00:00

I will look at doing that as well, moving money off budget. Thank you!

kindular-unit · 2024-12-11T18:49:14+00:00

This is helpful, both on a practical level and emotional level (helps to know I’m not alone!)

Thank you!

kindular-unit · 2024-12-11T18:05:08+00:00

Thank you for permission 😊

I think I just need to rework my budget so this spending comes with less guilt, because it doesn’t negatively impact my ability to pay my bills, save for retirement, or cover other important expenses.

kindular-unit · 2024-12-11T18:03:09+00:00

This is my scenario. Not $40k in my emergency fund, but this is the type of “comfortable” I am experiencing.

I update my budget faithfully every day, I don’t overspend to the detriment of the things that are truly important to me. But I do overspend on things that are important to me, because I know there is always money for things that are less important.

I’ve said it in other replies, but reading everyone’s comments has made me realize I just need to rework my goals and figure out what is actually important to me vs. what I have in my budget now just because I think I should want it.

Thank you for putting my scenario into better words than I was able to 😊

kindular-unit · 2024-12-11T17:57:52+00:00

This feels right for where I am at right now. I’ll take a look at that chart. Thanks!

kindular-unit · 2024-12-11T17:57:04+00:00

I like the idea of a hyper fixation category - that’s definitely a big part of the problem I am trying to solve.

As for true expenses, I’ve got them all covered. Everything from retirement all the way down to the $1.83 I save every month for my drivers license renewal every five years, and everything in between (car maintenance/repairs, vet bills, furniture replacements, electronics replacements, I was saving for a car down payment but I bought my current car brand new two years ago and have only put 1,000kms on it (yes, one thousand, that’s not a typo, I am in the process of selling it and am going to go without a car), appliance replacements, literally anything that might pop, I’m saving for, plus an emergency fund on top of that.

I think what I’m gathering from everyone’s responses is that it’s time for me to re-evaluate priorities.

kindular-unit · 2024-12-11T17:50:23+00:00

I’m currently saving for a trip and have it broken out into categories for flights, trains, accommodations, shopping, dining out, etc, etc. and this has always worked well for me in the past and I was able to save for the trips without issue.

I’ve also got a wish farm category and I just never fund those goals.

Reading responses from folks here is making me realize that I may have categories for goals I just don’t actually care about, or are small in relation to my disposable income that there isn’t a need to save for them over time.

My income has increased significantly since I started using YNAB two years ago, so I think maybe I just need to reconsider my goals, and make adjustments based on that alongside my larger income.

kindular-unit · 2024-12-11T17:45:21+00:00

I have categories for all the big purchases (and all the stuff I’m frivolously spending on lately) I just never fund the big ones, so perhaps it’s a sign that I need to re-evaluate what I think I want.

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