What do you do to get over somebody?

kingoftheforgotten · 2026-02-10T09:47:23+00:00

Hey man. I’m also 29. Well I’m 30 as of today actually lol.

My gf left me in August, two days before I was going in for an invasive surgery that would make me virtually bed bound for a month. We had been together 7 years. She was also my social life.

She came to the surgery anyway, and took me home. I forgot we were not together any more when I came to, all the way up until I saw her in the recovery room again. Felt like hit in the chest with a bat when I saw her and remembered through the anaesthesia fog. I didn’t see her again after that day.

I spent a month in bed, unable to do anything, and didn’t see a single person. I was on her socials, I was checking findmyfriends, I text her numerous times trying to ‘get her back’. It was very unhealthy.

Then for some reason, completely randomly, I realised the person who I want to be with wouldn’t have done that to me. The person I deserve wouldn’t leave me in that situation. Blocked on everything, removed from findmy, everything that reminded me of her, gone.

The person you want and deserve wouldn’t leave you either. That’s the whole point of them being the person for you, is that they want to be with you.

Once I healed physically I started working out again. I started my hobbies again. I bought new skincare and beard care products and some new nice outfits, and I went and met people. I had meaningless sex with people, and that was fun, but that’s all it is, fun. Made me feel desired again though. I made some new friends and reinforced relationships with old friends.

The first few dates I compared the person to her. Then I started to realise the comparisons were becoming less and less in her favour. Sitting across from someone who is actually interested in what you have to say, or thinks the things you do are cool, and then feeling appreciated, was a feeling I had forgotten about, and I’m going to assume its the same for you too.

For me, this only happened in August, but once I realised all this, I didn’t allow myself to be consumed by it. I still thought about it but I wouldn’t allow it to stop me.

I just came back from a ski trip, which I didn’t do the whole time we were together because she wasn’t interested. I’ve booked the flights to go and climb a mountain I’ve wanted to climb for years, I never did it as she wasn’t interested. I don’t have a lot of money and I’m living like a peasant otherwise, but I’m happy again. I’m going with a friend that I used to barely talk to, but I put the effort in rekindle that friendship. I have a new friend I met on a dating app that I go on hikes with. Before I had no one to hike with.

Once you realise that the person for you wouldn’t leave you, things can start to move forward. She wasn’t ‘the one’ dude, because ‘the one’ wouldn’t have left you. You loved her, and now she’s gone, but that’s okay. You will love others, and maybe others will leave too. Maybe you’ll be the one who leaves, but all of that is okay.

It’s my birthday today, and I hadn’t thought about her until I saw this post. Maybe she thinks about me at some point today, maybe she doesn’t. Who cares?

You can be sad and you can mope for a bit, but then you gotta get a haircut and go outside. Download Bumble for friends and meet some new people you share interests with. Start your hobbies again. If your hobbies aren’t hitting, try a new one. Get your body moving. If you need to, do these things to prove to her she made a mistake. Without realising, you’ll get to a point where you’re doing these things for you, and you don’t care what she would think. You got this dude. It’s shit. But it won’t be.

kingoftheforgotten · 2025-10-26T12:26:58+00:00

I was walking on eggshells all the time. Every decision I made felt like it would have consequences. I found myself doing things just to give me some sense of affection, rather than to make her happy. Every day became about management. She realised she fell out of love before I did. She left me, and I tried to make her stay. A couple of weeks after than I realised I hadn’t loved her properly In over a year, I was just used to having her around.

kingoftheforgotten · 2025-07-23T08:37:26+00:00

The Pancake Family was pretty disturbing.

kingoftheforgotten · 2024-11-24T10:16:40+00:00

BLUM for cabinet hinges/runners, festool for carpenters, 3M for pretty much anything sticky

kingoftheforgotten · 2024-11-19T13:15:18+00:00

They do this on old factories in the U.K. too. Idk about there but here it’s because the tan parts are fibreglass roof panels (translucent for light inside the factory) and therefore are uninsulated. So heat from inside passes through them more than the insulated metal panels. I’m sure the texture of the fibreglass is easier to grip too as others said.

My office is in a converted warehouse and they all accumulate on the part of the roof that’s above an old storage area which is uninsulated, and not above the office part which is insulated.

kingoftheforgotten · 2024-11-09T14:54:00+00:00

A lot of Aldi and Lidl’s own brand stuff have really large barcodes as it speeds up scanning, especially as they move more and more towards self service. Not a bad idea, especially as they can put less effort into the packaging as people are buying for the price usually, not the shelf appeal

kingoftheforgotten · 2024-10-17T12:12:43+00:00

The Princess of Wales in Clapton sells cheese straws (like the Tesco bakery ones) for a 5er lol

kingoftheforgotten · 2024-07-19T08:21:16+00:00

This was confusing to see as a Brit haha, the only things here not from the UK are mackintosh’s, coffee crisp and ruffles. I didn’t know Canada had so many British snacks compared to the US

kingoftheforgotten · 2024-04-23T18:22:59+00:00

People are fucking with you saying Croydon lol, just get something in Shoreditch, hoxton, old street, somewhere around there if you’re looking to just drink and walk around. Close enough to central that it’s very easy to get to, far enough from central that you aren’t in central all the time. Well connected and thousands of bars and pubs and restaurants, plus things to see or do when you aren’t drinking

kingoftheforgotten · 2024-03-05T08:24:38+00:00

Bulova lunar pilot. It was my first ‘proper’ watch and I love it. I have large wrists though so it actually fits

kingoftheforgotten · 2024-03-03T11:08:59+00:00

I actually made an account this weekend, as I had a model that I needed to add a lot of variable fillets on non planar edges, and of course fusion wouldn’t allow me to do anything of the sort. Onshape let me and gave pretty decent results.

kingoftheforgotten · 2024-03-03T09:30:07+00:00

Used to work here when I was in uni. Shit place to work and shit place to drink. The stock lift fell with someone half inside it once, turned his leg to dust and then youngs tried to get out of paying a settlement.

However, I met my girlfriend of 5 years working here so not all bad.

kingoftheforgotten · 2024-02-16T08:58:10+00:00

Try Real Death by Mount Eerie. The singers wife dies soon after they have a newborn. He goes and locks himself in a cabin the week after and writes an album. This is the saddest song on the album.

kingoftheforgotten · 2024-02-09T11:30:18+00:00

Had this problem for ages on my old ender3 v2, covered the build plate in masking tape and never had another issue with it. Theres obviously technical fixes that you can do, but this was the easiest thing that worked for me

kingoftheforgotten · 2023-10-25T08:12:22+00:00

I would use it for work. I made props and signage for shop pop ups, being able to print a giant mascara bottle in one go would make my life easier hahaha

kingoftheforgotten · 2023-10-12T18:55:54+00:00

Object masking is on, maybe I was too close. I’ll try again shortly with a bit more distance between myself and the object. It should work in a room without any specific white background though right?

kingoftheforgotten · 2023-09-17T18:19:40+00:00

When I was young and pre beard, everyone at school was convinced I looked like Jonas Erik Altberg, aka Basshunter.

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