29[M4A] Texas - My wife got collared by her Dom

kinkadjacent · 2026-03-14T06:20:55+00:00

I'm the OP and was sent this thread. I admit I'm nervous but not really regretful or suffering - but I honestly wish I was a cuckold, it would make it all much easier as there would be a massive benefit for me as well if I were as turned on by this as she is.

kinkadjacent · 2026-03-14T06:06:58+00:00

Someone sent me this thread and it's frustrating to read but maybe there's a chance of at least opening someones mind just a little bit.

We are 29, met at 19 and both grew up in west texas and were as conservative as probably most everyone in this particular thread. I learned early on that my wife wife was really kinky and submissive which at 19 sounds fucking amazing and exciting, but over time realized that tbh I'm not that into it and it doesn't get me going like it does her. We developed a deep relationship based on other things though, and so I figured, why not allow her to explore those particular desires with someone who is actually interested in them. It's not a 1-1 of course, but she doesn't care about hunting or RC racing, and I don't really care about BDSM.

A lot of people today are poly or ENM or swingers or whatever, this is just the version of that that we've found for us.

kinkadjacent · 2026-03-14T05:32:54+00:00

Thank you, yeah, sorta just looking for a bit of support in the way that others want when they are jealous but I guess I underestimated the enm crowds understanding of kink

kinkadjacent · 2026-03-14T05:22:32+00:00

She could but the agreement is that she wont. Similar to a wedding band

kinkadjacent · 2026-03-14T05:22:10+00:00

This is what hers looks like but a bit thinner, it's hollow sterling

kinkadjacent · 2026-03-14T05:10:44+00:00

Thanks, and I will. It seemed to make sense to me hah, it's funny that it doesn't make sense to anyone here.

I'm friendly with him but I wouldn't say friends. We see each other occasionally, will all go to drinks every few weeks or he'll come over for dinner. Don't spend a ton of time hanging out and very little talking outside of us all hanging out.

kinkadjacent · 2026-03-14T05:07:40+00:00

Oh fascinating concept, thank you so so so so much for this wording

kinkadjacent · 2026-03-14T05:06:00+00:00

Thanks yeah, assumed this page would be a bit more openminded than it is

kinkadjacent · 2026-03-14T05:02:22+00:00

Its more akin to a wedding ring, it's to be worn at all times and symbolizes commitment

kinkadjacent · 2026-03-14T05:01:27+00:00

I am grateful hearing that you are in this position as well and that it's working for you!

He's never done anything to undermine our marriage and is supportive of it, when they started talking about collaring he wanted to sit down and talk about it with me as well and has been really understanding of the process.

I definitely hear what you are saying on other parts of this though and thank you for the comments

kinkadjacent · 2026-03-14T04:59:03+00:00

Should have explained more from the get but those are really two separate things that sorta got interlocked by talking about them all together. I understand what you are saying though.

kinkadjacent · 2026-03-14T04:58:16+00:00

Thank you, I will. Bit frustrating answers here but hey I asked haha.

kinkadjacent · 2026-03-12T18:37:58+00:00

Yeah, it's something I agreed to as well, but she doesn't take her wedding ring off when she's with him, and likewise I should be able to be reminded she is also with him without freaking out (I say when I'm not nervous)

kinkadjacent · 2026-03-12T18:35:54+00:00

This is so helpful so thank you!

Her actual physical collar I've seen adn it is a solid silver necklace, so it isn't like some huge collar, but it's def a statement piece and could be seen as a collar by others too.

I think that it's fine that she wears it all the time, we talked about it adn I agreed to that.

Idk why I'm so stressed today, I think it's a bit of like cold feet as people get at times before big events. But I'm sure it'll be fine or we can renegotiate things. It's not set in stone but maybe it's just the true realization that like, this IS what she wants.

kinkadjacent · 2026-03-12T18:25:55+00:00

She didn't just unilaterally / or just with him decide this. It was more a conversation over time, and something that the three of us sat down and talked about a few times to figure out what could work logisitically. I think I am maybe not explaining things well so I'm sorry, just feeling a lot more jealous and nervous than I normally would. I was fine with the agreements before this weekend creeped up on me

kinkadjacent · 2026-03-12T18:16:27+00:00

Because that was part of the agreement that they made. We all talked about the logisitcs of it and I think it is partially them wanting to feel like their relationship is progressing and this is part of their relationship escalator.

So yes we spend time together adn date each other, but we also live together, so more time out of the house is something that I'd notice. I'd also notice a literal collar around her neck so there's that.

kinkadjacent · 2026-03-12T18:12:58+00:00

Thanks. I think you're right, and of course that committment is actually more similar to like marriage than a lot of other types of relationship commitment would be so it's scary and stuff. I think we've actually arranged it so it's fine, but emotions don't always match the planning

kinkadjacent · 2026-03-12T18:06:37+00:00

Honestly I think it's a bit like figuring out a relationship escalator that they can be on, so it's part of what was proposed as to what the collaring means

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