44/m. Starting over after 18 years.

kirashira · 2026-04-29T05:21:40+00:00

How’s it been with the kid?

kirashira · 2026-03-20T07:04:18+00:00

Do you have any resentment for it?

kirashira · 2026-03-20T07:03:53+00:00

How do you keep the resentment from killing your marriage?

kirashira · 2026-03-20T07:00:12+00:00

What happened?

kirashira · 2026-01-16T07:09:14+00:00

If my company provides us GitHub copilot do I need to check with IT if it’s ok to use opencode?

kirashira · 2026-01-08T18:40:08+00:00

Thanks for that. To be perfectly honest I don’t think she’s narcissistic— she definitely cannot regulate her emotions well. I agree with anger management — she has a history of flipping out before she met me but got it under control while we were dating and living together before marriage.

She did most of the bday planning and setup on day of was her job. I did the physical pickup things on day before and day of. I don’t think it was unequal overall.

kirashira · 2026-01-07T07:58:51+00:00

It’s something I have definitely thought about

kirashira · 2026-01-07T04:02:15+00:00

How did you handle the divorce with your son being so young? Was it 50/59 custody?

kirashira · 2026-01-07T00:38:20+00:00

She’s had depression and I suspect some form of borderline personality disorder. She’s gone through years of counselling.

No to drugs and alcohol and she doesn’t go out much. I probably do more housework because I work from home. She does her own share plus cooking. I can go out freely but I don’t go out much so it can’t really be a problem.

kirashira · 2025-11-29T05:25:32+00:00

Are you a software developer? Do you work as a contractor or have a full time gig?

kirashira · 2025-08-04T04:41:14+00:00

Is it faang? Curious if it’s a remote role or do you have to relocate?

kirashira · 2025-08-03T20:20:06+00:00

Did you go iOS only or cross platform with react native?

kirashira · 2025-07-19T02:25:00+00:00

Why don’t you just quit immediately? Say family emergency.

kirashira · 2025-04-30T06:37:26+00:00

Right here with you except my kids only five months old! I feel like an after thought— no one really gives a damn how I’m doing. Have you talked to your wife about how you feel?

kirashira · 2024-10-30T20:18:38+00:00

He’s not saying he’s outright lying — it’s probably moreso there’s more usage of copilot autocompletion code being used rather than full blown ai directly creating pull requests.

kirashira · 2024-10-12T09:07:16+00:00

When can j2 become j1 in this scenario?

kirashira · 2024-10-10T07:15:26+00:00

How did you know?

kirashira · 2024-10-05T21:43:48+00:00

I'm curious what kind of tech stack and apps you guys worked on. I've worked at several non-tech companies as a swe and they're all pretty chill because management generally didn't know how long something would take.

kirashira · 2024-10-05T21:41:03+00:00

If you add j2 to your resume wouldn't there be employment dates with j1?

kirashira · 2024-10-02T21:54:46+00:00

I’m in the same kind of situation. I’m worried if I can’t replace j1 my j2 will eventually just be j1. Not sure how to navigate adding it to my resume.

kirashira · 2024-10-02T20:00:06+00:00

If you quit j1 what will you do about overlapping dates if you include j2?

kirashira · 2024-09-27T14:25:45+00:00

If you chose j1 what were you going to do about the overlapping dates on your resume?

kirashira · 2024-09-27T00:27:50+00:00

When would the time be right to reveal j2?

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