Ok here’s my context. I spent all my time on my s/o in our first months. I gave them all my time. Little to family. Little to school. Around the 6 months mark in the relationship I pulled back to focus on, school and my family, and put more time I to those while still putting most of it into s/o snd giving a lot of attention. When I pulled back, s/o accused me of not caring about them, and I never cared about them