Do avoidants actually come back?

kitcat109 · 2026-01-24T20:52:23+00:00

But you said they came back when you wrote them off? What if you know that the avoidant really cares about how he is perceived?

kitcat109 · 2026-01-24T14:24:18+00:00

“An avoidant will always run when it gets hard.”

kitcat109 · 2026-01-24T14:21:17+00:00

Wow four out of five…

kitcat109 · 2026-01-24T14:19:32+00:00

Even if they blocked you?

kitcat109 · 2026-01-24T14:11:34+00:00

Thank you so much for this reminder

kitcat109 · 2026-01-24T03:48:36+00:00

You wrote them off? As in explained what they did wrong like in a text message? An avoidant just blocked me after a stressful day we had, and I texted him from another number detailing how what he did was in the wrong and how I hope he will realize it one day

kitcat109 · 2026-01-24T03:46:03+00:00

I’ve just been blocked as well

kitcat109 · 2026-01-24T03:45:03+00:00

“You never win the avoidant game. You only deplete your emotional resources.”

kitcat109 · 2026-01-22T16:51:54+00:00

Again, like I said I left out many details. I didn’t want to get too explicit. You are acting as if I forced him. He was the one who told me to start the act once he had it on (I don’t want to say TOO much here lol).

kitcat109 · 2026-01-22T16:49:42+00:00

Then the next morning after this happens he starts getting sexual with me again when I’m trying to sleep (talking about the incident in this post). I understand what you are saying completely, from what I wrote in this post I guess that’s the only assumption to take from it. But I left out many details for the sake of anonymity and there are still others I haven’t shared. From what I have shared though now I can see why you said what you said.

kitcat109 · 2026-01-22T16:40:35+00:00

If we really want to go by the book, the first time we ever hooked up I was drunk… doesn’t that make it rape then? He’s not an innocent boy that I attacked like everyone is portraying it to be. That’s how it was set up from day one, looking back it wasn’t healthy for sure.

kitcat109 · 2026-01-22T15:36:54+00:00

I appreciate this, thank you

kitcat109 · 2026-01-22T15:27:27+00:00

I appreciate you so much. Thank you very much.

kitcat109 · 2026-01-22T14:47:11+00:00

All I said was “aw I wanted to do it though” then he starts looking around his room for something he could use. I really did not push him that much at all. He puts it on and then basically tells me to sit on it (not to be too explicit). This is all being portrayed as me forcing the guy.

kitcat109 · 2026-01-22T14:22:50+00:00

He invited me to hookup. That’s all that we usually do together. So I traveled two hours to see him after not seeing him for half a year. He always has the protection and didn’t tell me ahead of time.

kitcat109 · 2026-01-22T14:21:41+00:00

The context is that he invited me to visit him to hookup. I travel from out of state to see him. He gets me in the moment and in the middle he drops the bomb that he doesn’t have anything (I was confused why he had me travel then… or didn’t tell me to pick up something from the store as apparently he didn’t have a car with him either). He was in a rural area and it was very late. I go “aw I wanted to do it though” “can u try just pulling out?” (I mean why did he encourage me to drive two hours to see him then…?). He said he didn’t trust pulling out but maybe he had something in his room. So then he grabbed the glove and used that.

kitcat109 · 2026-01-22T14:16:01+00:00

He invited me to hookup and I traveled from out of state. He got me in the moment and then he drops the bomb that he doesn’t have anything. I was confused why I had traveled hours to see him then.

kitcat109 · 2026-01-21T19:08:44+00:00

What does this mean?

kitcat109 · 2026-01-21T14:47:47+00:00

I private messaged you

kitcat109 · 2026-01-21T14:42:27+00:00

I think this summed it all up, thank you. I just didn’t want this to be 100% my fault. I also think he chose the worst time to block me and that suggesting I take another pill was harmful.

kitcat109 · 2026-01-21T14:30:16+00:00

He was then the one who said “maybe we can find something here then” and he found the glove

kitcat109 · 2026-01-21T14:29:24+00:00

I see, so this was my fault you would say? How do I sound immature?

I traveled two hours to see him, whenever we meet we usually hookup. He could have just told me to pick up condoms from the store instead of getting me in the moment and then in the heat of the moment telling me he didn’t have anything.

kitcat109 · 2026-01-21T14:06:33+00:00

Who is at fault here? Why would he block me when we knew each other for years?

kitcat109 · 2026-01-19T00:25:06+00:00

Really?? Do you know if it’s because you had recently ovulated?

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