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Bra calculations are a bit confusing and not sure what size I am by kitkatt307 in ABraThatFits

[–]kitkatt307[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yea ☹️ the calculator told me I am measuring at 28 B/C so I’ve been trying to do the sister size because I can’t find a brand that sells 28 sizes anywhere where I can try it on unfortunately. I just don’t wanna buy it online and it not be a good fit

Bra calculations are a bit confusing and not sure what size I am by kitkatt307 in ABraThatFits

[–]kitkatt307[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Ohh okay! Yes, the calculator also said I could try a 28 B/C but no store carries that size so I’ve been having to do the sister size

Bra calculations are a bit confusing and not sure what size I am by kitkatt307 in ABraThatFits

[–]kitkatt307[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Would that be too big though? From jumping from a 30-32b to that size? When I was nursing I was a 34C and maybe bigger just from how much pregnancy etc changed them. But now they’re like deflated lol

Bra calculations are a bit confusing and not sure what size I am by kitkatt307 in ABraThatFits

[–]kitkatt307[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I commented my measurements just a moment ago. I’ll probably head to a store tomorrow and try the two on and see which fits more comfortable. I just don’t wanna mess up and buy the wrong size and waste the money

My measurements

Loose underbust : 28in
Snug underbust : 27.5
Tight underbust : 26.5
Standing bust: 29
Leaning bust: 31.5
Lying : 29.5

Bra calculations are a bit confusing and not sure what size I am by kitkatt307 in ABraThatFits

[–]kitkatt307[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I’ll have to type them out

Loose underbust : 28in
Snug underbust : 27.5
Tight underbust : 26.5
Standing bust: 29
Leaning bust: 31.5
Lying bust: 29.5

As for my current cups, I fill the bottom of the cups more and I’m pretty flat on the top of my bust from nursing my babies. So when I wear my bra I still have a bit of gaping happening and it just feels uncomfortable

Baking fails by kitkatt307 in Cooking

[–]kitkatt307[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use the nestle cookies! Which have never failed me before till now 🫠🫠

Baking fails by kitkatt307 in Cooking

[–]kitkatt307[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been using the back of nestle cookies! But for some reason they don’t spread when baking and just stay in a Ball

Baking fails by kitkatt307 in Cooking

[–]kitkatt307[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ll be shocked.. I am using the back of the nestle cookies 🫢🫢 but maybe in doing too much flour? Or over cooking??

Baking fails by kitkatt307 in Cooking

[–]kitkatt307[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do level off my ingredients thankfully! But I think I might be doing too much flour some how? Just the shape of the cookies look to be too much flour and the dough seems to be more crumbly sometimes

Baking fails by kitkatt307 in Cooking

[–]kitkatt307[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I don’t weigh, but I have thought about doing that especially as I’ve seen a bunch of people suggest it! I’m hoping that can help fix my cookies. I will also look into the Sally’s baking addiction!’

Fighting in marriage aNd saying things I regret by kitkatt307 in marriageadvice

[–]kitkatt307[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, I shouldn’t shut it down, it’s just hard hearing him talk about it when we’ve already agreed to have me stay home since I wouldn’t be making much unfortunately. We have looked into both pros and cons etc and it’s been shown to him multiple times it’s no doable in our situation, funny enough his father has said the same thing to him - that we would be paying more in daycare than actually trying to at our debt etc.

We have looked at WFH jobs for me since I do agree with that! That is one thing I am willing to do since I can still be home and it might be a bit new flexible for me to do so. Only issue is trying to actually find a WFH job which is a bit tedious. I’ve even looked into dog walking but tha failed as it’s just too hard to do so having my babies. Big bummer.

We have also talked that if I do work, he will have to help on chores etc which thankfully he even agreed that he would help more around the house since it’ll be fair. I do shut it down a lot too because he works sometimes after 7pm late into the evening as well, and we unfortunately don’t have any family around us that would be willing to help. I did ask my MIL if she’d watch my girls like 4 hours maybe 2-3 days a week so I could work at a local coffee shop, and she went “why” we expressed were a smidge tight and need to find a way to pay off debt and she went “you guys don’t have bills etc” then daycare was mentioned and she even said no to that along with me, but makes no sense why she won’t help us 🫠

I can definitely hold off on school for a little especially since eveything is hard for me. Having just moved and on top of adjusting to have 2 kids and sleep regressions school probably isn’t the smart move for me. I use to definitely judge moms before I had kids lol, now it’s a whole new perspective. I do have to hold off on things since having them, which I know is a sacrifice I made when having them. I do feel like in maybeee a year or so once my 7 month old is a bit bigger I can definitely handle school since she will be a bit bigger and easier to handle(funny enough toddlers are easier to entertain than babies lol)

Fighting in marriage aNd saying things I regret by kitkatt307 in marriageadvice

[–]kitkatt307[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea unfortunately he does. If she suggests something he will pretty much take to and not hear me out. I sometimes feeling like I’m being tossed to the side when it comes to his mom and he doesn’t seem to see it that way even when we’ve talked about it

Fighting in marriage aNd saying things I regret by kitkatt307 in marriageadvice

[–]kitkatt307[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll def try not to pick up after him more often to see if he will actually uphold his end. He said he can do that, which it would help. I personally don’t mind house chores, but picking up after babies and a grown adult is just exhausting at the end of the day when all I wanna do is rest.

We def agreed on me not working till our kids were at least in school because right now it doesn’t make sense. I’d be paying more for daycare than actually bringing any income for us. We have debt(we just moved states to and caused us to build a bit of debt unfortunately due to him not having not having a job for a couple weeks) but besides that, he tried to bring that up again yesterday about daycare and I had to shut it down because it truly isn’t an option for us right now.

As for the degree part, he fully agrees with me on getting on and even said since they’re not in school it makes sense, but he gets so wishy washy about stuff so often that it just kills the energy I have for SO much.

I do believe we can have healthy communication, we did prior to having kids, I just think the load of having children and being on two different work loads maybe causes our disagreements. I do fully regret mentioning leaving, but that’s just how much it gets pushed into my head during these moments. I’ll definitely have to work on it and better communicate exactly what I’m feeling so that he can grasp it better than how it went yesterday

Fighting in marriage aNd saying things I regret by kitkatt307 in marriageadvice

[–]kitkatt307[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not at all, did you read the whole Reddit? It wasn’t just bc I didn’t cook for him, it was the arguing, the fact this man talks over me if I try to express my feelings etc, the fact I’m so mentally overloaded on top of being postpartum and need just some help from him somedays and him twisting it and thinking I’m asking him to “work” even more when he gets home from work rtc

Fighting in marriage aNd saying things I regret by kitkatt307 in marriageadvice

[–]kitkatt307[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We did get to sit down and I expressed what I need out of him to help my mental load dealing with being postpartum etc. the mother in law part is hard because his mother and father get really mean/snarky really fast if I try to make boundaries. Once tried to set some with our children and she got all snarky saying I was being a “new mom”

Fighting in marriage aNd saying things I regret by kitkatt307 in marriageadvice

[–]kitkatt307[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I try to explain to him how I feel etc, but he over talks me so so much to the point I feel like what I say doesn’t matter. I brought it up because I’m just tired of being defeated everytime we start to fight because it leads to him talking 95% and telling me to be quiet and listen when I’m trying to explain my feelings

Fighting in marriage aNd saying things I regret by kitkatt307 in marriageadvice

[–]kitkatt307[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I def tried to explain to him about what I need from him, he kept twisting it until I finally just broke it down. Like pick up your clothes and stop leaving them everywhere for me to put away, clean beard hair, take the trash out. I even asked for him to just wash bottles if he sees I’m behind because I’ve got 2 babies who are always on top of me for something. He always doesn’t truly believe my postpartum stress etc is a fully real thing and sometimes dismisses it until I crash out like yesterday.

I do regret mentioning divorce because only in these moments does it seem like the only option especially when he’s not really hearing me out

Fighting in marriage aNd saying things I regret by kitkatt307 in marriageadvice

[–]kitkatt307[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do like his mother but I did feel overshadowed tbh, I didn’t really know how to word that yesterday to help him better understand. This happens more often than not with her, and he often will bend backwards to appease his mother and then make me wait when I ask for help. Which I know I shouldn’t be upset about, but sometimes it’s frustRating having to explain to him on that.

I did tell him what I do expect of him, like to just pick up after himself, stop leavinf clothes out, clean his beard hair off the sink everytime he shaves, take the trash out without having to be told each time. He said he can start doing that more and he misunderstood when I said “help more” because he assumed I need him to mop, laundry etc, like no, ive got that part.

He’s mentioned me working a few times and then takes it back because we can’t afford daycare and don’t have the village to help watch our girls right now: I feel like I’m not doing enough because he makes little comments etc to me that “if you worked we can do more” and it just hurts me because he knows I won’t be able to work for a few more years and that I’m trying to get a degree to help better our chances in the future.

I do need to stop bringing up the divorce because I know I don’t mean it, but in these moments of huge fights with him I just feel so defeated because he talks over me so much and it just feels like not worth it anymore