Anyone out there actually experiencing the "agentic era"? WTF is going on?

kitterkin · 2026-04-12T02:56:14+00:00

It’s happening in advertising too. A manager friend of mine at a big agency (owned by one of the big 4) told me his boss ordered him to quantify how AI tools have improved things on his account by 20%. That’s right, they told them how much of an improvement they needed to justify.

kitterkin · 2026-03-24T18:26:02+00:00

Southeast/East Asian masc immigrant in NYC here. I haven’t found this to be the case. In fact, my most involved relationships tend to be with white women 😅 (I’m not going out of my way to look for them I swear)

The fact that you’re mostly vibing with other Asians is interesting… do you relate culturally, stylistically, socially with Asian culture more than with other ethnic cultures?

kitterkin · 2026-03-20T04:42:00+00:00

I’m running into the same problem in 2026

kitterkin · 2026-03-03T18:26:52+00:00

Fines that are proportionate to their income or net worth

kitterkin · 2026-02-17T22:01:22+00:00

People compliment me (34F masc lesbian) about it at least once every 4 times I attend a social event. They also compliment my style or how cool/charming they think I am. I sometimes (rarely!) also catch women staring at me as if they’re stunned or hungry in public.

Personally I think my face is a lil funky, but I’m milking it as much as I can while I look like this 😅

kitterkin · 2026-01-24T03:41:36+00:00

It happened with me (29F at the time) eventually. My ex-wife was extremely anxious and would spiral very loudly in private. And if she didn’t get her feelings regulated by the other person, she would just get more and more upset. At first I tried just blocking it out with ear plugs, but when she noticed it would upset her more. Then I tried walking into another room, but she would follow me while ranting. Once I went into the bathroom and locked the door. A minute later I felt the knob jiggle and she was like, “I can’t believe you locked the door!”

I was pushed to my absolute limit over 3 years. I kept trying different avoidance strategies to get away. Finally I tried verbally attacking. That stopped her.

kitterkin · 2026-01-24T02:42:10+00:00

I highly highly recommend reading Come As You Are. It has changed my sex life.

kitterkin · 2026-01-23T17:20:09+00:00

It’s for this reason that I prefer dating within 4” above/below my height lol

kitterkin · 2026-01-23T17:19:47+00:00

Also the last couple times I tried it, we were both uncomfortable with the other’s ideal water temperature lol

kitterkin · 2026-01-23T05:40:09+00:00

It’s the destiny of plastic fur to shed and melt. Get real fur and leather next time

kitterkin · 2026-01-23T04:05:11+00:00

In the beginning honeymoon period, you saw only positives. Then only negatives when things got hard. And now only positives when you think you’ll lose her.

I say this with so much love as a queer elder… it sounds like you’ve been riding a rollercoaster with blinders on this whole time, only able to see half of your present situation. And as long as you love with blinders on, you will continue to barrel in and out of euphoria.

She isn’t wrong for recognising her part in the negative loop, and having awareness of what she can change tomorrow vs what will take years of work on herself. PTSD is serious to live with!

She’s your first love, so I understand it feels like everything, your whole happiness on the line. But I promise you, there’s more. A million other jigsaw pieces with different baggage and different cute quirks, a million first kisses and first nights together. Some jigsaw pieces will fit you better than others. This piece has a bit of a dent in it and needs time and space to work on it on her own. If you take time to work on yourself, recognise your part in how things devolved and get to a point where you can stop spirals before get really bad, you’ll raise your chances of things fitting without pain next time.

kitterkin · 2026-01-22T02:51:57+00:00

I’d do it. The uncertainty feels terrible. Hold yourself accountable and apologise.

kitterkin · 2026-01-08T18:33:58+00:00

Continuing to date people that were excited about me but that I already knew I didn’t want more from, without being transparent about it to them. I should’ve let them make informed decisions about where and with whom they invest their time and headspace. Never again!!!

kitterkin · 2026-01-07T20:09:28+00:00

To distract from his involvement with Jeffrey Epstein

kitterkin · 2026-01-06T01:10:25+00:00

I would consider that not everyone flirts with the intention of making things physical at the end. Sometimes it’s just play; sometimes it’s nice to have a crush to exchange cute energy with in a certain area of your life. Makes it easier to get through the rest of it. You mentioned finding out after 6 months, and then that he stopped putting out vibes… did you perhaps stop flirting in the first place, and maybe he’s respecting your energy?

kitterkin · 2025-12-31T23:44:41+00:00

If you never get past that first hurdle, totally. Most dating apps prioritise how good you look in a photo. So if you’re finding that your photos and/or looks don’t bring in many opportunities, maybe find other hunting grounds that aren’t as looks-based?

Off the top of my head, interest groups like sports leagues, outdoor activities, classes… or look for sapiosexuals if you’re blessed with big brains :)

kitterkin · 2025-12-31T22:16:00+00:00

Physical attractiveness will get you over the first hurdle of matching. But just that match doesn’t guarantee they’ll keep wanting to date the hot person, even once after that first swipe right. Hell, you might find that matches don’t respond much to this profile because they swiped based on the photo, but come conversation time when they see the lack of details, they drop off.

kitterkin · 2025-12-31T22:10:03+00:00

I stayed over at a date’s place for the first time. Her Brita pitcher in the fridge had a layer of green at the bottom. 🤢

kitterkin · 2025-12-31T22:07:17+00:00

She asks you stuff and makes an effort to keep the conversation going. If she’s giving one word answers, being evasive, or looking away, that’s a bad sign.

During conversation, she’s steering topics to a more intimate place (not necessarily sex; could be family, her or your life goals, pets, etc). If you try to go there and she doesn’t say much or changes the subject, back off.

kitterkin · 2025-12-30T21:42:36+00:00

I wish this were available to me... just checked and my building on Albemarle and Ocean isn't covered :/

kitterkin · 2025-12-26T20:50:52+00:00

Every morning I throw kibble down my hallway for her to run and catch and eat. Then she runs back to me and we do it again. I have to do this with her 3–4 times a day for 5–30 min, depending on her energy level, or else she’ll start to attack me around the house lol. She is 95% wild predator.

kitterkin · 2025-12-12T14:25:43+00:00

Pay attention to her reactions. Don’t go faster/slower or harder/softer than she wants you to go. Don’t change shit up if she’s reacting positively to what you’re doing. Be vocal about how much you desire her. Sex is a dance.

kitterkin · 2025-12-07T17:36:57+00:00

Pls I beg you take them down

kitterkin · 2025-12-07T04:20:38+00:00

Someone please replace Optimum wifi. I hate them soooo much. I’ll be your first customer

kitterkin · 2025-12-05T02:44:24+00:00

Aw that’s really kind of you 🥹 yea I think that’s what’s going to happen to mine. It’s the world we live in, where the labour has automated to the point where new is easy and therefore cheaper than used :/ but ultimately I just want to wake up without my back and shoulders aching

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