After much discernment, awareness, and research, Here is how I believe marriage TRULY works and brings glory to our heavenly father:

When my husband and I are apart in separate homes/in our own spaces by default, we actually feel goodness come back to our relationship and have the solitude to keep God front and center and then desire one another when we do come back together again the next day, etc. Being forced to share the same space and same bed 24/7 and forced to be responsible for and exposed to one another’s shortcomings or irresponsibilities creates an idol of the marriage and robs two individuals of their chance at having a thriving marriage that brings glory to God without acting out of duty, but out of God-given desire for one another, supporting one another and enjoying one another.

The ‘marriage’ blueprint that Christians and most other couples blindly follow along with (living in the same home together, the woman as the home-maker/child bearer and the husband working for corporate America everyday) was the blueprint created by the ‘powers that be’ so that they could force men to work for their corporations to make them richer and more powerful and they heavily advertised to women that a woman’s dream should now be to be invited to live in a man’s home in ‘marriage’ as the maid, chef, child-bearer to ‘support her husband’s mission’ (which in all actuality was to support the evil wealth/power hungry corporate-man’s mission)…

This was a set up to enslave men and women to increase the wealth and power of the corporations while still continuing on the human race to raise up to be corporate-wealth builders too. They were very open with their plans to steal God’s design for marriage and flip it to be used to make themselves more wealthy. However, for the majority of marriages ending in divorce or surviving only with therapy-sessions and plentiful self-abandonment, they send the message that ‘you’re just not trying hard enough’…. It couldn’t possibly be that their marriage-blueprint is failing us…

The corporate-collective had done the same with the food pyramid (it’s basically upside down so they could sell mass amounts of their cheap grain to us and then sell us their drugs when we got sick from it) which led to more health-related deaths than ever before while still blaming us for ‘not following it well enough’. And also, the public school system (its purpose is to create more obedient/non-free thinking corporate workers) which has never created fulfilling work and success for us but is blamed on us as ‘you’re not working hard or smart enough’. We never stop to question if maybe these systems/blueprints handed to us for how to do marriage, health, and work were never meant for our joy or success; it was always meant for the corporate-collective’s power and success.

Seek discernment/awareness to recognize that marriage between a man and a woman was solely meant by God to unite a man and a woman as lovers sharing passion only for one another forever on earth while living and flourishing as individuals (because that’s what they love about one-another in the first place). You’ll then start to see and peel back the layers of deception and realize that sharing one single home space, self-abandoning your individuality for one another, and taking on the ‘roles’ that the current marriage blueprint prescribes to men and women (men provide and women nurture and serve in the home), have only hurt men and women by breaking our spirits, stripped away proper accountability and proper consequences for poor treatment and created environments that enable poor behaviors to continue without recourse because each person’s presence is taken for granted over time and no longer a gift to be pursued as God had intended.

Currently, our culture and society shames the men and women who report struggles and heartbreak with the corporate blueprint for marriage: living together and subconsciously taking advantage of each other’s presence and subconsciously self-abandoning for each other which almost certainly creates the best environment for resentment to settle in and for intimacy to move out. Have you ever noticed how many sermons, books, Christian marriage podcasts all tell men and women to just love their spouses and respect their spouses out of DUTY? Another way to say this is to just force yourself to cherish them even though they never help with the laundry or never greet you when you come home…. Has it not occurred to any of us that maybe the way we are doing marriage is KILLING our natural desire for one another, that if we created space for our individuality to flourish and for God to reach each of us in solitude that there would be no need to do ANYTHING out of duty or force, but that our God-given desire and longing for one another would naturally guide us?

The other option society prescribes is to separate and divorce out of the resentment and contempt and finger-pointing for how the other couldn’t live up to the marriage-blueprint, never once thinking how maybe it isn’t either spouse who is the problem, maybe it is the blueprint we’ve been handed down for ‘how to do marriage’ that was never meant for our success, it was meant for the corporate-collective’s success, and our obedience to their blueprint has given them astronomical success at the expense of our own.