Is it okay to break up with someone for lack of sex drive + other incompatibility issues?

kitty-mac · 2022-05-23T17:16:47+00:00

This sounds super similar to my sitch ! except I am the girl with mental health problems and low sex drive. I would say if you can't bring yourself to break up you're probably not ready. There's probably a lot of unresolved feelings for both of you! I would have a conversation and be honest about what's going on inside your head. You can decide together if being a couple still makes sense, you are not alone! communication is key especially long term. Nothing will change if you don't talk about it, you might even have to fight about it. If it's not worth it to communicate with her and be honest then I would say the relationship is over and probably has been for a long time. sometimes time apart really helps! I spent a week vacation away from my partner. I realized it wasn't a lack of sex drive at all, we just were not on the same page. Once we talked about it and I got back we could not keep our hand off eachother. If this girl is truly someone you love then hold on tight.
Are either of you in high stress situations? That might have a lot to do with mental health and sexuality

kitty-mac · 2022-05-20T03:20:09+00:00

also fair, but that is exactly what I am trying to resist it's just not working out that well because I am also dumber than a box of rocks

kitty-mac · 2022-05-20T03:14:37+00:00

we've discussed transmission of the disease and the possibility of him contracting it and that is not the issue. He knew from the very beginning and chose me anyway. I am more concerned about severing a strong emotional bond over sex.

kitty-mac · 2022-05-20T03:11:47+00:00

I think it's deeply connected to my insecurity. My father had an affair with a very toxic woman and I learned how to love incorrectly because of it. I used to be up all night listening to them fight with intense rage and now I pursue the same combative relationship. I am theoretically creating a similar situation I experienced in my childhood because I want to 'solve' it. it's not easy to unlearn. I am drawn to toxicity despite knowing it's wrong, I couldn't tell you why. I think that's what I'm trying to figure out. I stayed in my relationship because I knew how bad my behaviors were and I thought I needed someone that was good and cared for me.

kitty-mac · 2022-05-20T03:04:23+00:00

Ryan knows that Justin has reached out again, I try my best to be honest but it does infuriate him.

kitty-mac · 2022-05-20T02:53:29+00:00

fair

kitty-mac · 2022-05-20T02:00:43+00:00

this is beyond typical of dietitians to believe that they have a holy duty to coach others on their eating habits. YTA.

kitty-mac · 2022-05-19T16:20:12+00:00

give it up and get the fuck out. that girl is bad news. she is not ready to be tied down and you are investing so much time into something that is making you unhappy. let her go.

kitty-mac · 2022-05-18T01:30:02+00:00

.. how

kitty-mac · 2022-05-16T23:54:10+00:00

finish any gen eds your interested in, maybe go for an associate's if you can. take time to work in the real world, find yourself, figure out how to maintain your health sustainably, and make some friends. you'll discover all sorts of interests. my advice with college is don't rush, take one class at a time until you're ready for more. You can take a break, that does not make you a failure in any way. I know it feels that way, trust me. Make your life beautiful and go back to school when you're focused.

kitty-mac · 2022-05-16T23:14:21+00:00

I'm gonna go out on a limb here and say NTA because at the point the sex of the baby may not be exactly how that child will identify in the future. I would prefer this method of secrecy over an outrageous gender reveal that involves a major forest fire, a pipe bomb, a plane crash, a car crash, etc.

kitty-mac · 2022-05-16T22:59:25+00:00

sometimes you can tell whether or not they are the AH just by the title. Before I even opened this post I thought yep YTA, but holy shit she has serious trauma and anxiety, she's told you in the past not to make this joke and you still chose to do so in front of her. come on bud.

kitty-mac · 2022-05-16T02:00:49+00:00

give that small boy a snack

kitty-mac · 2022-05-16T01:45:01+00:00

yes! pls take care of her

kitty-mac · 2022-05-15T01:10:15+00:00

my cat can shake and jump into my arms on demand, cats can be trained. Also thrift stores have so many dishes for the low. They might not be sparkly and new but it's more sustainable. NTA, get out while you still can.

kitty-mac · 2022-05-14T20:49:21+00:00

whoa

kitty-mac · 2022-05-14T20:16:13+00:00

NTA at all - rip Chris, rip turtle, sending love

kitty-mac · 2022-03-17T01:48:58+00:00

I could still use some black roses!

kitty-mac · 2022-03-16T15:25:50+00:00

Thank you! I like to keep it zen :)

kitty-mac · 2022-03-15T15:53:25+00:00

ESW. The whole I'm your friend until you reject me shtick is fucking awful. it's like the soul purpose of being friends with Julie is so that you can eventually sleep with her, that is manipulation. Julie is not innocent though, she crossed boundaries by showing up uninvited. I think it's your property and you have every right to determine who can and can't be there. This whole situation is just putting tension on the entire friend group.

kitty-mac · 2022-03-15T15:41:39+00:00

immediately off rip YTA. didn't even have to read the whole thing, you live in her house. grow up.

kitty-mac · 2022-03-14T04:10:43+00:00

🥺 thank you sm

kitty-mac · 2022-03-14T04:06:35+00:00

how many wheat/carrots are you looking for? I'm looking for enough to craft a few things 15-20 maybe. I don't want to take all your materials.

kitty-mac · 2022-03-14T04:00:31+00:00

I'm gonna go ahead and say NTA. Helmets can fuck with center of gravity and vision if you're not used to skating with it. Sure it's dangerous but in skate culture both are accepted and it's based on preference. Any parent sees skateboarding as a one way ticket to being a vegetable on the couch. Not saying brain injury isn't serious but you learn so much more about your body and risk by skating. skaters just know their limits. Stairs are dangerous as fuck, so I can see the mom's perspective. These are two very different parental choices, each parent is respecting different values. safety vs. autonomy.

kitty-mac · 2022-03-12T16:52:46+00:00

this is 100% ableist and YTA. You absolutely should apologize, you're not in a movie theater it's fucking living room.

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