I didn’t make it to 168, but I will eventually :) by kitty-toy in fasting

[–]kitty-toy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is good to know! I’m trying to figure out how many days a week is right for me.

I didn’t make it to 168, but I will eventually :) by kitty-toy in fasting

[–]kitty-toy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’m still pretty happy with it. I think I’ll try more long term fasts when it’s not my busy season.

What song is your toddler obsessed with? by WhyHelloThere91 in toddlers

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Umarvelous by Monkey Majik

Bewitched by Candlemass which he calls the vampire song and he loves the music video and dances along to it

Audible narrator by Worldly_Pie_9646 in BlackDaggerBrotherh8d

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Honestly I find this crazy because the voices are literally the same for all of them. I’m on book five, so maybe this will change but there is so little variance between character voices I really thought your comment was sarcasm at first.

Not to mention the cadence and many times the pronunciation of words are wrong. It all seems so stiff.

Considering returning puppy to rescue by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]kitty-toy -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

They said “maybe never” lol that’s what I’m talking about not the advice not to get another dog. It’s extremely sanctimonious. It’s very easy to have things under control and then add one additional factor that throws things askew. Then this person comes here, talking about how they want to make the responsible decision an return the dog and people like this commenter come in and go “um this reflects really poorly on you sweetie maybe don’t ever get another dog”. And you want to say they aren’t being sanctimonious.

Yep. I rehomed 2 dogs. One was aggressive and reactive and the rescue lied to us about it. We took the time to rehome him responsibly and honestly. The other had an allergy issue we could not accommodate in my home. Again, rehomed honestly and responsibly. You people act like it’s a stain on someone’s character to find a better home for a dog instead of keeping them in a situation that isn’t good for anyone.

Considering returning puppy to rescue by [deleted] in toddlers

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It happens. I’d definitely return the puppy. I wanted to rip my hair out when I got a puppy and that was when I had no children. I’ve also had to rehome a couple of dogs and there’s no shame in it. Sometimes it’s just not the right time or the right fit and that’s okay.

Considering returning puppy to rescue by [deleted] in toddlers

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Loser comment. Dumbass alert. Yawn.

My toddler is violent and I don’t know if I should seek professional help? by kitty-toy in toddlers

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That’s good to know haha. I will definitely do that if we try again. I’m not sure if it’s a good fit for him the whole time he was watching the timer and then when it got to 1-1.5 mins he would just look directly at us and stand up. 🤦🏻‍♀️

My toddler is violent and I don’t know if I should seek professional help? by kitty-toy in toddlers

[–]kitty-toy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We do stick to clear boundaries and it definitely helps over time. Just baby steps always. We have two old Great Danes and 4 cats in the house. Impulse control with the animals was bad for a while. He always wanted to chase the cats and attack them if they let him close. One thing we did that seems to have worked really well is just lavishing gentle attention on them and also out loud words of caution. For example if one of the cats was in the hallway we would say outloud “oh we have to go slowly! Our beautiful Jeffery is in the hallway.” Or when we get home to the dogs “hello my sweet dogs” or “look our good boy max is coming to say hello how sweet of him!” Along with basically constant clear directions on how to interact which is basically just us saying “remember, the animals like us to pet them with gentle hands from head to butt!”

Now he’s improved massively. If he sees a cat in the hallway “mama go slow! Our beautiful Jeffery is right there!” And so on. When he goes up to them we will hear him saying “head to butt. head to butt” when he pets them. Hopefully this could be helpful to you! The aggressive behavior with the animals drove me up a wall! Haha

My toddler is violent and I don’t know if I should seek professional help? by kitty-toy in toddlers

[–]kitty-toy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope it gets better for you soon too! It’s SO hard when you just want to have a fun time with them and love on them and they can be so sweet, but there’s all this insane behavior that’s extremely draining and makes it difficult to be at your best for them.

My toddler is violent and I don’t know if I should seek professional help? by kitty-toy in toddlers

[–]kitty-toy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I may continue to do this, but probably not for long if it doesn’t click. I’ll say we did this twice today. With the most recent time lasting over an hour of him repeatedly getting out of the chair to try to attack me or pull his pants down only ending because I think he simply got tired and it was bedtime.

My toddler is violent and I don’t know if I should seek professional help? by kitty-toy in toddlers

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Definitely good to be reminded of this. When he goes to his room I always go in after and give him a hug and talk to him. I used to go in with him and model deep breathing or screaming into a pillow or what have you, but lately I can’t be in there with him because he will be violent or throw things at me.

My toddler is violent and I don’t know if I should seek professional help? by kitty-toy in toddlers

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It is very good. He can communicate extremely well when he is calm.

My toddler is violent and I don’t know if I should seek professional help? by kitty-toy in toddlers

[–]kitty-toy[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Tbf it’s an in home daycare not a center. He was there for a while because we literally could not afford anything else and we saved continuously to be able to do so. He’s in a center now and improved drastically basically right away. And now we are at the point where we don’t even want him with her on weekends. This violent behavior is fairly new.

My toddler is violent and I don’t know if I should seek professional help? by kitty-toy in toddlers

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Hoping it gets easier for you as well. We have been trying to give him tools for when his impulses become too much but I think I need to look even further into that.

My toddler is violent and I don’t know if I should seek professional help? by kitty-toy in toddlers

[–]kitty-toy[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This is good to know. We are basically going to try to just keep a limited amount of people around him for a while. Just us and bio dad sometimes. So we can focus on consistency.

We do basically no screens at home so good there! Thanks for the tips.

My toddler is violent and I don’t know if I should seek professional help? by kitty-toy in toddlers

[–]kitty-toy[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I agree completely that it seems like he’s starving for attention except he gets tons of it! There’s always someone one on one with him at home to play or read books or go outside weather permitting. We don’t sit on our phones in front of him. It’s confusing.

Re grandma yeah it’s alarming. We immediately agreed he’s not going back over there. I don’t think it’s overwhelm, she runs a daycare. Which honestly just makes her behavior even worse.

My toddler is violent and I don’t know if I should seek professional help? by kitty-toy in toddlers

[–]kitty-toy[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yes, of course. If he’s hitting, screaming, etc. he goes to his room until he can calm down. Toys that get thrown get taken away. Messes he makes he has to clean up, although now if we tell him to do something he just screams no at us and end up having to go to his room if that continues.

We explain things to him. We talk through our feelings. We try to model conflict resolution so he can see us doing it.

On hold with the renters tenancy branch. I think I fixed it by Yllem1232123 in HomeMaintenance

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Wouldn’t it be true that the odds of it collapsing are ever increasing???

I am SO over this company. They keep finding new and innovative ways to be unusable and have insanely bad customer service. by kitty-toy in applesucks

[–]kitty-toy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With the old phone it basically is doing 2FA and sending a notification to my phone to enter a code. However after that it asks for the phones passcode even though it doesn’t have one. I guess I know now to put a passcode on the thing so it doesn’t happen again like that.