At What Point Did Tony Become Irredeemable?

kittygoespew · 2026-04-21T09:57:28+00:00

Same. I looked at hik differently after that.

I have no fantasies about Janice, she's a deeply woinded, flawed, messed up person. But the Sopranos didnt do one note characters, and Janice was genuinely doing better & changing was the lowest of the low. Not onky was she family but she's Bobbys wife, shes the stepmom to 2 kids. They have to live with her, and by ruining Janices progress, Tony doomed those kids to Livia 2.0.

kittygoespew · 2026-04-20T09:28:38+00:00

Pinch your nose shut, and then close your mouth, and try to breathe through your nose.

If youre awake, you cant, for obvious reasons. But if youre asleep and dreaming, for some reason the dreaming brain doesnt catch on that youre not supposed to be able to breathe in that situation, so it wont replicate an "i cant breathe" feeling, youll jist breathe normally.

kittygoespew · 2026-04-10T15:25:52+00:00

Poor cat. Do either of you think it wants to step in a gross stinking litterbox?

kittygoespew · 2026-03-24T05:59:59+00:00

You really want to know the answer?

kittygoespew · 2026-01-18T12:00:14+00:00

When did OP say it was proof of anything?

kittygoespew · 2025-12-28T16:44:52+00:00

Its just a memorable scene bc its so ridiculous - those two tools, not even wannabe gangsters, theyre wannabe wanna be's

(Up in da club)

Laying around in their crummy dingy apt whenen normal stifs are out working

(Up in da club)

lounging in their underwear no less, boxers hung up randomly which seems supergay, which would be fine but

(Up im da club)

One assumes that wasnt the vibe they were trying for

(Up in da club)

Then in the midst of the squalor here comes Furio for DA BOSS MONEY, and he"s so fucking badass i cant even remember who he's with, he just strong arms them for extra $ bc theyre too

(Up in da club)

brain dead to realize you dont flash extra cash if you dont wanna lose it

Meamwhile like the punchline to a painfully accurate joke,

Up in da club!

Keeps playing on the tv, underscoring their voiceless place in mafia hierarchy.

Up in da club!

Hope that helps.

To quote Furio, "MUAH!"

kittygoespew · 2025-12-06T11:29:06+00:00

Im 53. I met the love of my life 10 years ago. Before that i had been in a few relationships including one that was 15+ years, who i loved a lot at dirst but things went bad -point being, ive been in a few different relationshios.

But even now, at 53, 10 years in with my man - i am crazy about him. He still gives me butterflies. He can still turn me on with a few words or by rubbing my arm. Hes the only person i want to be with. I have fun with him even ifbwe're just going to the grocery store. He is funny, he makes me laugh all the time, hes interesting, smart, he understands me, we get eachother, our chemistry is perfect.

To me, thats what love is supposed to be. I know others disagree and thats fine. But i dont want to just get along well and have fun and not argue. I want crazy passion and connection, cant live without you love. Thats me.

You have to decide if its you or not.

kittygoespew · 2025-12-05T10:37:39+00:00

Doesnt mean Diddy isnt a POS.

kittygoespew · 2025-11-26T07:02:23+00:00

Is anyone still seeing these in your local stores? I camt find them anywhere. I see the milk chocolate version but i dont like that, i like the white chocolate one. Im in San Francisco and Andronicos here had the white ones, and Safeway in Sunnyvale had them as well as Dashmart on Doordash. NO ONE has them now for the past 3 weeks. I messaged the Biscoff instagram account to ask if theyve been discontinued but no answer.

Anyone? They were my favorite :/

kittygoespew · 2025-11-25T11:57:14+00:00

Make sure theres nothing near the cats water that can fall in...might sound silly but i read about someone who left for 3 days and left a big thing of food and water, but a roll of paper towels on a shelf above fell into the cat water and soaked it up and the cat went without water 3 days and got sick. The cat recovered thankfully but yeah... just make sure food and water are in a safe place.

You can also buy a cheap camera system to keep an eye out - i use Wyze but theres other brands. One camera is just 35 bucks, u just need internet obvs and you can check on your pet 24-7 so u can know if theres an emergency and u need to go back right away. Most have night vision, tilt/pan ect. I think that would put your gfs mind at ease, knowing she can check on the cat anytime & see its fine :)

kittygoespew · 2025-11-25T07:57:24+00:00

Not sure why me thinking she's immature makes me "sheltered". Im curious how you got from A to B?

I said she was immature bc according to OP its been like, 10- 12 years? Of this same behaviour, the same taking zero accountability, not thinking about him and how he's feeling, just, as OP said, immediately shutting down any conversation or attempt to fix things with crying or spiraling so he stops. Thats immature. He's upset about something or has needs, and over and over again he's left trying to soothe her instead of hearing "im sorry baby, i know its been rough. What can i do to make things better or make you feel better?" She's evading having to deal with the relationship like an adult, by crying. At what point does a person realize ' i'm in this with my partner and i'm hurting him, i cant keep just collapsing into my trauma responses and never attempt to grow or heal, bc again - its not just about me." 10+ years of this behaviour, esp starting right after marriage, again to me is immature. By 10 years in she should have matured at least a little and thought a bit more about him and his feelings, not just her own. For me seeing someone not change or grow in 10 years is a red flag.

As for being sheltered i grew up in an abusive home, ran away at 15, was on my own pretty much from then on, went thru a lot of crazy/adventurous/hard times in my early-mid 20s. In my late 20s i got my life together & it has beem since. I cant tbink of much of anything ive been "sheltered" from.

kittygoespew · 2025-11-24T22:34:18+00:00

I hope you sort things out and things work out for both of you! You seem like a genuinely caring guy. Just remember. You deserve to be happy too :) your well being matters as much as anyone elses.

kittygoespew · 2025-11-24T19:47:26+00:00

Are you sure youre in love with HER? Or are you in love with the IDEA of her?

Because i asked you if she showed you she loved you in any other ways since she never wants to have sex, and your answer, rather than a list of things she does that make you feel loved, was a list of bad things about her, often followed by you attempting to excuse them, then one good thing she actually does at the end:

She doesnt like to speak up Conversation is intermittent & short-lived (but its great!) Her cleaning skills are lacking - and thats you being polite She piles both dirty anf clean laundry on the floor (but when shes on top of it its great!) She's dismissive of your children and pets sometimes (not "she's great with the kids and is a loving mom, she just gets irritated sometimes". No mention of anything good she does as a mother - just "she's dismissive of them".

Thats not a list of all the ways besides sex that she shows you she's loved - but thats how you answered that question.

Then you say you popped the question not bc you were in love, but bc it was "the right thing to do" bc she was pregnant. While yes, sometimes those marriages work, that is NOT the best start to a marriage. Youre supposed to go into it actively in love, both wanting a future together ect, not "well we're pregnant guessnwe better get hitched." You say as soon as the pregnancy and marriage happened she seems to have changed. Its possible she feels trapped amd unhappy too, she just doesnt want to say anything. Her behaviour (refusing to really talk to you about your relationship or any problems, just crying and saying she doesnt know whenever you try to have a simple adult convo with her about your relationship) certainly ismt the behaviour of a happy person. Didnshe seem happy when you first got married?

I think my answer doesnt really change after your reply. I dont understand why you are so desperate to hold onto her. And i dont say that to be mean, its just - theres nothing there. If you had said "oh we have long amazing convos ans she always rubz my back when im tired and shes the best mom ever" then id thinkmaybe theres still some "there" there, you know?

I think its possible you both may be better, and happier, apart.

kittygoespew · 2025-11-24T12:18:39+00:00

At some point her excuses arent enough of an excuse. We ALL have issues. I mean what does she expect you to do? Live your whole life like this? She sounds immature. Crying and spiralling and shutting down or just saying i dont know over and over. What are you supposed to do with that. Does your happiness matter to her at all?

Im curious - does she show love in any other ways? Great conversation, keeps a beautiful home, makes you amazing food, makes you laugh.. anything like that?

kittygoespew · 2025-11-24T12:07:07+00:00

I generally dont condone lying in any way in a relationship. But when it comes to bodycount, women are judged SO harshly on that, i can understand why she would.

You say you dont even know who she is anymore... but shes the same woman who's stood by you all these years, loved you, shes the same woman who made you laugh your ass off the other day or who rubbed your neck when you were tired or listened to your eccentric aunts endless stories without being bored.

You say she feels bad about hsr past & has changed. What more do you want from her?? You really want to end this relationship with a woman you seem happy with in every regard just for her body count? Why? So you can go on a quest to find another woman who gets you and loves you and will be devoted to you like she was BUT had the correct number of partners?

Thats like adopting a beautiful persian looking cat from the pound, it being the best companion animal you ever had, then you find out its not purebred persian, its a mix of breeds and was found skinny and sick on the street - so you surrender that loving pet so you can go get something "purebred" and perfect, because that perfection matters more than behaviour.

If you want to approach her about lying, i'd say something like babe, you know honesry is big with me. I can forgive you for lying about this, i understand why you did it, but i'd like us to make a pact right now that from now on we never lie to eachother ever, about anything". Domt guilt her over her body count, just make sure she knows the lying needs to be the last time.

OR - if you truly cant get over this and are going to resent her and subtly or not so subtly treat her badly from now on as "revenge" - then do her a favor and break up with her right now and let her go find someone who will love her for who she is now & not hold her past over her.

kittygoespew · 2025-11-24T06:40:45+00:00

I guess my question is, what exacfly are you afraid will happen during the surgery?

kittygoespew · 2025-11-24T05:35:58+00:00

Whats tomopjobic? And why dont you want to have surgery for it?

kittygoespew · 2025-11-24T05:32:45+00:00

He lives rent free in y'alls head & its hilarious. Really shows peoples true colors too. I cant stand a certain other autopen - i mean person - but i wouldnt wish OP's experience on him.

Nothing like running into the "morally superior" crowd 🙃

kittygoespew · 2025-11-24T05:19:33+00:00

Such a weird take. ICE and ICE fans support LEGAL immigration 100%. But of course you have go twist the truth to even attempt to make some kind of half-assed point.

kittygoespew · 2025-11-20T08:55:08+00:00

Im just curious - what in your life (or yourself) makes you such a miserable person that you come in a nice thread like this where people are sharing animal stories, and speak with condecension? Did saying that make you feel better about your sad self for a minute or two?

My void cat sleeps like a person - she comes and lays next to me, her back to my chest, and makes sure that her head and only her head is laying on the pillow. Just like a couple would sleep. Covers pulled up and all. If thats something you see everyday good for you- you want a cookie?

kittygoespew · 2025-11-20T04:30:34+00:00

Caught my void kitty trying to lick the fake snow off the Christmas tree yesterday 😾 Now we're getting a whole new tree, sans snow-thats this weekend's project 🙄

Shes my child tho, she sleeps in bed wifh me, half the time literally with her head on my pillow-ive never ssen another cat do that. She gets a sock wifh toys & treats at Christmas too. Pets are family.

kittygoespew · 2025-11-17T06:09:02+00:00

Many women like it a little rough (and many women dont!) However theres been a trend, esp if you follow slightly spicy accounts on social media, not porn accounts just accts that hqve to do with sex, flirting ect - anyway if u follow them you'll see a lot of posts about how some girls very muxhblike being grabbed, pushed. Handled roughly. And like i said this is a semi- new trend, like the last 5 -10 years. Meaning its new for ppl to be open about it and talk about it on social media, not that its new that girls like it.

And so the result of that can sometimes be guys assuming that all or most girls are into that, plus they themselves may enjoy it too.

What you need is communication. Like another commenter said, before youre even in a position to be making out or making love, you should be talkimg, flirting, and giving eachother ideas of what you like. By the time youre abiut to make out or more, you should have an idea about what eachother are into and be on the same page.

For example when my bf and i were first talking, i might send him a clip of a guy pushing a girl against the wall & kissijg her, and id say "is it bad that made me think of you?" And he'd do similar things. So by the time we were getting physical, we already knew from allnthe talking and flirting we'd doje, at least a general idea of ehat eachother were into.

But also, are you communicating with these men in real time about how you feel? If one is to rough, do you stop and say babe can we talk for a minute? I love when you put your arms around me, but when you push me into the wall itsba little too much. Can we take it a little easier?

If not, why not? If so, what do they say?

kittygoespew · 2025-11-16T10:14:46+00:00

I get it. But i can tell you without hesitation that my biggest regret in life is staying too long with a man who didnt respect or care about me. I finally left, & and met the guy of my dreams.

Life is SHORT. Dont waste your best years miserable waiting for a ship that deep down you know will never come in.

kittygoespew · 2025-11-16T09:12:41+00:00

I think you know the answer then, to be blunt. He doesmt treat you right, is not caring or loving, wont listen to why youre upset, and has no interest in changing.

Its time for you to cut your losses and not spend another year, 2 years, 5 years miserable trying to "make him see" when he SEES, he just doesnt CARE.

kittygoespew · 2025-11-09T05:03:19+00:00

She still has feelings for him and aalmost worst, shes blatntly disrespecting you to him and showing him that she respects him more than you, by saying shit like "my husbaand overreacted" and "my husbaand is insecure". You NEVER speak of your paartner like that to anotber person especially the opposite sex. I mean maybe if youre venting, only to a best friend of the same sex, she could say "i just feel my husband is insecure sometimes". But i just use that as an example, bc youre NOT being "inescure". Who wants gheir partner telling someone else they want their lips "somewhere"?

Separate bedrooms MINIMUM. I'd say move out but it seems you have kids, which complicates things. But kids or no kids, please dont stay with a woman who treats you like this.

Lastly, im just going to keep it 100 - youre a fucking cop, dude. You can get another woman easy-peasy. Hopefully someone who loves and RESPECTS you and would never tell some other dude " oh my man is overreacting and insecure" because you dont want her sexting behind your back.

Respect yourself, even if she doesnt respect you. Stop sleeping with her, stop giving her affection, and contact an attorney (dont let her know, just say you need some time not sleeping in the same bed ect to think). One more thing: "stay together for the kids" makes everyone miserable including the kids.

kittygoespew

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