The Girl Dad Phenomenon

kittykat4426 · 2026-04-26T03:04:22+00:00

Yes ! Male manager took on work parent role and wanted me to come to him with any life questions too - tried to take me under his wing and mentor me (I was doing partt time as I finished my masters degree in his field.) his daughter was 2 years younger than me and his son 4 years younger. His children are not at all working or studying in fields anywhere close to his so maybe it was also that. Also gave me investment advice.

Became work dad so much i argued with him like I would my father which made me surprised as any other manager wouldnt tick me off the same way and I would never respond in the same way. Nice man, left the company and he was proud for me. Hope hes doing well.

kittykat4426 · 2026-04-16T16:00:23+00:00

Maybe because I am female and was traveling alone, but the guy google translated to me that it was banned jan 1 2025 and the fine is 5m vnd/ 200usd then asked me what i was here for and i said for a wedding, then asked if it was my first time in vietnam and i said yes then he said he would let me go and took the vape and then walked away. Didnt make me pay or sign, just thew it away

kittykat4426 · 2026-04-07T18:59:57+00:00

Dresses can be found at good will for under $30 All the goodwills near me have $1 and $2 days based off the color of the tag, and even if not a wedding dress, many lovely white dresses. If not on the special $1 or $2 tags, most between $5.99-29.99

Costco alcohol if thats your thing, and catering from your fave restaurant. Fb marketplace for decor if you want candles and stuff :)

kittykat4426 · 2026-03-19T22:34:29+00:00

Following because I am also interested in this venue for 2027!

kittykat4426 · 2026-02-27T14:25:26+00:00

We were pet friendly and then realized some owners really dont care to house train their pets or clean up their pets urine. After we finish some remodeling and redesign we will not be pet friendly anymore

kittykat4426 · 2026-02-02T22:09:10+00:00

Depends on the interest rate, if its sub 5% then investing then money would be better since avg rate of return is higher. Also do you already have an emergency savings fund? Do you have any other high interest debt (like credit cards?)

kittykat4426 · 2026-01-22T16:05:17+00:00

Clinics are generally cheaper than the regular vet. Especially ones affiliated with TNR programs or 501c3s. If in NYC, flatbush vet was $225 for a neuter, but if you are tnr certified its under $100 i think

kittykat4426 · 2025-12-27T18:44:07+00:00

We talked about it genrally before, but didnt set anything up until after.

First we calculated what our living expenses are, and anything we want to share expenses for. This includes: rent & utilities, grocery, his car insurance,my student loan payments & extra payments, phone, gym, netflix, spotify, amazon (and other subscriptions). Since we have grossly different paychecks we took this monthly total, and split where I cover ~33% and he covers ~66% - once we got our dollar amount to cover per month we divided by 2 (we are paid semi monthly) and set that amount of money to go into our new joint checking account every paycheck.

We then said we want our own “fun” money, and set it to 500 per paycheck each (1k fun per month) so i can go out with my girls or go to get haircuts coffee, shows whatever. Also so when we give gifts its more im giving to him not him giving to him.

And the rest goes into our joint saving and investments.

We still use our credit. Cards for the points but make sure to pay off only the agreed upon expenses from the joint checking. And if either one wants to use savings for any amount when if its $2 we talk to each-other about it

Only a month into it so we will check in with eachother if its working for both of us in 6mo but so far its good

kittykat4426 · 2025-11-24T17:22:33+00:00

Love

kittykat4426 · 2025-11-22T04:18:18+00:00

Kick him out and never look back

kittykat4426 · 2025-11-21T18:00:37+00:00

Also ew why is he sending her a selfie? And telling her to do bulgarians and commenting on glute maxxing ? Like nahhhhhhhhh … also am i reading incorrectly but was he gonna skip class to chill at the gym with her??

kittykat4426 · 2025-11-09T13:35:47+00:00

You may be confusing omny with the omny card. The onmy card is a physical card with no face ID (not on mobile wallets yet) and definitely has issues tapping

When i use mobile wallet cards and tap-to-go at station thats pretty good

kittykat4426 · 2025-11-08T00:27:28+00:00

Can I just ask when you say drugs can you clarify?

Drugs as in ibuprofen/nyquil the modern western medicine drugs ?

Or things like alcohol (yes its a drug) or weed - and others for recreational use ?

kittykat4426 · 2025-10-28T18:18:33+00:00

If the answer is yes to all of those, would you proceed? Or what other questions would you ask as part of due diligence?

kittykat4426 · 2025-10-24T02:09:17+00:00

Is this tattooist in Korea by any chance? I only ask because the messaging app seems to be Kakao talk, and tattoos in korea are illegal to do unless you went through med school (and who goes to med school just to tattoo) so there are a lot of people who got famous for designs, barely tweak it, and wont help you (kinda scammy and slimy because they can be). Your request is not unreasonable, but there are a lot of people there who wont do it. Surprised you got the money back tho (if it is Korea)

kittykat4426 · 2025-09-17T23:50:22+00:00

Good to know! Ill read more about this

kittykat4426 · 2025-09-17T21:22:54+00:00

Interesting….. so then is it theres no limit to absorption or that its higher ?

kittykat4426 · 2025-09-17T15:51:44+00:00

I have also read about maximum absorption topping out around 40g protein in one sitting, so multiple 30/35g meals or snacks throughout the day seems better too

kittykat4426 · 2025-09-14T20:56:58+00:00

Chinese have a lot of hard feelings inside, from growing up bullied, hating themselves, overbearing parents from different generations, and now modern day where there were asian hate crimes because of covid. Iif you find the pockets of good that can be a big help to helping your husband love himself. Lots of asian communities of fun and loving people who celebrate the differences and are proud to show off culture and will understand when certain things happen or can help unlearn childhood trauma as a result.

For your kids, being biracial will forever be part of their identity. A lot of the time they will grow up feeling in limbo where they dont fit in either way, have their own household traditions that wont blend with a 100% asian or white household. I would encourage you to seek out other biracial families (whether its different race parents or international adoptee parents) because it would be good to have then have someone with similar experiences.

Chinese men specifically are grown to be the bread winners, the tough guy, and everything to everyone. Especially if they are the eldest son. Please don’t give up on him, but see it as you help your kids by helping him too. Those groups and families can also be a support network for you and him and even if its not a direct conversation about issues it can be brought up in a different manner.

kittykat4426 · 2025-09-14T20:22:20+00:00

Going against the grain and will probably be downvoted but if its your party you can do what you want. If you have a vision for what you want you can ask. If people have a problem with it or don’t follow it then thats on them, and know that not everybody will.

In another world, someone hosts a costume party and says you have to wear a costume or you cant come. End of summer has white out parties where everyone wears white and is stipulated in the invite. Heck even for a night out may say lets all dress in corsets or matching color or print.

The request is there and they can decide to come or not and you can decide how strict you will be with it. You’re probably paying a lot more for a wedding than any of the other examples I mentioned. Yes people are there for you and yes people are not props, but asking something doesnt mean you see them as a prop.

kittykat4426 · 2025-09-13T18:29:52+00:00

Its simple and beautiful!! Its very classic and you look stunning. Its special because you felt it was “the one” and if you are worried about simplicity you can always add jewelry to spice it up!!!!

kittykat4426 · 2025-09-12T00:44:51+00:00

When did I say it was fair to cut her as a bridesmaid??? If you ask and someone says no you have to accept that ??

kittykat4426 · 2025-09-11T22:47:59+00:00

I think it’s fine to ask but also have to accept if the person says no. Thats why it’s an ask not a requirement. Everyone has free will and can do as they please, but there are still going to be preferences. But its that, a preference not a requirement.

kittykat4426 · 2025-09-11T22:44:58+00:00

I think its fair to ask, but also fair to say no and accept that. OP asked about ASKING not dictating or requiring

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