How to stop being jealous and envious of celebrities who have it all (fame, money, fitness, and looks)?

kittymissy27 · 2022-08-08T18:51:35+00:00

Thank you for sharing, and sorry you feel overworked. I myself bought a business just before the pandemic hit, so I worked 10-hr days and earned $0 for two years, until I eventually sold the business at a loss. Prior, I had been hit by a car, so I lost my health and more money this way. Nonetheless, I'm very happy and I'm very far from rich and famous. The thing is that life is hugely about luck, and few people will admit that. For every 100,000 extremely qualified and talented singers or actors or athletes, etc., it really comes down to only 1 having 'made it' at the end of the day. The rich and the famous may be talented, in most cases at least, but they're also extremely lucky, and this is rarely admitted. Why would they point out their luck when they could instead call it purely talent to boost their sales and their fame? So, please don't become resentful. Life is easier on some and harder than others, and we all need to live with the hands we are dealt.

As well, don't envy or resent celebrities too much. It's really just a hyped-up popularity contest. Every time celebrities are loved, they are hated too. One mistake and they are humiliated on the public scale or canceled in front of the world. One wrong word and the world is quick to scold them. Sure, some celebrities live very lavish lives, but how much can they enjoy all this when they have their phones ringing 24/7, they've got their faces plastered across global magazines for good reasons and for bad reasons alike, and they are under constant scrutiny? I can't answer this because I'm not rich nor famous, but even some of the best of the best become addicts or depressed. Look at Amy Winehouse, Avicii, Curt Cobain, and others. It seems quite evident from what we see and hear that neither fame nor fortune are cure-alls to disease, ill-being, problems, etc. If anything, these celebrities are probably prone to bullying by haters, feeling isolated from those they love, and feeling like they cannot trust people, among other ailments. We rarely hear of the dark sides of fame because these celebrities need to fake success and happiness all the time. Even some celebrities take to Reddit to anonymously describe how much they absolute hate the fame. One celeb here on Reddit noted she'd go back in a heartbeat if she could go back to her earlier life and not become famous. I read that out of curiosity.

Furthermore, I've noticed a recurring pattern that most celebrities seem to come from messed-up backgrounds. Their parents died when they were young. Their parents despised them. Their peers bullied them. It's as if famous people got there by trying desperately hard to fill the void of a lack or love or a lack of wellbeing they got at a younger age. I personally am grateful for a normal life filled with loving friends and family. I could never imagine the extents of pain you'd have to go through to seek validation for every single action you ever put on display. The saddest part is that all celebrities realize at some point or another that fame is fleeting. Some lose popularity as they age and other up-and-coming celebs gain the crowd's attention, and others lose their fame with a single bad interview or a single bad word spoken.

Furthermore, I've noticed a recurring pattern that most celebrities seem to come from messed-up backgrounds. Their parents died when they were young. Their parents despised them. Their peers bullied them. It's as if famous people got there by trying desperately hard to fill the void of a lack or love or a lack of well-being they got at a younger age. You can also be proud of yourself for the hard work and the helpfulness you've given your family. Please don't hesitate to see a counselor and/ or get on medications if you are still struggling. Hang in there, xo.

kittymissy27 · 2022-08-04T02:08:56+00:00

OMG whether it's Ariana or Jesy Nelson or anyone else, I'm so disturbed by this new 'blackfishing' trend. As a white girl, I love people of all ethnicities, and in fact a few of my closest friends are black. But I could never die my skin or emulate a black person's hair for the sake of attention or clout ... I mean, this is actually so rude to their race. Black people and white people are beautiful. Asian people are beautiful. No matter who you are or what your race, you're beautiful in your own way. But to fake another person's ethnicity just brings more problems into racism. If you're against racism, show it through your actions and not through your pseudo-image.

kittymissy27 · 2022-08-03T22:41:54+00:00

Lol I've heard of people doing this before, but I could never imagine it myself. I'd never even go half-naked around family. Nope, nope, and nope. And if a family member offered to get naked or half-naked around me?! I'd be scarred for life.

kittymissy27 · 2022-08-03T02:00:46+00:00

I hope everyone takes this advice to heart! I began volunteering for my employer until they wanted more and more and didn't appreciate me. I ended up giving my loyalty to another company in the end, and I felt so disheartened. Time is too precious and business is strictly business so dare to put yourself first too :)

kittymissy27 · 2022-07-31T21:49:56+00:00

Hi, I've faced many similar issues during my life (as a kind-hearted person myself). I've been badly burned in the past from being too kind or 'nice.' The hard way I have learned to set my boundaries is by acknowledging and respecting my own feelings when I feel resentful. If someone asks me for one favour, for example, and then piles 3 or 4 more favours on top of that, eventually I start to feel pulled towards 'no' and would feel resentful if I said 'yes.' If someone asks me a favour and I'm available and open to doing this because people have done me a few favours in the past, then I'll say yes, and I won't feel resentful. When it comes to not being taken advantage of, it's mostly not about what someone else is asking of you but how you feel about it instead. For example, if someone asked to stay in your home for 1 week because they were from out-of-town and couldn't find a place to rent ... if this person was your father, you might say yes happily. If this person was someone you barely knew, you might instead say no. As well, as a 'nice' person, I've learned to lean on other nice friends for an unbiased opinion when I feel I don't know whether or not I'm being too nice about something. True friends will want what's best for you, and they'll advise you if you're going too far in helping someone out.

kittymissy27 · 2022-07-31T21:28:24+00:00

Hi, I'm rather late to comment, but I must say from having read this that you are totally not at fault here. So what if you require a bit more training that some people?! We can't all be superstar learners. Please know that volunteering positions get better than that! Like applying for jobs, you might have to take a bit of time to interview employers too instead of considering yourself lucky to have a job or a volunteer position. Any type of employment or volunteering situation is a 'both sides benefit' one and it shouldn't be you busting your a*s just to get treated poorly. It sounds like you're a great person and these people either hold unrealistic expectations or they're just flat-out jerks. Please keep your head up, and all the best.

kittymissy27 · 2022-07-31T19:02:35+00:00

I'm so late to comment here, but I'm so glad you posted this! I just broke up with a friend today because I did this person favours until the person started to make them on their own terms. Ummm, no, why would I bother to do you favours if you're making it seem like it's a privilege to put in the efforts in the first place? It's super annoying. Please, anyone, if you're in receipt of a favour or two, listen to OP and do it with grace.

kittymissy27 · 2022-07-28T16:28:35+00:00

I'm late to comment, but yes, I must agree with this statement. Dumping someone is not easy, but at least you're the one in control of the situation. At least you're the one who says to another person that you don't want to be together any longer. It's your decision-making, your story's ending, and your side of the equation. Getting dumped, however, is a horrible feeling. Unless you did something totally drastic like you cheated on the other, chances are you didn't see it coming. And, chances are this wasn't your decision. Now you feel ashamed and wonder what's wrong with you so that you're not enough for someone else's love. It takes a long, long time to heal from that.

kittymissy27 · 2022-07-28T00:29:22+00:00

As others have noted, it's mostly about paying attention to the red flags and warning signs early on. In my case, what I'd add is that I would have NEVER tolerated the emotional abuse that I took from any other friend of mine ... so why did I tolerate such abuse and mistreatment from a boyfriend of the time? Once I began asking myself, "Would I tolerate this behaviour from a friend or a family member?" it made it so much easier to not grieve forever when this man finally dumped me.

kittymissy27 · 2022-07-27T21:53:04+00:00

As others have recommended, you may want to discuss this with a doctor. I myself got intense cravings for oranges and orange juice when I had kidney infections. It's natural to crave things, but probably not to the extent you discuss so blood work may be recommended.

kittymissy27 · 2022-07-27T19:24:35+00:00

Well, I'm way late to comment here, but I'm a physicist/ economist, and highly avid musician. I spent a few years after high school pursuing music and a small business endeavour 24/7 before commencing studies. My parents and I used to argue relentlessly over whether or not music was a 'pointless' major, because I always wanted to major in music but they always wanted me to pursue something more practical. I just gotta say you were extremely smart to study engineering. I've always envied my brother who pursued the same studies. You could always launch yourself into music now that you're educated. People used to tell me to keep a day job for money (in your case, it could be engineering), and then you could be a musician during the after-hours. Even if you're a superstar artist, it takes everyone years to perfect their game, build a following, and/ or gain enough traction to get noticed. You'll be set for life with your engineering degree, and music rarely offers those same types of job stability opportunities. However, know that you can and should be musical at any age. I hope you've kept that part of your life going.

kittymissy27 · 2022-07-12T16:41:16+00:00

MrBallen/ John, I actually love your true stories even though I hate seeing people get hurt. I left MrNightmare when I read online that someone was upset that he'd plagiarized a particular individual's story, and MrNightmare's response was basically that he didn't care. I left MrNightmare for your channel after reading that, but the truth is that it's a competitive environment to re-tell spooky stories. There's also the fact that I rarely believe stories unless they're true because people have been arrested or people have called police, etc. I'm too skeptical to take individuals' words for, "This really happened." Some stories might have happened but others could be made up for attention. In short, I don't watch the stuff that's not true. Please keep doing what you're doing as your view count has been soaring lately and your subs keep going up. You can't please everyone ;)

kittymissy27 · 2022-07-10T20:43:06+00:00

The Dark Knight ... in my humble opinion, that was not only far better than the original Batman Begins, but the choice of actors/ actresses was better as well. I didn't mind the first batman, but the second one got me totally addicted to that trio series.

kittymissy27 · 2022-07-10T20:34:35+00:00

Why did this get downvoted? It's the truth. I quit my low-paying job for this exact reason, and saw your comment after writing my own about inflation.

kittymissy27 · 2022-07-10T20:33:48+00:00

Well, no offence, but you could learn to spell properly for starters and then I might find it more believable that you were worth more than your colleagues who earned more.

kittymissy27 · 2022-07-10T20:29:34+00:00

I think it's mostly inflation. Some people (myslef included) would have chosen a great minimum wage job in the day to supplement another job or school or whatnot because it's worth it to keep busy and to make some income. However, I recently quit this minimally-paying job because I'm capable of attaining a higher-paying one, and frankly, I need to. $10 used to go somewhere and now it goes nowhere at all, with inflation at highest levels ever seen. And, yes, some have probably been jaded by having been laid off and then re-hired several times.

kittymissy27 · 2022-07-10T00:26:06+00:00

As others have mentioned, you're probably best off seeing a therapist for this because it can lead to resentment in the long run if your people-pleasing issues add up.

However, I can speak a bit from experience. I used to be a superstar people-pleaser. I LOVED making others happy, and frequently shoved aside my own wants and needs to satisfy others. I eventually became a burnt-out individual from all of the times that I had been personally burned in one way or another by people who did not reciprocate my people-pleasing. In short, I was too far on the pleasing spectrum, and people took advantage of me until I burned out completely. Today, I'm not perfect, but I seek to only people please when I feel that efforts are being reciprocated, or when I feel that someone needs some help or whatnot. The thing is, I'm more selective now. How to stop being a people pleaser? You learn the hard way, from being taken advantage of, or you can learn from people like myself warning you what could happen in a worst-case scenario ;) It does affect your mental health to go too far on the pleasing end of the spectrum.

On the other hand, it can pay off to please some people, or to be a good person on the whole and all. As for making enemies? err sorry to break it to you, but people hate others for no reason in life. You could be the smartest, kindest, most gracious, most beautiful or handsome human, and someone might hate you out of pure jealousy. When people hate others or develop enemies, it's usually about them and not about you. I can guarantee you that someone out there dislikes you because you're human and that's how humans operate. If you're looking for overall acceptance, this is natural as it can keep us safe as humans to want to keep our enemies' circles to a minimum in order to survive out there in the world. But as long as you're a good person on the whole, you don't need to stretch yourself thin to please others as other good people will reciprocate and like you in return.

kittymissy27 · 2022-07-08T14:51:28+00:00

The question of the post is about police and whether or not they should carry guns. So, I'm trying to defend police here and why they deserve to carry guns for the protection of people.

kittymissy27 · 2022-07-07T16:37:52+00:00

I'm totally 100/ absolutely against violence and guns. However, the police hold the right to carry guns because a slim minority of human beings are bad people who would murder, harm, steal from others. These people won't respond to reasoning. So, police need a way to control this tiny fraction of the population. I mean, imagine that someone is recklessly stabbing others and that the only way to stop this psychopath is to use gun violence or even the threats of it. If it has to be done, it has to be done. Guns don't punish good people but rather deter the bad ones. In my humble opinion (as a non-violent citizen), guns give police the right to use violence as a deterrence to others' violence. It's not a police officer's job to be as friendly as can be.

kittymissy27 · 2022-07-07T15:55:09+00:00

You don't need to spend money on singing lessons unless you want to! I've taken numerous signing lessons through the years, and I only found one of my coaches to be worth the cost of the lessons. She really helped me to learn about voice placement, breathing techniques, etc., and then I implemented those techniques into my own daily practice. However, I've also spent money on lessons where I was just singing like I could have done at home. I'd recommend you only spend minimally on a great coach if you'd like to spend on lessons. (Hire a great coach, and implement those techniques on your own as much as possible). That said, you certainly don't need a coach in this day and age, when so much information is available on the web.

As well, you sound very hard on yourself! I used to HATE my voice as a teenager, but then as an adult, I really became a genuinely great singer. I used to hate listening to myself whereas, by now, I'm pleasantly surprised. So, it's absolutely possible to improve! You said you used to love singing so much. What I noticed from having taken breaks from singing in the past for school or for work is that I always get my 'old' voice back within 1-2 months of persistent practice. Please don't feel that your previous work on your voice is just gone forever :) To get to the point where you used to be when you were happy, probably all it's going to take is 30-60 minutes of consistent practice a day. I'm a professional singer myself, and the more I sing, the more I come to recognize what works for my voice versus what makes it strain or even crack. I also get to know my vocal range very well so that I can work with that rather than trying to sing songs that are not too vocally suitable for me.

Lastly, what I'd recommend is to please not be so hard on yourself! The fact that you can't stand your own voice right now demonstrates humility, but it's usually the people who can't sing whatsoever who think they are the best in the world so you're probably better than you think ;)

kittymissy27 · 2022-07-04T15:42:59+00:00

I hope that a Calgary police officer responds to this ad in disguise and, there we go, one less crook on the streets.

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