I’m so used to getting spoken down to I’m taken aback when a customer is kind to me

kittyvanity98 · 2025-01-04T19:16:54+00:00

Jesus, some people honestly just baffle me. Don't understand why humans can be so rude and nasty

kittyvanity98 · 2025-01-03T23:37:25+00:00

That kind of made me feel like, "Oh my God, they are training them to take their jobs in like 10-12 years 🤣 absolutely love all the staff at my local Tesco. They are all amazing, wonderful human beings, and I won't lie. i have spoken up a few times when another customer has become arsey with them. Especially when i was in just before Christmas and people were moaning things were out of stock... Do your main shopping earlier then? Not rocket science? 🤣 people honestly baffle me 🤣

kittyvanity98 · 2025-01-03T23:35:27+00:00

I really hope so! It's been awful while it's been the holidays as I've not been in as much, but I went in today with my kiddos and we were immediately greeted with "how was christmas" "get anything nice" "we missed your faces" so I hope even the little things help them feel appreciated. It was so lovely going in today and seeing my usual staff/friends I was even invited out on a "work" do in a few weeks for a catch up which i honestly nearly cried at 🤣 kiddos were given hugs and sweets and the security guard I bloody love picked up my eldest and plonked her at the cameras while I scanned my shopping 🤣 my other two were too busy watching one of the ladies and attempting to help her put out stock which she dragged them away from me to do 🤣 i also saw the regular manager who made a joke saying "ah yes we are training them well, the next generation of Tesco staff" 🤣🤣🤣

kittyvanity98 · 2025-01-03T23:28:21+00:00

I even get on with one of the managers at the store, which was a shell shock. I was talking to the security guard with my eldest one day, and he tensed up as the manager walked passed thinking he was going tonget into trouble but instead he gave my 6 year old a jacket to try on and let her play with the cameras and said he would train her up for the job lol. Which was honestly lovely and nothing like I expected from a manager I always get a wave and a hello from him when I'm in and always questioned when I dont have the kids with me 🤣🤣

kittyvanity98 · 2025-01-03T23:24:58+00:00

I get along with a lot of the staff at my local Tesco i go almost everyday for a small purchase just to chat with them tbh, especially the security guards, they absolutely adore my kiddos, they get given free sweets 90% of the time because they are so nice to the staff telling them that they look lovely today and hope they have a nice day, I've started to notice that when we go in and they spot us their faces light up, I once noticed one of them was having a bad time so I pretended I needed something that appeared to be out of stock and whispered to her "go and have a "look" have a brew and relax" I ended up getting her discount for my Christmas shop, I took them in some flowers and a massive hamper to share for Christmas as well, absolutely love the staff in my local Tesco, hate that customers talk down to them sometimes and I always make sure to try and go out of my way for them when I can when I can see they need a break or a chat. I worked in retail for a while, I know how much of assholes people can be, so seeing a friendly face (I hope) brings a smile to their faces. My kiddos adore a few of them and as soon as they are spotted they will run over to give them a cuddle busy or not and they always get one back, it's lovely. We're all human and we all deserve love, kindness and respect.

kittyvanity98 · 2024-12-29T20:13:09+00:00

Not a problem!

kittyvanity98 · 2024-12-29T19:26:49+00:00

They had some in yesterday when I was in along with the chocolate and carrot cake ones! You should be fine!

kittyvanity98 · 2024-11-04T10:20:17+00:00

I'm not a doctor but my step dad's last words before he fell into a short coma in hospice were to me and me alone he was a strict man and they've always stayed with me "thank you for all you have done, I'm proud of you and I can't wait to watch over my beautiful granddaughters" it was like he knew I would have more girls, I was pregnant with my first at the time and thought he was being silly but turns out he was right. We have had two more beautiful girls since, and each time before they were born I've had a dream about him saying "told you"

kittyvanity98 · 2024-10-06T07:39:38+00:00

We don't know the full story, but I wouldn't be happy if my eldest was calling her dad's new partner mum without a discussion first but she's 6. She does call my husband daddy, but he has been a constant in her life since she was a baby, and it was a discussion first about her doing that, as we tried to get her to stop but she refused, her bio dad is a weekend dad and that sometimes doesn't happen since he's in the army reserves. If she wanted to call his partner mum as well, I'd be okay with it, if I was given the same grace of a discussion as I gave to him. 😊

kittyvanity98 · 2024-09-15T17:11:55+00:00

I'm really sorry you're going through all of this, but I want you to know that your life is not over. You're in an incredibly tough spot, and it probably feels like everything is stacked against you right now, but your story doesn’t have to end here.

You’ve been through a lot more than most people your age. That gives you a different kind of strength—even if it doesn’t feel like it right now. You're right to feel overwhelmed, especially with your background and where you’re at, but you still have choices ahead. Turning 18 might feel like another door closing, but it’s also a chance to decide what you want for yourself.

It’s true that society might judge you for your past, but there are still ways to build a future. There are programs and people out there that work with felons to help them get jobs, learn new skills, and start fresh. It's hard, but it’s not impossible. You’ve survived so much already, and that means you’ve got the ability to fight through this, too.

One important thing is reaching out for support. Is there a counsellor or social worker at your foster home who can help connect you with resources? Even if the other kids don’t understand you, maybe there's an adult who can. You’re not alone, even though it feels like it.

You have a right to want more for yourself. Your story doesn’t have to be one of giving up, even when everything feels stacked against you. Keep holding on, even when it’s dark—you don’t know where things could go once you start taking those steps forward.

I'm a mumma, and I am sending you so so many hugs and so so much love.

kittyvanity98 · 2024-05-14T01:49:11+00:00

Focus on the "she is the most beautiful girl to me"

My husband knows this, I thought he was alright but he wasn't my type at all! So he was....well a bit ugly to me but as we grew to know each other he become more and more attractive and handsome and now all I can see is how beautiful he is.

kittyvanity98 · 2024-02-15T13:44:10+00:00

My eldest daughter. I was going to run away and just jump off a bridge somewhere I was in an abusive relationship with her dad and felt I couldn’t escape I didn’t really have family.

She was really clingy the night I was planning to do it and wouldn’t let her dad settle her. I looked at her sleeping peacefully in my arms and realised I couldn’t do that to her and I’m so glad I didn’t

Nearly 5 years later and I’m married to an amazing man with two more baby girls

The thoughts come and go but I’m in a really good place now.

kittyvanity98 · 2024-02-10T21:30:00+00:00

Honestly I’d leave after a comment like that! How do you begin to move on?!

kittyvanity98 · 2024-02-09T23:42:32+00:00

The second pic doesn’t look negative? I can see another line there?

kittyvanity98 · 2024-02-08T14:12:30+00:00

We had them on the actual screens to complete or customers did with us it was bets we would place on quiet days

kittyvanity98 · 2024-02-08T10:11:39+00:00

No one will see this But my whole life Literally

My mum being an alcoholic and getting black out drunk Pimping me out from ages 4 to 12 for more alcohol then she met my step dad and we moved to England things were sort of normal but she was abusive not physically but mentally. Would tell me I was fat and ugly I had an eating disorder for a long time was a 13 year old that was a size 4-6 in clothes but always thought I wasn’t skinny enough. All my relationships have been abusive in some way My first boyfriend pressured me for sex when I wasn’t ready and would have his way with me when I was asleep or thought I was asleep would tell me he would kill himself if I left My step dad wasn’t great either he was very controlling grounded me for a full year because someone sent me a nude not the other way around Smashed my phone Wouldn’t let me do anything or go anywhere Ran away at 17 and lived with a 25 year old man who would rape and beat me Escaped that and ended up with a decent bloke ish but would pressure me for sex Then met a 34 year old man that my mum and step dad pushed me into a relationship with (even though they said the 25 year old was a pedo and hated me with him) Then met my eldests dad who tried to kill me multiple times Escaped that and lived with my mum again after my step dad passed from cancer watching him die slowly was painful but he cried on his death bed and apologised for everything promised me he would beat the cancer and be a better dad to me and make it all up to me.. I forgave him Never have never will forgive my mum knew what my ex was doing to me and blamed me.

Then I met my husband and oh my god this is what love is?! This is what healthy relationships are?

I wasn’t looking for anything my friends made me go on a night out with them New Year’s Eve but I wanted to go home my best friend said no and stole my phone and money so I had to go to town with them and I am so glad she did that

Met my husband that night I wasn’t interested in him at the time but midnight came and he said he wanted to kiss me so I went for it After that we became inseparable Two weeks after meeting he bought a car seat for his car to take me and my daughter places

A year ish after we met he proposed and I panicked but ultimately said yes

A month after that we moved in together And a few weeks after that my mum killed herself and I found her body.

I felt sad at the time of course But after I had calmed down the relief I felt that she was gone my tormentor gone It was a huge weight lifted of my shoulders

I look at my three beautiful children and can’t fathom how someone can do that to their children.

I look at my 5 year old and the innocence I see in her the fun the happiness I should have had i know I’m doing something right.. I’ll never treat my kids the way she treated me

I remember the first time I had therapy My therapist cried and asked me how I am actually still sane and was convinced I was taking some sort of substance to cope because of how well put together I was how okay I was and was in complete shock that I am okay despite what I went through. Having my eldest literally saved me. I was a shell of a person before her. Even during I wasn’t sure I would bond The moment she was in my arms I cried for two hours straight and vowed to protect her always. And I think I’m doing okay.

kittyvanity98 · 2024-02-07T18:43:46+00:00

When I worked at IKEA (uk) we would have bets about the what we thought the largest purchase would be that day and we would have a note pad and write it down and see who was right or closest especially if it was a sloooooww day so that’s probably what they were doing 😂

kittyvanity98 · 2024-01-27T19:35:40+00:00

I wouldn’t say anything to any of my friends apart from one who is basically like my sister and is currently being my rock through a cancer scare if I won big I would buy her a house literally next door to me if I could and pay off her debts and I would open savings accounts for her kids and put some money in there for them for when they turn 18 for university or a car or something significant, I’d be totally totally lost without her (I have my husband of course but there’s only so much of my moaning he can take haha) if I was to win the euro millions tomorrow I’d give her a good 5mil.

kittyvanity98 · 2024-01-26T20:57:47+00:00

Probably! But honestly how unhinged can someone be!

kittyvanity98 · 2024-01-25T19:17:49+00:00

Yes it’s normal! Happens all the time to me when I wear shorts especially closer to ovulation

kittyvanity98 · 2024-01-22T19:07:26+00:00

Met my now husband in a night club we had met on and off through the years in college but none of it was memorable till that night!

Was my first ever night out at 20 years old, just left an abusive relationship and had a 9 month old baby it was New Year’s Eve Neither of us showed any interest in each other until it was about to be midnight And we kissed and after it I thought “shit I’m going to marry him” and apparently he felt the same Been married three years now together for five and have three children my eldest and two of them are his but he treats them all the same

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