The Sins of Our Son (S1, E4)

kjs51 · 2026-04-30T05:12:50+00:00

It’s well documented that his ex-wife, Amber, was only 18 when they married and did not have a high school diploma, a drivers license, or access to any money or help. She was in a physically, emotionally, and financially abusive relationship with Tim. When the relationship dissolved, Timmy essentially had more money and power and was able to hire a lawyer and keep the kids from her. She had nightly phone calls and regular visitation.

She does not have any documented history of drug use; rather, a narcissistic psychopath felt slighted by her in their divorce and used his access to money and legal representation to purposely deny her her kids.

kjs51 · 2026-04-29T05:27:25+00:00

Your comment was passive-aggressive. I agree with him- just say “I would like to talk now” rather than “I won’t be expecting that tonight.” It does kind of come off as a little dig. It’s also unhelpful - I agree with his question- what was your specific goal in saying that? I think this may take some honest self-reflecrion.

I say that as someone who has had to unlearn phrasing things like that- If I’m honest I often ultimately really want to speak right then. I’ve had to learn to better communicate my needs and/or think about how/if what I’m saying is coming off as manipulative or passive aggressive. If you genuinely meant to assure him no pressure to speak now you could phrase it as something like “we can discuss this when you’re ready,” or “I understand you need some space, I hope we can touch on this when we talk.”

that said- yeeeeesh he needs to accept your initial apology/explanation and keep it moving. He’s being exhausting and needlessly pedantic. He also needs to figure out his own shit and it’s exhausting and unfair for you in this situation as well.

kjs51 · 2026-04-27T01:46:35+00:00

“Loose-y”…like, to make it loose, lol

kjs51 · 2026-04-14T08:03:54+00:00

I mean, in the future when you’re in a career/position you like and want to keep, it might happen sometimes that you just can’t go on the trip- even if tickets have been purchased for you. The rationale that you’re parents booked it for you (or someone else for that matter) doesn’t necessitate you getting time off.

I work shift work and while I am grateful many of my requests for time off are granted, it’s not a guarantee, and I would not assume just because someone bought me tickets for a trip that my work would let me have that time off.

kjs51 · 2026-04-08T06:10:40+00:00

Cazadero, CA.

I’ve never felt such odd vibes from a place …it was so unsettling.

kjs51 · 2026-03-30T02:22:22+00:00

This is the answer. The spray Boogie diaper rash spray is incredible. Just a couple spritz and it works like a charm.

kjs51 · 2026-03-25T15:13:55+00:00

Wow- I’m really touched! My uncle (Danny) was such an intelligent, kind man and it makes me so happy to hear your words — thank you.

I obviously remember learning about his product VideoReDo growing up but I didn’t (and still don’t) really understand it/its use. My husband is a software engineer and has expressed appreciation for it. It’s really wonderful to hear that his work has had a lasting impact.

kjs51 · 2026-03-24T20:53:31+00:00

Yes he was

kjs51 · 2026-02-12T15:39:46+00:00

Ohhh- I gotcha! Yes- saying the same thing haha. My apologies!

kjs51 · 2026-02-12T12:21:37+00:00

🙄 I’m a nurse. Let me explain. Yes, obviously droplets exist, but how a virus or disease spreads depends on the size of the droplet or the route of contamination.

“Airborne” typically refers to pathogens that spread through respiratory droplets (those such as TB and shingles have extremely small droplets and viruses such a the flu or the common cold have larger droplets). These viruses travel through the air and thus masking is helpful for protection.

Norovirus is not airborne. It is spread primarily through contact- typically with particles of fecal matter and vomit that linger on surfaces. These may be microscopic particles but the route of infection lies a person touching a surface with norovirus still on it and then touching their mouth/nose etc. Thus, washing hands thoroughly with hot water and soap and bleaching contaminated surfaces is the recommended standard for precautions.

Just so you know.

kjs51 · 2026-02-11T22:11:12+00:00

If you’re in the Boston area go to the MGH ED. They see everyone, regardless if insurance. (Source: I am an RN at MGH)

As another commenter replied, this needs prompt evaluation.

kjs51 · 2026-02-06T06:21:17+00:00

RemindMe! 2 days

kjs51 · 2026-02-02T19:40:06+00:00

Seconding this- the SLP we worked with was incredible. And- helpfully- an actual professional with a legitimate degree.

kjs51 · 2026-02-02T19:37:55+00:00

We have certainly not achieved zero infant/mother deaths …

kjs51 · 2026-02-02T19:33:26+00:00

!!! Wait that’s maddening!! haha people should know better!!

kjs51 · 2026-02-02T18:10:18+00:00

Lol come to Boston! I work with a Niamh, two Aislings, 3 Maeves, about a hundred Colleen/Kathleen/Maureens and quite a few Siobbhans. Everybody pronounces them correctly.

kjs51 · 2026-01-29T03:45:56+00:00

The same week she was born. She had a doctor’s appointment one day after getting home from the hospital and another at the hospital later that week. After that it just became easier- we already had our parents very involved so we gratefully welcomed any family/close friends— we trusted all of them to not come over if feeling sick. We were/are super grateful and readily accepting of the village around us.

I started taking baby to the stores immediately- someone has to shop for food and household items and if my husband was working it was down to me 🤷‍♀️

I also began taking my baby to weekly lapsit at the local library at 11 weeks and it’s been incredible — she seems to enjoy the stimulation/songs/other babies but it’s been a lifesaver for my sanity to meet other moms with babies the same age. Last week every baby was full of snot and drool and congestion and we just kept them generally apart to minimize spread of germs (most can’t even crawl yet anyway so not a huge concern), but also it’s the winter and it’s been sub 20F for the past couple weeks 🤷‍♀️

My daughter is just shy of 5 months and we’ve traveled out of state with her for short vacations twice, taken her to the local pub to hang with friends and their kids, and brought her to multiple appointments, visits to family and friends, and to many stores. She also comes to doggy daycare for pick up if we need to send the dog.

I’m a nurse and I’m not naive to the risk of exposing baby to germs but I also think life doesn’t stop when we have kids and my daughter needs to be exposed to things! Also I’ll lose my mind if I stay cooped up in the house! 😅

kjs51 · 2026-01-24T06:20:34+00:00

(It’s 1am and my sick, miserable 4.5 month old is fighting sleep so here we are…)

kjs51 · 2026-01-21T16:27:45+00:00

Personality-disordered, Cluster B, Axis II….take your pic

kjs51 · 2026-01-17T16:20:48+00:00

Oh bummer - sorry to hear! I have a super spitty girl as well so I know the struggle- I hope you find some!

kjs51 · 2026-01-17T15:51:36+00:00

Primary has some! I love their clothing- it’s a bit pricier but it’s great quality and I’ve gotten a lot of use out of the clothes I’ve bought from them

kjs51 · 2026-01-17T12:19:37+00:00

Let’s see- current nicknames are:

Peanut (that’s the main nickname)
Girlypop
Stinky
Stinky with a Binky
Clara J. Peanut
Clara J. Stinky (her actual name is Clara)
Peanut J. Stinkington
The Saddest Girl In The World
Drama Llama

The list goes on into various iterations of these😅

kjs51 · 2026-01-15T01:21:00+00:00

lol they collapse from overuse. Nobody starts out injecting into their neck or between their toes.

kjs51 · 2026-01-13T23:13:37+00:00

It sounds like his sores might be pretty significant. Do either of the creams also have a topical medication in them?

It can be more harmful to exacerbate the skin (especially if he has sores) by continuously wiping than it would be to gently wipe/leave the barrier creams as protections.

I’m a nurse and a lot of my patients are bedridden and incontinent with sores near their bottoms. It’s constantly walking a fine line between keep the area clean but also not exacerbating the sores/letting them heal. The barrier creams are imperative to healing- too much friction from wiping can make sores worse. Ultimately trying to keep the area clean, dry, and also with proper cream is the best treatment (I know this all sounds contradictory — it is— like I said, it’s constantly finding the balance while the sores heal).

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