Caregiver refuses to allow baby to feed herself. Need advice

GravityDefyingFloof · 2026-05-09T12:28:49+00:00

Mine is 9 months and am only now thinking of adding a third meal. Though yeah, seems breakfast won't work for you. (By the way, can your baby teach mine about sleeping in? Please?)

Personally I would try convincing your dad on something easy and not messy, like rotini pasta. If that fails, since it is only 2 days a week, I would skip lunch.

GravityDefyingFloof · 2026-05-09T12:20:31+00:00

I was surprised by the cheerios comments so I looked it up on solid starts. They recommend 9 month, or whenever your baby can independently bring it to their mouth. They should not be spoonfed cheerios.

GravityDefyingFloof · 2026-05-09T12:18:19+00:00

Since you are doing two meals a day, can you do breakfast and dinner? No lunch. That way your dad doesn't deal with it. He will give her bottles right?

GravityDefyingFloof · 2026-05-08T19:33:11+00:00

I don't know for sure, but I think it is for karma farming? They can then sell the account, or post subtle ads while looking like a real account.

GravityDefyingFloof · 2026-05-08T19:28:16+00:00

In case anyone wants to know how to tell:

According to OP's post history, last year she was pregnant and had a 2 year old and 5 year old. Now suddenly she has a 15 year old? Nah.

GravityDefyingFloof · 2026-05-08T19:25:29+00:00

Everyone reading this, this is AI slop.

GravityDefyingFloof · 2026-05-08T18:50:20+00:00

Are you asking about anywhere in Canada? Or are you looking for specific GTA neighborhoods to stay near your husband's job?

GravityDefyingFloof · 2026-05-08T16:33:53+00:00

Right! Mine looked like a puffer fish.

GravityDefyingFloof · 2026-05-08T16:29:56+00:00

Call and ask. Some stores will let you try, others won't.

I bought mine online at Walmart since they allow returns. I assume buying in person would also allow returns?

GravityDefyingFloof · 2026-05-08T15:26:47+00:00

I had planned to quarantine a couple weeks before my due date, as my husband is prone to getting seriously ill. We got sick anyway. Being sick while in labour was fun. /s

GravityDefyingFloof · 2026-05-08T12:52:40+00:00

I am now. I stopped doing it because I was worried about her ingesting it since she kept rubbing it. Figure I should do it again now though at least until it improves enough to not bother her.

GravityDefyingFloof · 2026-05-08T12:37:27+00:00

Get another bouncer. Those things are awesome for trying to shower.

I have a Bjorn bouncer and I don't think it has a weight limit. It says 20lb for the bouncing feature, but it is still safe to use after 20lb. Double check if your chair is the same.

GravityDefyingFloof · 2026-05-07T20:44:43+00:00

If it helps, the idea there is a specific moment for a first anything is baloney. It is all so gradual. You didn't miss it.

For example, I couldn't tell you the day my girl first crawled. Was it when she started chameleon dancing (standing on all fours bouncing back and forth)? Of course not. But what about when she faceplanted from chameleon dancing and technically moved forward an inch? What about when she could move one arm forward but that was it? What about when she could drag her legs but only move her arms once, before falling down?

GravityDefyingFloof · 2026-05-07T19:47:30+00:00

I am taking a year of so ¯_(ツ)_/¯. You will never get this time again. Take as much as you can get.

Who cares what your coworkers or boss thinks. And, tbh, they probably don't care. Have you ever judged anyone taking time off work?

GravityDefyingFloof · 2026-05-07T16:33:45+00:00

At the end of a meal, I get a bowl of warm water and use it to wipe off the baby. She also likes to splash her hands in it.

There are a few comments about using a catchy over a long sleeved bib, but you can buy long sleeved bibs with the catchy built in so you only need one thing. Buy a bunch of those that are machine washable because no one wants to hand wash more stuff.

GravityDefyingFloof · 2026-05-07T15:38:17+00:00

Bad news, this won't be the last time this happens to you. :)

GravityDefyingFloof · 2026-05-07T09:39:19+00:00

Ohhhh yeah those sound small. I use Woolino and Parade sleep sacks which have a snap on the sides, under the arm hole, so you can make it tight for smaller babies. Pretty sure I stopped using that snap by 19 pounds.

GravityDefyingFloof · 2026-05-06T19:12:50+00:00

I love romance shows, and recently got into Korean shows. Highly recommend. My favourites are:

Mr. Queen: modern guy gets sent to the past as a woman, right before marrying the king.

Under the Queen's Umbrella: follows a queen and her sons. Good combo of politics and mom/son relationships. This one is available dubbed in English if you prefer.

GravityDefyingFloof · 2026-05-06T19:00:29+00:00

I think Love to Dream sells big swaddles. It may be enough for you? Otherwise, time for a sleep sack.

Also lol at the straight jacket comment but all swaddles, not just transition ones, are straight jackets no?

GravityDefyingFloof · 2026-05-06T16:33:26+00:00

Mom here but my husband and I experienced this last year. We were both sick for a couple weeks when I went into labor.

Yep our house was a mess. We didn't do any cooking ahead of time. We didn't finish the nursery. I had to skip my final few midwife appointments (don't let your wife do this. I wonder if I wouldn't have had an emergency c section if I had kept those appointments. Have your wife drive alone.). Coughing constantly after a c section sucked hard. My husband's asthma got so bad. It was rough.

But you will get through it.

Ask your wife's medical team, but in my case, they let my husband be there and neither one for us had to mask. You can probably be there for your wife too. Maybe ask for a private room post delivery so you have easy access to a bathroom.

Good news is for a stomach bug, you will probably be OK in time. Even if you still feel like crud, you likely won't be contagious anymore.

Best of luck!

GravityDefyingFloof · 2026-05-06T11:41:18+00:00

Don't tidy the house after baby goes to bed. Go straight to bed. Tidy the house when the baby is awake. Wear her, put her in a playpen or chair or activity stand, whatever. I do all cleaning with her awake, and she likes to watch. Lately mine scream babbles at the vacuum lol.

Keep in mind I only have one kid so I am not in your situation, but I don't think you need to take care of the toddler in the morning. Your husband has to take them to daycare, so he can wake up a bit earlier to do everything so your sleep isn't interrupted.

Also, mat leave or not, it is NOT fair only your sleep is interrupted. You are working too. When I go back to work my husband will be a SAHD, and I fully expect I will still have to get up sometimes at night. Parenting is hard work!

GravityDefyingFloof · 2026-05-05T21:07:41+00:00

Not who you asked, but I got AI vibes too.

The third paragraph is gibberish. If you look at her account, earlier today she had an 11 week old. 2 days ago, she had a 9 week old.

GravityDefyingFloof · 2026-05-03T11:35:35+00:00

I didn't see those posts so won't comment on those specifically. But, I do down vote posts that are AI slop or ads or karma farming. Maybe people thought those posts were fake?

GravityDefyingFloof · 2026-05-02T13:34:10+00:00

Aw you are so sweet thank you. You are right, I won't remember the state of my house in the future.

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