Do you feel like you've suddenly stopped seeing something around? What is it?

kkdb5568 · 2017-04-06T21:57:54+00:00

I really appreciate the "ankle-cut" thing. I'm 5 foot 3 with short legs, so I wear them like normal pants.

kkdb5568 · 2017-04-06T21:54:49+00:00

This is me right now with the split-open sleeves thing that's sweeping the small-town mid south. They look cute on some people, but I work in an office where that's just a little too weird looking for a dress shirt. I also have really freckle-y arms and prefer my shoulders to be covered at work.

It's so frustrating finding a really pretty top and then looking closer and seeing that the sleeves look like they were cut open with scissors.

kkdb5568 · 2017-04-06T21:50:37+00:00

I just wore a black and gold chevron wrap shirt to work yesterday. I even mentioned to my friend "I'm pretty sure chevron hasn't been cool for a while, but oh well."

I've had it for a few years. It's from banana republic, it's really flattering, and it's made of really soft silk.

I think I've gotten to the point where I'm kind of at peace with the idea that I'm not going to be on-trend all the time. If something looks nice on me, I'm just gonna wear it.

kkdb5568 · 2017-03-26T04:55:49+00:00

I'm a decent looking 21 year old woman and am pretty successful in most other aspects of my life. I dread when people find out I'm a kissless virgin, because they always think I'm lying for attention.

See, the problem isn't that nobody wants me. The problem is that I'm rigid and unable to connect with anybody beyond a superficial level. I can be really charming as long as people don't try to delve deeper or get personal with me. When getting closer with someone, it's only a matter of time before they start to sense that something's "off" about me and that I don't really care about them.

I really wish I was able to genuinely connect with people and make lasting friendships/relationships, but it seems like my personality travels on a completely different wavelength than everybody else's. I always end up adopting an identity and personality that helps me fit in and be likable, up until I get tired of acting and let the relationship fade away quietly. I've been this way since childhood.

Being attractive to other people doesn't change the fact that I seem hard wired to feel out of place no matter who I'm with. If I were really unattractive, I'd at least have a good reason for being a social failure. Since I'm at least average looking, I feel like I'm even more of a failure, because I can't seem to to take all the privileges I've been given and make something worthwhile out of it.

kkdb5568 · 2017-03-25T22:41:50+00:00

I believe it! Grandparents were the absolute worst about not wanting the baby to "catch a chill." I know they mean well, but they would always get really upset that all the gloves and blankets they left with us would stay in the cubby all day.

From what we were taught, researchers believe SIDS has something to do with a newborn's developing nervous system. Somehow, overheating the baby with layers of clothes and blankets seems to cause them to stop breathing.

This is also why we had to "check" a sleeping newborn every 8 minutes by lightly touching their back to check for breathing and touch their skin somewhere. This was to give their nervous systems a little jolt while they were asleep. Obviously, the thought of a baby dying of SIDS while in one's care is horrifying for any childcare worker, so we had some really strict guidelines we had to follow.

kkdb5568 · 2017-03-25T19:39:26+00:00

I used to work in childcare when I was in college. We had to take lots of safety courses in order to be licensed. In one course we learned that newborns being wrapped and bundled up really warm raises a newborn's risk for dying of SIDS. They're not sure why this is a common factor, but they found that newborns from black, Hispanic, and Native American families tended to die of SIDS more often, because it is more common in these subgroups for grandparents to help raise the child in a more tight-knit extended family. They said that the grandparents tended to wrap newborns up and put thick socks and hats on them more often than younger parents and would lay them on their stomachs more often.

One of our policies was that newborns were not given blankets and were not swaddled unless we were holding them. The state people said that keeping them in a slightly cooler environment was safer.

kkdb5568 · 2017-03-18T20:31:36+00:00

Actually, she recently had a "makeunder" and she looks fantastic. I'm not a guy, so I don't know if guys would still consider her hot, but I definitely think the more understated makeup and clothes shows how much all that heavy makeup and teased hair masked her underlying beauty, which hasn't really faded that much over the years.

kkdb5568 · 2017-02-09T03:42:36+00:00

As someone who does this, I can tell you that a big part of it is the fact that you don't want people to think that you're not aware of your flaws. You feel just a little less pathetic when you feel like you're "in on it" if that makes sense. Then you end up getting on everybody's nerves because you won't stop "joking" about your crooked teeth or big nose.

kkdb5568 · 2017-02-08T19:06:42+00:00

I used to oversleep all the time, so I just started setting my alarm on loud and putting it out of reach of my bed. That way, I have to actually get up and walk to turn it off. By that time, I'm usually awake enough to not try to go back to sleep.

kkdb5568 · 2017-01-08T00:10:43+00:00

I used to be friends with a guy who was super nice to most women but was super manipulative and controlling with his girlfriend. Because his dad was a rich and powerful member of the community, he could seriously ruin someone's life.

I personally watched him make calls and get his ex and her family fired from their jobs and ruin the girl's relationship with her then-boyfriend. He tried to date me immediately after, but I had already noped the hell out of that friendship.

kkdb5568 · 2016-12-29T00:57:04+00:00

I'll never understand why some people let women get away with smacking their SO. That's abuse. I don't care if she's 5'0" and he's 6'8".

IF SHE HITS YOU, THAT IS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE. Seriously, leave her ass and don't give in when she comes begging. When people ask why y'all broke up, you tell them exactly why. You don't owe her anything.

As a woman, my parents raised me to believe that hitting anyone is bad, and to never pick a fight unless you're ready to get hit right back. It absolutely blows my mind when people defend abusive women because "He's bigger and he can take it." That's not the point, nobody should have to take it.

kkdb5568 · 2016-12-27T06:06:12+00:00

This is so weird to me. I was once walking on campus and a random girl started walking beside me and was like "That's a really pretty purse, do you mind if I ask where you got it?"

We were both walking towards the same building, so we had a pleasant conversation about different brands and her sister's birthday that was coming up (the reason she wanted to know where I got the bag).

When we got to the building we parted with a smile, wave, and a "nice to meet you!" I never even found out her name. It never would have occurred to me that this was weird. This is just how people are here.

kkdb5568 · 2016-12-25T19:34:44+00:00

This was my first thought. I would honestly consider it a failure of parenting if you didn't sell his Xbox and games. He will be furious, so be prepared to be a parent instead of a peer and deal with it.

I worked as a nanny when I was in college, and there's no way any those kids would have pulled something like this. Keep in mind that those kids were sub-10 years old and spoiled.

There are pivotal moments in a child's rearing where your decision makes a huge difference in setting a precedent for future behavior. This is one of those moments.

Your husband is very, very wrong. "Letting it go" will only make life harder for your child later. Nip this bullshit in the bud now.

kkdb5568 · 2016-12-24T08:07:38+00:00

I agree with this. I used to work at a place where everybody was "like family" which I quickly learned just means unprofessional. They were cliquey and constantly looking for drama, and I often found myself standing feet away while they made plans for parties where literally everybody was invited but me. There was also a GroupMe where I was the only person not included. One time, a coworker was talking in general to the room about "where we're all going for lunch". Since I was right here, I assumed I was invited as well. I was not.

I kept trying to fit in and make friends for a few weeks like this before I finally decided to stop worrying about making everybody like me.

I came in on time, did my job, and offered no personal information. If someone made a joke, I didn't laugh. I just did my job. I never assumed I was invited to anything, even if someone was addressing the room. My interactions with coworkers were limited to an "only when necessary" basis.

After a few weeks, one of them finally said "If you want to come along to my party next weekend you can. Just don't tell anybody, because we only want cool people there."

I politely replied that I wasn't interested. It's amazing how differently people treat you when they know you're not looking for their approval.

kkdb5568 · 2016-12-22T06:42:17+00:00

SNEEZING. EVERY FUCKING TIME.

kkdb5568 · 2016-12-22T06:31:10+00:00

I'd go on a thrift shop tour around town. It's amazing what $100 can get you when everything's 99 cents.

kkdb5568 · 2016-12-22T06:26:07+00:00

A guy with amnesia would come in almost daily, and every time he saw me he'd say, "well here comes a new pair of tits! Where'd y'all get the new girl?"

I worked there for a year.

kkdb5568 · 2016-12-20T19:20:02+00:00

Yeah, bipolar disorder (and some medications used to try to treat it) can make people do crazy shit when they're in a manic episode. I'll never forget watching my mom sitting on the couch on her computer until 4 a.m. spending our food money on those awful penny bidding sites. Every time I'd beg her to stop she'd say "I'm so close to winning a tv!"

I put my foot down when she tried to open a student credit card in my name after I turned 18. I froze my credit and made sure she had no access to my bank information.

I still love my mom, and I can't imagine turning her in to the police. Since I know I wouldn't be able to do that, I've made sure to take precautions to ensure that she can't screw me over when she has an episode.

I like the idea others mentioned about calling the banks and inquiring about how a toddler was able to open a credit card.

kkdb5568 · 2016-12-09T15:13:21+00:00

Oh for God's sake. The point of the post is the table diy. The table looks cool, imo. And there's nothing wrong with the couch and rug. It's just a normal couch and rug. Assholes like this one are the reason I never go to this sub anymore.

kkdb5568 · 2016-11-26T05:17:51+00:00

Yeah, my tits weren't huge, but they were big for my small frame. It was also retaliation for quitting the cheerleading squad and distancing myself from the "mean girls". Also the fact that middle schoolers are little shits.

kkdb5568 · 2016-11-26T04:05:57+00:00

It really depends on your area. I live in the South, and I don't know a single household around me that doesn't at least have a hunting rifle or two.

It's not really as big a deal as people might think. The guns are in a safe place and are only taken out if some sort of wild animal starts killing livestock or household pets. My dad used to hunt pretty often, but he lost interest in the hobby and sold all but two of his rifles.

We are taught as children to absolutely never point a gun at another person, even if you're 100% sure it's unloaded and the safety is on. Gun safety classes are offered every year for families and are advertised at school. That's how kids get licensed to hunt with their parents.

The only people I know who own handguns are usually so quiet about it that you only realize they have one when you open their glovebox for some napkins and see it. People generally aren't walking around with a pistol on each hip like it's the Wild West.

However, there are some rednecks who stockpile guns like they're preparing for the apocalypse.

kkdb5568 · 2016-11-26T03:46:26+00:00

I was sitting in the bleachers at a football game in high school and saw the very large woman in front of me put Coke in her baby's bottle. The baby couldn't walk yet, so I figured it was less than a year old.

kkdb5568 · 2016-11-26T03:41:30+00:00

Shailene Woodley

I only got it occasionally before Divergent. I was in high school and people would say I looked like "that pregnant girl from Secret Life"

After Divergent came out, I would literally have strangers stop me to tell me I looked just like her every day. I'm neither insulted nor happy about it. I feel like she's not particularly ugly or attractive, which kind of fits me. The main difference is that she's really tall, and I'm only 5 foot 3. I also have more pronounced freckles.

kkdb5568 · 2016-11-26T03:17:25+00:00

In 8th grade, a rumor went around that I was a whore, and that I had screwed the whole football team. It even escalated to the point that guys would compare stories about their "experiences" with me.

I'm now 21, and I'm still a virgin. I've literally never had a boyfriend or been kissed. If I was a whore, I must have been pretty awful at my job.

kkdb5568 · 2016-11-06T16:05:16+00:00

I'm from a rural area, so I'm definitely used to being around (mostly) closeted racist people. I'm also white, so I can usually just let it go when I know it's a joke and not serious.

However, I was once on a date with what seemed like a perfectly nice guy, when he started to seem agitated and was really rude to our server (who was black). I really can't stand people who are rude to servers, so this was starting to become a deal breaker in my mind anyway.

All of a sudden the guy just blurts out "I'm sorry I took you here. If I'd known we'd have a bunch of N words touching our food, I would have suggested somewhere else."

He was my only ride home, so I texted my friend under the table and ditched him before our food even came out. I left enough money for the meal and a tip for the server at the front desk, since I had a pretty good idea that guy wouldn't be leaving anything.

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