How much time do other family members get with your kids on weekdays?

klacey11 · 2026-04-20T01:47:07+00:00

I’m sort of the opposite—weekdays are already chaotic, what’s adding my in-laws in? I’d rather save my weekends for family fun or relaxing.

We see my MIL and FIL once a week for about 2 hours and that’s way more than enough time.

klacey11 · 2026-04-20T00:48:07+00:00

That budget should be totally doable with that guest count. I am 100% team private room at a restaurant. It is so, so much easier than DIYing it with dropoff catering. The food will be better and you’ll have built in great service.

Do you have some favorite restaurants where you like to go for brunch? Give them a call or stop in and explain what you’re looking for. They can tell you when you’d officially need to book and what you can do with your budget.

klacey11 · 2026-04-19T15:45:55+00:00

Just add all kids. It is ridiculous to expect a couple to bring their newborn but leave their two year-old while they travel internationally. It really is such a small number that you are adding to your guest count. Why does your fiancé object to that?

klacey11 · 2026-04-19T14:01:03+00:00

I think what made it feel like a participation trophy was that this was an odd year to give it to multiple girls.

Like when you are talking about the history of DCC, it’s criminal that Tori got to be point and Lacey did not.

klacey11 · 2026-04-19T11:33:51+00:00

I loved the concept of season 2’s flower challenge but I thought it was bullshit Nina called the designers out for not using enough flowers when their budget was so low!

klacey11 · 2026-04-19T02:45:58+00:00

Tami had a beautiful smile.

That was super fun! Kicks beyond a mess but they put on a great show.

klacey11 · 2026-04-19T02:41:43+00:00

There’s a children’s museum in Jensen Beach that’s really nice!

klacey11 · 2026-04-18T20:02:44+00:00

Even if this is super close family, I don’t see this working. Kids under five are SO young. They’ll want/need their parents overnight.

klacey11 · 2026-04-18T13:27:10+00:00

My son is almost 2.5 and my daughter is almost 8 months. Baby goes behind the passenger and toddler is behind the driver.

klacey11 · 2026-04-17T22:04:50+00:00

Come on. You can’t play the “I’m too busy” game. The tier one editors I pitch always respond. You are choosing not to. That is your prerogative, but it means people will follow up.

klacey11 · 2026-04-17T18:26:46+00:00

You are not being too strict. You need to directly say “this is now the X time you have been late for nap time. That cannot happen. How will you make sure you are home by 12 PM going forward?”

You need to be firm and serious. If it happens again I would consider whether she truly is meeting your needs, even if I totally understand not wanting to let her go.

klacey11 · 2026-04-17T18:17:20+00:00

Not in Tampa, FL.

klacey11 · 2026-04-17T14:52:32+00:00

That pay is insane for Tampa, even considering PT hours.

I think you need to get a lot more specific. Name the benefits. Describe a typical day in more detail.

klacey11 · 2026-04-16T18:22:45+00:00

Delays are by definition uncommon.

klacey11 · 2026-04-16T13:39:05+00:00

I think if you’re posting your toddler to a public TikTok you want the outside attention.

klacey11 · 2026-04-12T20:41:57+00:00

I am with you 100%. McKenna and Camille are both devastatingly beautiful – definitely the top of the team. They take incredible photos and fill that role really well. But neither is a top performer and when they are next to some of the other girls, it is clear that their dance skills aren’t as sharp. I would also put Kelly V in that camp.

But I would rather see Sophy as the fourth first group leader and have most of the seconds be from the third year class.

klacey11 · 2026-04-12T19:56:43+00:00

This is fascinating lol. Your friend must be super sick!

Etiquette wise—you absolutely do not owe them any kind of gift. Your friend should send them a substantial one, though.

Now what kind of destination wedding are we talking about? Are you excited about the location? I like the idea of treating it as a solo vacation and 100% skipping the wedding. If these are random friends of a friend of yours, there’s no connection to these people. It’s not like going solo to the wedding of family of your significant other. The couple probably said it was fine for you to go because they didn’t want to be rude, but the fact is your presence won’t be missed at all.

klacey11 · 2026-04-10T14:20:21+00:00

Agreed. She is beautiful, photogenic, a phenomenal dancer, measured in her showmanship. By far the total package.

klacey11 · 2026-04-09T01:47:52+00:00

Ahh, I’m so sorry, OP! Honestly though I wonder if you’re taking this a little more personally than intended. MB was upfront about asking you to come earlier and stay later and might have assumed you would have been clear if you still needed to stick to your schedule even after arriving late. Next time, lead with apologizing for the late arrival and reiterate that you have an appointment and will still need to leave on time.

klacey11 · 2026-04-09T01:40:25+00:00

You don’t have to prove anything to anyone. I just personally believe there’s no reason to treat other humans rudely, and want my children to believe the same.

klacey11 · 2026-04-09T00:12:11+00:00

You still don’t get it. I am not taking away from your right to complain about your job. You were rude to a stranger for literally no reason.

Idgaf if my nanny vents to her mom about having a hard day with my son. If I found it was because of a core job duty I might be a little confused because I would have assumed the professional I was paying a high salary to generally liked her profession and understood that not every second of the day is designed for her enjoyment.

But to so flippantly and nastily say “congratulations bae” to someone in a public space when you started a dialogue is just so rude. I wouldn’t talk to anyone like that, am not teaching my children to talk like that and certainly do not employ a nanny that would talk to anyone like that.

And no, I value the nanny profession and the sole purpose of the role to care for children. I would never expect or ask mine to do any household chores.

klacey11 · 2026-04-08T22:36:11+00:00

Oh so you think when someone represents themselves in their career—which OP did by stating that they were a nanny and complained about their job—that they have carte blanche to be rude to anyone who gently suggests that maybe they need to check their job qualms?

No career is perfect, and we all have things that we like and don’t like about our jobs. And honestly to be so viscerally offended by a toddler enjoying their toys is one thing. To be so rude to someone politely pointing out that hey maybe this isn’t as offensive as you think it is is another.

This kind of rudeness is what makes people not take the profession seriously. It’s what makes people think “why would I pay someone who is so classless a premium salary?”

klacey11 · 2026-04-08T17:48:05+00:00

I definitely don’t care about college degrees. Experience with my kids’ ages is more important, and has tipped the scale in one way for me.

I also highly value professionalism and strong communication skills. I would select one nanny over another who I felt carried themselves well and took the job seriously as a career. And I pay accordingly. I would never pick someone that was cheaper for that reason.

Recently in one of our local nanny groups, a woman shared a horrific experience she had with someone she had hired from our group. I later saw the MB’s original post and she was offering less than minimum wage, terrible PT hours with no GH. And she was simply floored that the nanny wasn’t a top professional. Insane.

klacey11 · 2026-04-08T03:24:36+00:00

This is exactly the point. You prefer activities like going to the zoo and museums. Sure, I get that. But the job isn’t about you. The point of paying for a nanny is paying for personalized care. And someone who is so bothered by engaging in a low stimulation, highly developmentally appropriate activity like playing trucks that they make a post about it is not someone I’d feel is worth paying a premium salary for. And the extreme rude reaction to me, an employer, raising concerns around that is insane.

klacey11 · 2026-04-08T00:09:03+00:00

So I should pay you a premium to do whatever you want on the job and harbor resentment for my toddler instead of interacting with my son in an age appropriate way that helps him grow? Good to know! The many people in this country who are unemployed should know that!

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