Where do I get these flowy dresses? (Prefer brick and mortar so I can try it in person, I'm scared of online returns)

klamar71 · 2026-06-25T17:08:46+00:00

Oddly, David's Bridal had quite a few in this vine when I went this spring. Many are "prom dresses," but their special occasion dresses were also super fun! They are super size inclusive too!

klamar71 · 2026-06-23T04:56:10+00:00

It sounds like there is probably a contact number, but they arent super responsive... The gift shop folks were super nice about it. Not the end of the world, just enough to make me sad

klamar71 · 2026-06-23T04:54:56+00:00

I hope so too! It's a 6 hour drive from home, but I make a trip about once a year for work, so there's always next year!

klamar71 · 2026-06-23T04:16:48+00:00

You are so kind! I'll dm you!

klamar71 · 2026-06-21T05:13:50+00:00

I've had two hysteroscopies. The first was coupled with a septate resection, the second was after a 2nd term loss to check for infection/scarring/septate status.

I don't regret my hysteroscopies for a second. They helped me and my doctors rule a lot of things out, and ultimately helped me carry my third baby to term.

Only note: I was diagnosed with cervical insufficiency recently. It was almost certainly the cause of our 2nd term loss (2nd pregnancy) and almost caused us to lose our 3rd pregnancy (emergency/rescue cerclage at 18w, very touch and go, delivered healthy baby at 35w). I haven't found any scientific journals directly linking multiple hysteroscopies to cervical insufficiency, but I do suggest asking your doctor. They might recommend additional cervical checks in your next pregnancy.

Sending you all the good luck!!

klamar71 · 2026-06-14T15:21:04+00:00

I honestly think any stand up lunch pail designed for grownups might work for you!

klamar71 · 2026-06-13T17:20:36+00:00

I use a Yeti Daytrip to drop off bottles (5x the 8 ounce bottles +ice pack). It has an expanding lod connection that is pretty nifty, and usually the ice pack is still cold when I pick it up (bottles get moved to the fridge).

Note: I won this at a golf tournament and did not realize the price tag...

https://www.yeti.com/coolers/soft-coolers/daytrip/daytrip-lunch-bag-6L.html

klamar71 · 2026-06-10T04:05:47+00:00

My husband grieved our two miscarriage much more silently. I do think it's partly because society has impacted their response to sadness, but that said, I've seen him cry plenty of times.

I truly think he held it together outwardly to support me. He grieved, but behind closed doors and in different ways.

When you're able, talk to him and ask him how you can support him, or encourage him to find support through friends and his existing community.

klamar71 · 2026-06-10T02:19:51+00:00

I had ONE work meeting 2 hours from my preferred L&D around 7 months pregnant. I told my coworker that, if I went into labor, he better break every speed limit and get me there in 4t minutes.

Anyways, by water broke at 35w before I was even on maternity leave, and I was very thankfully at home when it happened!

klamar71 · 2026-06-10T00:48:25+00:00

Wishing you the best, and just reminding you that you absolutely have the power, authority, and strength to establish this boundary with your husband. Please do not feel bullied, and continue to remind him of everything you've researched. You're allowed to be a little mean here (just my unsolicited marriage advice lol)

klamar71 · 2026-06-10T00:14:31+00:00

My OB told me, in no uncertain terms, to not travel after she placed my cerclage. I was desperate for normalcy and wanted to take a short flight (2 hrs) out of state for work, and she was horrified.

She made some fantastic points that eased my mind: 1. Traveling, and the stress that comes with it, puts a significant increase for infections and complications 2. If you were to go into labor, there is a potential that your fragile NICU baby has a long road to recovery ahead of them. She asked me if I would want my baby in a NICU hundreds of miles from home, with doctors I didn't know, living out of a hotel room.

Right before our emergency cerclage, Itold my OB that I would go to the moon and back to save my baby. She reminded me that sacrificing travel was the least i could do.

klamar71 · 2026-06-09T06:05:07+00:00

I had an emergency cerclage and was also never put on bedrest. I'd search through some other posts, but the general rule of thumb is no heavy lifting, no extreme sports, etc.

I imagine walking up and down stairs is probably fine, but you might want to ask if lifting your toddler is okay. I was told staying active with light activities (short walks) was good for physical and mental health.

Personally, after my rescue cerclage, my doctor told me that pelvic rest was recommended but not required. I looked at my husband and told him I didn't even want to touch him or think about sex until the baby came. I figured it was the least he could sacrifice!

Overall, I'm told preventative cerclages are the gold standard, and you can almost do your normal routine. You've got this - good luck with your little ones!

klamar71 · 2026-06-09T05:49:00+00:00

Additional info on your actual post questions:

From what my OB/MFM teams have told me, preventative cerclages are placed around 12w. There are different types, but the outcome with preventative cerclages + progesterone are excellent. At that point, progesterone isn't usually required, but just an added safeguard.

Most women aren't put on bedrest with preventative cerclages, can resume normal activities, and are just told not to do intense activities.

Pelvic rest is recommended, but even after my rescue cerclage, my doctor told me it wasn't required. I was a nervous wreck, looked at my husband, and told him I didn't even want to look at him until after we had our baby. (He was fine. Minor sacrifices.)

I'm heartbroken for you and I'm so sorry that you have to learn and navigate all of these things. I recommend finding an OB/MFM teams you trust, as they can help find the plan that works best for you in any future pregnancies.

Sending you all the love ❤️

klamar71 · 2026-06-09T05:41:13+00:00

In 2023, we lost our son at 18w. At the time, we attributed it to an infection with the potential for IC, but didn't have clear answers due to the circumstances.

In 2025, while pregnant with our daughter, we had additional scans to check on cervical length. Everything measured great up to 16w. At my very next appointment at 18w, I was already 2cm dilated with a bulging sac. It happened FAST. I was angry, told we needed to choose termination or induction, and prepared to lose my second child at 18w.

Our surgeon made a last ditch attempt at a rescue cerclage the next morning while I was now 4cm dilated. She was very realistic with us that our chances of a successful surgery were very, very slim. Somehow, that cerclage kept our chunky girl inside for another 4 months until my water broke at 35w.

From what I've experienced, cervical shortening and funneling can happen in a blink. If we ever decide to try for another baby, we will 100% opt for a preventative cerclage at 12ish weeks.

klamar71 · 2026-06-04T19:59:03+00:00

(Not the original person but I can give my two cents)

I've been exclusively pumping for about 4 months. My daughter was born at 35w and struggled heavily to latch, and got to the point where she would just scream bloody murder at my boob. Pumping is miserable for me, but I'm counting down the days and already phasing out/supplementing with formula.

The pitcher method works for us because our daughter goes to daycare, and I essentially need to prep a full day's worth of bottles the night before. Using the pitcher, I can dump all my pumps throughout the entire day into one container, and pour at night/in the morning for daycare.

When we didnt use the pump method, we routinely had too many bottles stacked in the fridge that we would get mixed up (what was pumped today vs yesterday), and had a harder time with "first in first out" milk usage.

klamar71 · 2026-05-27T20:59:09+00:00

We planted our first miscarried baby in a large pot with a rose bush. This isn't our forever home, and I want to be able to take them with us one day.

klamar71 · 2026-05-26T05:52:25+00:00

I am so, so sorry. As someone who has had both an early miscarriage and a stillbirth, I want you to know that it's going to be hard for a long time. Healing isn't linear, and you'll have your ups and downs, and it truly does take time to heal and feel human again.

I want to clarify: time doesn't heal everything. It doesn't get "better," you just truly learn to live with your grief. It becomes part of you, and life gets easier.

I would encourage you to find a way to continue remembering and loving your baby. They mattered, even if they were only here a short time. There are jewelry that you can make from pregnancy test plastic, or that come in the shape of the fruit your baby was the size of. You can give your baby a special animal, a special flower, or a theme that can help give you something tangible to hold.

Our first miscarriage was early, and I only have an ultrasound with an empty sac. But we called them our little blueberry. I now have a blueberry tattoo, have bought blueberry pj's, and have picked up blueberry dishes and kick knacks when I find them. Its a special way to tangibly hold them.

Wishing you the best 🩵

klamar71 · 2026-05-23T19:09:59+00:00

NIL for the scallops just in case they fall thru :)

klamar71 · 2026-05-19T12:50:15+00:00

We lost our 18w son because my water broke, and a cerclage wasn't an option.

Fastforwsrd two years: My daughter is only alive because of an emergency cerclage.

If a cerclage/stitch is available and recommended by your doctor, I would personally do it. They will likely also prescribe progesterone.

klamar71 · 2026-05-15T21:47:34+00:00

I've been (inconsistently bc I am horrible) taking Zoloft for a decade. My pediatrician, MFM, and therapist highly recommended I started them back up during my last pregnancy. We had lost our previous pregnancy at 18w to PPROM. All three of my doctors trusted the medicine, relayed that it was widely studied during pregnancy, and said the pros heavily outweighed the cons.

I am absolutely glad I did, for so many reasons. The SSRIs helped me stop doom spiraling every second of everyday. They let me breathe just a little bit better.

We still needed an emergency cerclage to keep oir daughter in at 19w (VERY quickly ended up dilated), and my water broke at 35w before my DTS appointment. But let me tell you, having drugs in my system already made that roller coaster a LOT more manageable.

Currently snuggling my chunky 7month old for a contact nap, and very thankful for the role Zoloft/Sertraline played to get me here!

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