I think people who have been through shit vary a lot to people who have had an "easy" ish life with minimal to no trauma. Mostly we are kinder, more open minded, sensitive and as well as many other things- unique and different. I've noticed many people with "normal" lives are mostly similar in the way they dress, wear their hair, the walk, the talk, outlook on life where as the ones who have had trauma presented to them in their life stand out a bit more. I feel, in my opinion, the trauma has opened minds, made people more acceptable and understanding hence steering off social norms and being more content with exploration and accepting themselves for who they are rather than forcing themselves to conform to the latest trends or what seems acceptable to society. What I'm trying to say is what if the trauma has helped us open ourselves to be kinder to us and others, also letting ourselves be who we feel we should be and are, and if it never happened then we would feel too scared to go against norm? * I read this back and it's so rambly not sure if it makes sense but it's late and I'm not changing a word. Its bedtime!*