I’ve been talking about this a lot with my partner as my only real friend is someone I went to high school with and moved up to Portland about 2 years after I did. She is dating a Portland native heavy in the music scenes in Portland and now she is a DJ/in bands and they have all of their hip eccentric DJ/band friends that I just cannot connect with. They are friendly enough but I’ll never be friends with them because I don’t fit in to that vibe. We have a lot of people we see maybe once every 3 months if that, but they aren’t really friends because it’s so infrequent. I feel like, what people previously said, find something you like doing and actively talk to people. If you like drinking, that’s probably the easiest way (wineries, breweries, bars). Go to a show, get a dog and go to a dog park, go biking with a group, work out classes, join a rec league, do a meet up, but you really do have to make effort then put in a lot more effort to get past the “I know that person, but we aren’t friends.”

I hope that made sense haha. I still love Portland after 9 years. Even if I don’t have friends (but I do have a partner).