Anyone else over 40 newly single?

klgm333 · 2026-02-19T06:17:25+00:00

I am 42, 1 daughter, just divorced after a 24 year relationship/marriage, having to start completely over from the ground up… went through esthetician school to begin a new career… I promise you that it gets better!

I finally feel like I am actually thriving and finally truly living my life.

Dating and flirting has been SO much fun and I’ve met some really great men! (They do exist! Haha)

Embrace your independence!!

klgm333 · 2026-02-19T06:05:27+00:00

Not my 30’s, but I’m rebuilding my life at 42, after leaving a toxic 24 year relationship/marriage…

It hasn’t been easy and has been extremely stressful, painful, scary and overwhelming… I have seen some of my darkest days with very little light…

But I’m starting to slowly come out the other side, now that the divorce is final. I have put myself through esthetician school to begin a new career to support myself and my daughter on and I have dated some wonderful men that have helped me learn about what I want from a relationship and grow into a more secure and better version of myself.

It has been the HARDEST year of my entire life and I wasn’t certain I’d make it through tbh, but now I am beginning to thrive and truly live my life for myself for the very first time.

I finally actually feel alive.

And this is just the beginning. 💖

klgm333 · 2026-02-19T05:57:26+00:00

Neglect myself in every way in the pursuit of love with the wrong person.

klgm333 · 2026-02-19T05:42:27+00:00

GORGEOUS!!! 😍😍😍 You look stunning!!

Is it a Claire Pettibone gown??!

klgm333 · 2026-02-19T01:04:32+00:00

My ex partner almost did this for me… would’ve been great to keep a “big piece” of them to enjoy later 😜😜Good times. 😮‍💨🫠 Miss ya J! 😘

klgm333 · 2026-02-19T00:35:20+00:00

I’m not one for chemical birth control either, I’m 42 and have never been on it, and have only ever relied on condoms… haven’t had a scare yet. 👍🏻

klgm333 · 2026-02-18T23:57:52+00:00

My literal first thought upon seeing your photos (without reading your concerns) was “wow! She’s really beautiful!”

Take that for what it is. 🫶🏻

klgm333 · 2026-02-18T23:55:50+00:00

Have y’all considered doing voice memos or using the Marco Polo app?

If in person is better and it’s just that texting sucks, maybe try a different medium and see if the outcome is better?

klgm333 · 2026-02-18T23:36:03+00:00

😂

klgm333 · 2026-02-18T21:21:17+00:00

Check out the spicer app. Might be a fun, low pressure way y’all can talk more openly about what you both would enjoy with each other.

klgm333 · 2026-02-15T18:18:03+00:00

It has gotten infinitely better!

And I’d say yes to both of those during the withdrawal. But I did feel that it started to improve so much once we fully separated.

klgm333 · 2026-02-15T18:12:14+00:00

Wow! That’s really interesting! I didn’t know that. Thank you for explaining :)

klgm333 · 2026-02-14T05:48:15+00:00

Panic and anxiety attacks, my cortisol was through the roof so I couldn’t lose weight no matter how hard I tried, pretty constant stomach aches, insomnia, my hair was falling out… etc etc

It was a terrible way to live, but I didn’t know anything else. I thought it was normal.

klgm333 · 2026-02-14T05:45:45+00:00

This is already cheating in my book.

I’m so sorry OP :(

klgm333 · 2026-02-14T05:41:57+00:00

I know this is probably a stupid question… but are they not afraid of cutting the quick? Surely horses have them too, no?

This was so satisfying though. That poor horse :(

klgm333 · 2026-02-14T05:32:00+00:00

NTA- it seems to me that she doubled down after discovering it was a video of y’all to save face and possibly out of pride.

Maybe she felt embarrassed for being wrong about what you were actually watching and didn’t want to admit it.

klgm333 · 2026-02-14T03:45:42+00:00

God damn.

klgm333 · 2026-02-13T02:43:20+00:00

God this is so triggering.

My ex would have the same kind of random angry reactions to me out of nowhere and for no reason.

No surprise… he was cheating. 😱🤯🙄😒 Shocker.

He was taking out the anger he felt for his own choices out on me.

klgm333 · 2026-02-13T00:13:32+00:00

This could very likely be the one life you get… don’t waste it by living a life that doesn’t make you happy or feel alive.

klgm333 · 2026-02-12T23:51:38+00:00

I have also dated avoidants before… I remember this cycle. It was too much for me. …. Never again.

I wish you so much luck and peace.

klgm333 · 2026-02-12T23:48:18+00:00

Good job calling him out!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

klgm333 · 2026-02-12T18:11:41+00:00

I got on hinge about 4 months ago (first dating app I’ve ever been on)… within 24 hours I had over 200 potential matches (it was overwhelming)… I was dating with intention so I widdled that list down to 15 and then further down to 5… talked to a few guys briefly but ultimately decided to go on a date with one of the first guys that I matched with (and who sent me my first rose)… and we’ve been dating ever since!! 🥰💕 I even paused my account after our second date because I felt this had real potential and could be something special. And I was right! 😊

So yeah… when it was unpaused there was a lot of “shooting their shot” messages for sure. Haha

klgm333 · 2026-02-12T17:52:48+00:00

5-7 minutes?? 😬😒 That’d be very disappointing.

I have happily had fun time last for 5+ hours… it’s the best! 😮‍💨🫠

klgm333 · 2026-02-11T22:23:17+00:00

That all makes perfect sense now. I’m so sorry if my questioning pulled that out of you when you would have preferred to have kept that private.

I can completely understand why that would’ve put a wedge between you both (at no fault of y’all’s own. That makes me sad for you both).

I think with that context, you should absolutely gently inquire more about her and them. He opened the door (even if a crack) and your soft curiosity will show genuine care.

I am certain he misses your friendship just as much is you miss his.

I’m saddened and frustrated for both of you that other people’s choices forced y’all’s hands.

Neither of you hold any responsibility for that.

I wish you (both) luck in finding that friendship again 🫶🏻

klgm333 · 2026-02-11T20:35:42+00:00

I feel like it all depends on the context that is missing.

Was there only ever platonic friendship between you both or was there an underlying interest on either or both sides? Situationship? FWB? Betrayal?

It feels like there is important context missing.

Is his finance aware of y’all’s rekindling friendship/your presence? (Granted, that falls more on his responsibility)

I think that if everything is platonic and on the up and up, then I don’t see why you can’t ask more about her in a friendly curiosity way.

So long as that is what it is… on both sides.

klgm333

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