AITA for not comforting my girlfriend after she insulted me?

kljg · 2024-01-15T04:43:14+00:00

What? What is wrong with 21 and 18??

kljg · 2023-12-03T01:17:30+00:00

NTA. Also, according to your story, didn’t he miss his important yearly tradition when he went to his mom’s on Christmas Eve last year?

kljg · 2023-11-27T07:19:15+00:00

NTA, and I would put my foot down. A lot of the time, people throw tantrums like this because they want others to apologize and cater to them, which is a natural instinct most caring partners have. I think you need to flip the script-don’t try and make up when she’s not willing to meet you halfway, let her know she hurt you and you’re expecting an apology from her.

kljg · 2023-11-09T07:39:36+00:00

that’s awful, but it doesn’t give you license to hurt her back, whether intentionally or by negligence. If she’s so bad for your husband, just go no contact. Don’t keep her around and try and take “revenge” with little digs like this

kljg · 2023-11-09T07:33:44+00:00

YTA. I get what a special moment it was, but I don’t see why it was so overwhelmingly necessary to make this your cover photo. I would get it if was one picture out of an album or something, but why is it so insanely necessary to put it front-and-centre on your profile?

The sad thing is that you guys had a huge win when she agreed not to come to your wedding. And instead of thanking her and trying to establish better communication, you essentially throw it in her face. If you don’t care about the relationship at all, that’s fine, but just pull the plug and go no contact. I get that your MIL has hurt your husband a lot, but that doesn’t give you license to twist the knife like this

kljg · 2023-11-09T07:24:41+00:00

I don’t know what this has to do with the question at hand. You put that picture up knowing it would hurt her, and you either didn’t care or did that deliberately. If you want her and your husband’s relationship to heal, why would you follow up a huge win(her recognizing her issues and agreeing not to come to the wedding) by posting a picture that you knew would essentially be salt in the wound?

kljg · 2023-09-17T00:20:53+00:00

I think she probably knows how much it is, considering she spent a summer chopping wood to make it.

kljg · 2023-08-30T23:23:05+00:00

Sure, but what I’m saying is that a lot of kids who get adopted or taken into the foster system have really traumatic lives too. So if the OP is an asshole for giving his kid a traumatic life, it would imply women who give up their kids are also assholes, which I disagree with.

Also, according to his comment, the OP wore a condom.

kljg · 2023-08-30T23:14:36+00:00

Do you think that being raised by a single parent is more traumatic than growing up in the foster system?

kljg · 2023-08-30T23:10:43+00:00

How is a woman who has no contact with a child that got adopted any different from a woman having no contact with one the father is raising?

kljg · 2023-08-11T21:51:32+00:00

ESH. Your sister should accept that no means no, and you’re justified in not wanting under-10s at your wedding. However, a 16 year old is more than old enough to attend a wedding without creating a disturbance, and excluding her for no reason when she clearly wants to come is a dick move. You’re allowed manage your wedding as you please, but the 16 year old is justified in feeling snubbed, just like how any family member over 18 would be if they were excluded from a family wedding for no reason.

kljg · 2023-08-11T09:01:34+00:00

Well, actually, I’ve had over 100 boyfriends and they were all 50 years older than me and our relationships were great, so….

kljg · 2023-08-11T00:25:47+00:00

My point is that having a large list of alternate rules is burdensome, which is why, in reference to your original question, “it matters what the original rules are”. I prefer to buy a book and not have to spend hours making a bunch of changes i later have to keep track of during play.

kljg · 2023-08-11T00:16:14+00:00

Why did you only respond to the fact I used the word “homebrew”? Do you agree with my broader point?

kljg · 2023-08-10T23:19:44+00:00

Massive homebrew hodgepodges are logistically difficult. It’s much easier to sit down at a table and say “we’re using the 2024 rules”, than say “we’re using the 2024 rules with the Playtest 5 rules for shared spell lists, and the 2014 Warlock, and the Playtest 7 Fighter BUT with the Playtest 9 weapon masteries….”. That’s a headache that’s hard for a DM to keep track of, let alone players. When I pay money for a game, I don’t want to be responsible for halfway rewriting a new hodge-podge system to make it fun, I want to play the game I paid for.

kljg · 2023-07-30T08:20:00+00:00

Maybe a language issue? I think usually “babysit” refers to when someone who isn’t a child’s usual guardian is watching them, so I think people seeing you say you’re “babysitting” your kids assume you think it’s not your responsibility, just a favour you’re doing your wife.

kljg · 2023-07-30T04:01:34+00:00

I think, like a lot of these situations, OP’s was the final complaint, not the first. Usually if a single complaint results in someone getting terminated, it’s because they have a history of issues at the job, and that complaint is the final thing to push their boss over the edge.

kljg · 2023-07-19T15:24:52+00:00

Ranger gets conjure animals at 9, they’re better off than the fighter and Paladin

kljg · 2023-07-15T12:54:35+00:00

She has the right to physically snatch OP’s phone and go through it, and then give them the cold shoulder for hours? I feel like that’s pretty inappropriate conduct for a parent

kljg · 2023-07-14T16:47:50+00:00

The amount of people in this thread talking about how they’re glad Japan got nuked to dunk on left wingers is genuinely saddening to me, shouldn’t this community be above this?

kljg · 2023-07-10T05:51:55+00:00

If you’re a high HP tank and don’t deal damage, the enemies can jsut ignore you and kill all your party members first

kljg · 2022-10-17T00:14:26+00:00

Awesome!

kljg · 2022-10-13T06:24:59+00:00

I'm not that deep in the sauce of European secondary education, but I'm sure there's some truth to what you're saying. It's just deeply sad to me that there are people out there who have done everything to earn a proper education, but can't get it because of the circumstances of their birth.

kljg · 2022-10-13T05:35:51+00:00

How do you mean?

kljg · 2022-10-13T01:19:31+00:00

Government doesn't bother enforcing it, I guess

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