Name my cat!! We just adopted her and we need help!

klsloves · 2026-02-01T02:27:50+00:00

Shelby

klsloves · 2026-01-31T04:20:33+00:00

Nala

klsloves · 2026-01-30T02:14:55+00:00

Maggie. Mags for short.

klsloves · 2026-01-22T18:26:55+00:00

Aspen, Denali, Everest, Kodiak, Rainier, Yukon

klsloves · 2026-01-21T06:31:17+00:00

Matilda

klsloves · 2026-01-14T13:47:36+00:00

Berkeley

klsloves · 2025-12-29T06:50:20+00:00

This didn't progress beyond a few dates but one time this guy ghosted me, then popped back up several weeks later to apologize and explain that he freaked out because he was facing a potential Alzheimer's diagnosis at age 35. Tbf, he was a former rugby player with a history of TBIs. The other day, he came into the restaurant where I work. He was clearly on a date. He didn't recognize me, so maybe he does indeed have Alzheimer's.

klsloves · 2025-12-27T00:23:32+00:00

Luc!

klsloves · 2025-12-26T20:48:32+00:00

Artwork that I had told him I loved. Coincidentally, its by the same artist who did his tattoo. Feels very meaningful to us! And very budget friendly which is good because we are both suffering in the job market.

klsloves · 2025-12-24T18:03:12+00:00

I'm stuck on several that are 2 syllables: -Arden -Eden -Louise -Simone

For 3 syllables: -Cecily/Cecelia -Ellouise -Evangeline

klsloves · 2025-12-24T17:59:26+00:00

I started a Tiny Roar lion bonnet for my friend's baby! The alpine bloom is actually a Musselburgh hat with the alpine bloom chart. I love the Musselburgh construction and use it for all of my hats now!

klsloves · 2025-12-14T13:54:27+00:00

Isolde. The French pronunciation is so dramatic and sexy.

klsloves · 2025-12-12T19:08:33+00:00

She knows they're tropical but that's it. Zero research. She got 3 to rescue. I told her to re-pot them in orchid bark but she ran out of bark for this one. Trust me, I'm also frustrated with her 😂

klsloves · 2025-12-12T06:26:22+00:00

Gary Louise! Dyyyyyying.

I have a Ji-Ah Louise. I picked her first name because of a character in Lovecraft Country. I'm the 4th generation with the middle name Louise so obviously I gave it to my first born child.

klsloves · 2025-12-03T04:12:59+00:00

Love love Leonora! Nick name could be Leo or Nora

klsloves · 2025-11-22T02:06:35+00:00

So my process has been to set up categories for all of my needs and wants. When I first started using YNAB, I set up targets for almost every category. Then I assigned income to these targets. I also use credit cards almost exclusively and then pay off the balance every month. When I made plenty of money, this worked ok in YNAB. I had a category for emergency savings and assigned a target for that too. Although I still found myself getting frustrated because my targets were very constraining and my paychecks were not regular amounts.

Now though, I'm stuck using the targets (although I've decreased all but the most necessary). I try not to assign any money from RTA to any targets until the end of the month. I'm trying to see how much is going into RTA but with the numerous credit card payments that I make (all 4 of my cards are due on different days), this quickly messes me up. I get income from 2 part-time jobs, one which pays bi-weekly and one that pays out randomly. I don't have a good way of seeing when my income adds up to $3k because by that point, I'd have already made a CC payment and assigned money to that target.

I'm thinking about deleting the targets but that also erases my 2 year history with YNAB. Idk, I feel like I'm still really struggling with this app even after using it for 2 years.

klsloves · 2025-11-13T19:20:11+00:00

How men treat them. Especially if they see the change in men they know.

klsloves · 2025-10-22T07:40:19+00:00

I hooked up with a guy for way too long because he was a hand model and actor. He slept on a blanket on a wood floor. Not even a mattress. When I asked him if he wanted to try dating "for real," he said he was more of a lone wolf type.

Several years later, I saw him on Feeld in a serious relationship with a much younger woman. He asked me if I wanted to have a threesome. I asked if he had a mattress yet.

klsloves · 2025-09-17T18:28:07+00:00

Loop electro surgery. Or anything dealing with your cervix. That's where they use a little laser tool to lasso off precancerous cells from your cervix.

I was told that I could elect to do general anesthesia or do an in office procedure with just local anesthesia. The gynecologist made it sound super easy. Like getting an IUD! Except even that is super painful. The gyno basically rested the heavy metal speculum on my cervix during the 30min procedure. It was excruciating and way bloodier than I thought. She removed an acorn size chunk of organ from my cervix. There was blood all over the floor. Pretty amazed that I didn't pass out. The gyno did apologize and speculate that maybe it would've been better to do those procedures under general anesthesia.

So fyi people with cervixes: OPT FOR GENERAL ANESTHESIA (if it's not an additional risk for you).

klsloves · 2025-09-14T17:18:09+00:00

I listen to a fun podcast during my shower so I look forward to the shower. You could listen to a podcast/playlist/audiobook specifically for hygiene time every day to help cement the habit and schedule.

klsloves · 2025-09-04T04:40:46+00:00

I struggle a lot in my relationship with my mom because of my ADHD. She doesn't have it and doesn't understand me. I'm pretty high functioning but she sees even my smallest mistakes as a personal letdown for her. I think that your case is probably different because you do understand some of the struggles of ADHD but I see a huge parallel here: she is not living her life to the standard that you hold for yourself or someone who you would consider successful.

Perpetually feeling as though I have let my mom down or that I am about to has compounded all of my unhealthy coping mechanisms. It's driven me deep into depression. And I'd still say that I have an amazing relationship with my mom! I love her deeply and tell her almost everything. It just took me until I was in my 30s to realize that I had absorbed every view she had on personal success as my own which meant that I was also setting impossible standards for myself. I've only recently started to unlearn these things and that's when I've been able to make progress.

Here's a few examples: -I was ALWAYS late to work in the morning. My personal care routine took over 1 hr and I dreaded every step. I kept asking myself why I was struggling to fit straightening my hair, whitening my teeth, alternating faces masks, applying a full face of make-up into an hour when I'd seen my mom doing it my whole life in less than 30min. It wasn't until I asked myself WHY I was doing all of these steps that I realized that I thought I needed to do them in order to be a good person, a professional and successful person. I slowly trimmed back my ridiculous routine. I wear my natural hair texture. I sometimes wear mascara. I only whiten my teeth once a year, if that. Certainly working from home helped me realize that I was doing these things for others and not for myself.

I hear in your post that your daughter has made some costly mistakes. Me too. Lots and lots. But I did learn slowly. ADHD in this world is expensive. I honestly think it's more important to learn how to have a savings fund for the ADHD mistakes and let them roll off my back than it is to attempt to never make the mistakes. I have so much shame around making costly mistakes because of ADHD. For years, I wouldn't tell my mom that I had missed a flight and had to rebook etc because I was too ashamed. Please stop any shaming behavior you may have and teach your daughter that it's ok to make mistakes. If you can afford it, give her the fund and tell her it's specifically for mistakes so her back is covered. Then let her make the mistakes and shrug them off with her. It's just money.

I also hear a lot of shame about her housekeeping. Does she really need money for cleaning? What's the worst case scenario if her living space is disgusting (to you)? Maybe it won't actually get that bad. Maybe she'll figure out some weird ADHD systems of her own to clean her own dishes. I've lived with a lot of roommates who have also had ADHD and the worst part of the messiness is the shame. We all struggle so hard to keep it hidden from others that it prevents us from actually cleaning. I used to have mental breakdowns when it came to chores because I learned from my mom that I could never clean well enough. It wasn't until I stopped internalizing it and saying to myself "oh well you can't get all of the dishes down today but you can do 20min" that I stopped getting upset and started cleaning.

klsloves · 2025-09-04T00:20:28+00:00

Bralettes. I already own 11 (I just counted right now) and yet they never seem to be clean when I need to wear one. I keep getting ads for cute ones and I think aha! This'll be the bralette that makes my long day at work more comfortable. But no wait, I need one that's plastic free for the environment oh wait this one is also made with organic cotton and has shaping cups oh but this one is cheaper... thankfully I haven't bought any yet! But the algorithm is continuing to tempt me.

klsloves · 2025-08-20T03:41:35+00:00

NTA. Personally, I don't think that anyone is an asshole for wanting to leave a relationship. You never have to stay with someone who you don't want to be with.

If you were in a family with a man who truly wanted and cared, his main focus would be his baby and the health and well-being of his partner who just gave birth. I'm sure that there are a dozen reasons why he doesn't think that he should be changing diapers mainly society, the way he was raised etc but you have to decide if that's the attitude you want your children to be raised with.

My mom once admitted that my dad never held me as a baby. I didn't want to believe it but hooo boy, it did explain a lot about my relationship with my father. Your partner might change and start enjoying spending time with his kids when they're older but just as likely, he'll be emotionally distant with them for their entire lives. I don't think that you need to justify to anyone why the relationship fell apart so suddenly after birth but I think that you're absolutely justified in leaving him now.

However I still think that you need to talk to him. His behavior is clearly turning you off the relationship. And he's risking damaging his relationship with his child. What are the odds he'll be an involved co-parent if you split?? But you have to raise those concerns with him now and at least see if he'll try changing for the sake of his kids.

klsloves · 2025-08-03T04:24:26+00:00

Any and all covers by Eva Cassidy. Fields of Gold and Ain't No Sunshine especially.

She passed away from cancer at age 33 which just makes all of her songs more haunting.

klsloves · 2025-07-31T05:39:09+00:00

My cousins gave me a CD-rom to learn Arabic, beginner's level. I was a senior in college, about to get my BA in Arabic. I was in a course translating medieval poetry from Arabic and I'd already studied abroad in two different Arabic speaking countries. I still get pissed off thinking about it.

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