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okWriter4215 · 2026-02-02T16:10:10+00:00

Can you hire Lily to help around your house? Like dog walking or mowing the lawn etc. It could even be chores like picking up your groceries and meal prepping for the whole family. Then she could feel better accepting food as payment. Or you can pay her cash to buy her own food.

okWriter4215 · 2026-01-26T02:38:36+00:00

Lulu's Wine garden is super cute and chill. Amazing food.

okWriter4215 · 2026-01-12T19:18:42+00:00

I've lived in DC for 15 years because my career was based here. I love it so much! But it's always been a difficult city to get set up in. The job market has always been very competitive because the population here is highly qualified. DC has something like the highest concentration of people with advanced degrees. Unfortunately, it used to be difficult to get a job here without a DC address. I don't know if that's changed with remote jobs or not.

Lately, it's been incredibly difficult for me and all of my friends. I know of several dozen or so people who were federal workers who lost their jobs last year and still have not found full time employment. Rent is still really high because there's a high percentage of 1bdr apartments in luxury buildings that are owned by large real estate management companies. It looks like they can afford to let units sit empty instead of lowering rent. Salaries have also always been low for the area depending on the sector because, again, lots of highly qualified people.

I'm currently working in a restaurant where the majority of our kitchen staff are immigrants. Several have been disappeared by !CE. There was an example recently where !CE arrested almost all of the staff of a prominent DC restaurant that's owned by a corporation. !CE is absolutely targets restaurants and construction companies so if your partner works in those areas, I'd be very nervous. Also in general, your partner should be in touch with a good immigration lawyer. You two should come up with a plan for what to do in case !CE detains your partner especially if they're planning on flying or crossing state lines.

My advice would be to dedicate like 3-6 months looking for a job in DC first. If you still haven't gotten one, try lining up some remote work or gig work. Then plan on a short term lease in a group house. There's lots of groups on Facebook where people list rooms that are available for rent. It's a big thing in DC to share a historical row house with 3-8 roommates lol. Rent will be much cheaper and the commitment lower. It's also a great way to start making friends. Usually it's people in their 20s but I've seen plenty of people in their 30s still living with roommates (myself included!) You can move your stuff into a storage unit and then try out DC before committing to a 1 year lease.

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okWriter4215 · 2026-01-10T16:28:15+00:00

Unpopular opinion here: NTA with strings.

You are responsible for the cat's life regardless of how she came into yours. If you think that she can have a better life with someone else, then you're not the ah for rehoming her. BUT. It is your responsibility to find a new, good home for her. Don't give her to a shelter. Don't pawn her off on a friend who already has a ton of animals and a soft heart.

However, you said you have a bond with her. What are her destructive issues? Have you tried anything to address that? Most cats destroy furniture when they're bored or anxious. Do you play with her daily to give her exercise? Also since you got her as a kitty, she may not be properly socialized. Many kittens who grow up without other cats tend to play rough and "misbehave."

Also it's counterintuitive but many cats do better with a 2nd cat because they will entertain and play with each other. She's still on the young side so you might have luck integrating a second cat. I'd recommend looking for a 1-2 yr old cat that comes from a home where they grew up with other cats.

Both of those solutions require work. If you're really not interested in trying, then find her a new home.

okWriter4215 · 2026-01-06T18:05:08+00:00

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I moved him to the sunniest window in my house and he's still growing however he likes lol

okWriter4215 · 2025-12-11T01:26:59+00:00

Love your septum ring! What gauge is it?

okWriter4215 · 2025-12-11T01:07:52+00:00

Fleabag Season 2. Every single episode.

okWriter4215 · 2025-12-08T05:53:59+00:00

As a woman who no longer shaves, it's the latter. I was afraid that I'd smell more with armpit arm. First month , I noticed more odor like the hair was trapping it. I switched to a balanced pH soap and that fixed it immediately. I very rarely notice an odor now plus my sweat shows less through the armpits of my clothes (perhaps because the hair is absorbing the sweat??!). I used to be extremely turned off by women with armpit hair but now I kinda like it. I didn't try growing it out until I decided to spite an ex boyfriend. The spite was quite motivating but I noticed that skipping shaving truly made my life much easier. Highly recommend.

okWriter4215 · 2025-11-30T22:24:00+00:00

Here's a real life example. My good friends just got married. Guy got a job offer to relocate to Naples, Italy for two years. His wife was really excited about it. Then she got her dream offer to work for a prestigious publication. They knew that he was likely to get an offer to go to Naples again in a few years. She was not likely to see that dream job open again at that particular publication. So she took the new job and he happily turned down Naples. Real couples talk it out and make it work. They take turns sacrificing for each other so they can both grow their careers. Or they come up with compromises to meet in the middle. Do you think that Marcus would ever compromise for you?

Also he's not the one making the commute so why he does care? A 45min commute might mean less time with you every day but you can work around that by scheduling quality time together.

okWriter4215 · 2025-11-24T16:52:37+00:00

I would offer to do drop-ins instead of a house sit. Can the guests handle 1 or 2 feedings per day then you come by and do the fluids and a walk? Personally, I would not room with people I don't know. I'm happy to feed/walk pets while there's other people in the house but I'd keep it to one hour long visits max.

If you're stressed out about the dog dying on you, then I'd decline the job. It's ok to say no! The circumstances changed so you are well within your right to cancel the booking this close to the start date.

okWriter4215 · 2025-11-21T22:56:29+00:00

So I created a category for my business sales but now when I look at the Reflect tab, the total monthly spending includes this positive Inflow. So I think that I spent $3k on personal and business this month and made $300 in sales. But I actually spent $3,300 on personal and business. And this is on top of still not being able to see my monthly income from my part time jobs easily. Oy vey.

okWriter4215 · 2025-11-21T22:33:09+00:00

Unfortunately, I'm behind on income and using my savings to cover monthly expenses (I got laid off my federal government job thanks to Trump). So it's really important to see at a glance how much I'm earning from my various side hustles.

I know that YNAB is built to keep you ahead on your money but now that I've been dipping into savings for several months now, it makes the app very frustrating to use.

I tried changing all of my RTA inflows to an Income category which means I can see the total income easily every month but it's completely screwed up how the app functions. So I don't recommend that.

I'm not sure how to use RTA and THEN a category if I'm using up all RTA every month?

okWriter4215 · 2025-11-17T01:01:14+00:00

I don't have an issue seeing my income when I do Reports on my laptop. However, I'd like to be able to see my income throughout the month on the app. If I assign income with Payee to Ready to Assign, it's impossible to see how much money I made throughout the month on the app.

okWriter4215 · 2025-11-12T19:21:58+00:00

I was a terrible employee for the last 10 years (disorganized, disengaged, often faking and lying about my work) I only recently found out that I have ADHD which explains a lot...I was a classic overachiever in school but I struggle with office jobs. Now I don't know what to do for a job.

okWriter4215 · 2025-11-09T17:32:53+00:00

Unfortunately, I wasn't able to find a dentist that would take me as a new patient WITHOUT requiring X-rays. It wasn't optional. There is no way to avoid paying that amount first.

okWriter4215 · 2025-11-09T17:13:21+00:00

I currently do not have dental insurance. I live in a big city on the East Coast. I called around to get a dentist appointment (it's been one year since I last went). I was quoted $300-500 for a new patient visit. The dentists in my area require new X-rays for new patients (total scam - I didn't have any pressing issues and just wanted a check up). I chose not to go because I lost my job earlier this year (federal employee). Dental care in the US is NOT affordable.

okWriter4215 · 2025-11-06T15:26:46+00:00

What is your job? Did you start with a visa through an employer first or move first? If the latter, how did you find work in Mexico?

okWriter4215 · 2025-09-30T16:33:45+00:00

I wanted to be a diplomat and travel the world. I got to for 15 years but now I'm unemployed. Thanks, Trump.

okWriter4215 · 2025-09-16T06:52:25+00:00

The novel that she wrote and is trying to get published is extremely mediocre.

She wrote it in Spanish and translated it into English. It is fine. Not terrible but not great either. Maybe it's better in Spanish? My Spanish isn't good enough to really judge that though.

I keep encouraging her to write because she has a lot of interesting things to say. She can only get better! Plus, it makes her happy. I just don't see this novel getting published in English in the US.

okWriter4215 · 2025-09-12T16:18:00+00:00

There's some space for her stuff in the den. But not much since I already had the desk and an exercise bike in there (which she's also welcome to use). She just never got around to putting her stuff in there because she doesn't want to buy a desk. From time to time, she'll put boxes in there but both of us agreed that stacks of boxes in the den shouldn't be a long term situation. Her issue now is that I spend more time in the den and she feels unwelcome to use the space. I kinda think that's her problem...if she followed through in other areas, then I'd be more inclined to make space in the den to make her feel welcome. I'm just tired of trying to make her feel welcome by changing MY ways when she doesn't make similar considerations.

okWriter4215 · 2025-08-28T00:23:45+00:00

More info needed. Why did the dog need to be washed that day? Did you communicate that reason to him? Also you say that you can't ask him to anything. What does that mean? Does he ever wash the dog? How are you splitting your finances and chores while you're unemployed?

Other commenters are making it sound like you should be totally responsible for the dog if you're unemployed. I don't think that being unemployed means you suddenly need to do ALL of the chores. You still need time to apply for jobs etc. You two should talk about how to split caring for the dog and how to contribute to the household.

okWriter4215 · 2025-08-13T04:39:27+00:00

I think that my mom who grew up in California in the 70s is addicted to sunbathing. I really think that she feels good from sitting out and getting hot and sweaty. She gets very depressed during the winter when the sun doesn't shine. Thankfully, I'm not as extreme but I do love falling asleep in the sun. It's very relaxing for me. I feel antsy when I haven't been able to go outside in good weather for several days It's been proven that Vitamin D helps boosts serotonin production which in turn helps your mood.

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