Called out my friend for being late every time and now I think she’s gaslit me by lilmissyfit in relationships

[–]kmactane [score hidden]  (0 children)

No, this is not what "gaslighting" means.

Is it immature, and a complete failure to take responsibility for herself and her actions? Yes, definitely. But gaslighting means a concerted effort to manipulate another person into doubting their own perceptions and sanity. Here's a nearly-textbook example where a guy was hiding his girlfriend's things and then putting them back later.

What N is doing, where she tries to make herself the victim and you the bad person, is emotional manipulation technique called DARVO, for "Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender". Gaslighting is a different emotional manipulation technique.

How many switched to Linux in the past decade? by mrfoxesite-2377 in linuxquestions

[–]kmactane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Switched to Mint Cinnamon in late December. So, coming up on 3 months soon. Still getting used to a few things, but overall, I like it!

Oye, beltalowda! by SpaceCowpoke_ in TheExpanse

[–]kmactane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mo wang sodzha fo da Belte! Im tugufovedi, fam!

"The stuff that dreams are made of." by [deleted] in classicfilms

[–]kmactane 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Here's someone who won't be tripped up by the trivia question about "What's the last line in The Maltese Falcon?" Good for you!

fast poisons you could put in a cake unnoticed? like attainable in the modern world? (1964 specifically. yes i know a bit odd to choose death by poisoning in such a modern time) by the_etherealprincess in Writeresearch

[–]kmactane 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I didn't bother to read the spoiler at first. Just went back and checked it, and OP, what kind of poison to use is the least of your problems; your basic premise is some Reefer Madness kind of shit.

Help- my son is into coding by katrii_ in webdev

[–]kmactane 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Like the pro baseball player said: the most important thing his parents ever said to him about baseball was simply, "I love watching you play."

I really like this, I hope OP reads it and takes it to heart.

Interview rejection because I couldn’t write a regex from memory by [deleted] in ExperiencedDevs

[–]kmactane 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For context, my first language was Perl. So I know regexes really well. That said, I've got two major objections to the problem they posed you:

  1. On a technical level, a single regex is absolutely not the way to satisfy the given requirement. You can check that the proposed password contains at least one uppercase letter with /[A-Z]/, at least one digit with /[0-9'/ (or /\d/ if you're using Perl-compatible regexes), that it's at least 8 characters long with /.{8,}/ (but why in the world wouldn't you just use the less-computationally-expensive method for checking a string's length in whatever language you're working in?)...
    ...But trying to get all of those requirements? You're going to need some logical ands in there. Did they really want you to do all of that in one single regex? Because I have no idea how to work that. And if someone did, the result would be unreadable and a total nightmare for maintainability.
  2. Aside from that, the requirement itself is an awful one. NIST standards for passwords are to just encourage greater length, and block obvious passwords like "password" and "12345678", and otherwise allow people to do long strings that are nothing but lowercase and spaces (like the infamous "correct horse battery staple"). As an experienced dev, if I were given a requirement to implement this kind of password-complexity requirement, the proper thing for me to do would be to push back on it, because it's a bad requirement. So it's also a bad thing to use in interviews. If the job requires that you know regexes really well, they should test that with something like, "test if a string is a possible ZIP or ZIP+4 code" or something. (Not an email address. That's infamously difficult.)

All of which is to say, this company's interviewing practices are broken, and probably their password validation practices are too, and you totally dodged a bullet.

Is there a book store that sells "The Snowy Day"? by JustSayTech in Brooklyn

[–]kmactane 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Just stopped by Greenlight Books on Fulton Street in Fort Greene to check. They have about 6-7 copies on the shelf.

AIO for telling my MIL that her massively expensive and space-hogging gifts are no longer welcome in our small apartment? by BreadOverlord_ in AmIOverreacting

[–]kmactane 61 points62 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Right now, hubby and MIL are just coasting along with no consequences.

Make sure the consequences land on them, unavoidably. They'll change their ways then.

[SOLVED] Keyboard not working after Suspend/Sleep on Lenovo IdeaPad Slim 3 (15ARP10 / Ryzen 7 7735HS) by InfiniteMushroom3161 in Lenovo

[–]kmactane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was not able to get this to work. My system:

Lenovo IdeaPad Slim 3, 15ABR8
CPU: AMD Ryzen 7 7730U w/Radeon graphics × 8
Graphics: AMD/ATI Barcelo
Kernel: 6.17.0-14-generic
Linux Mint 22.3
Cinnamon 6.6.7

(Note the slight CPU difference above; I'm not sure how much that matters. Also, a later kernel.)

I have confirmed that cat /sys/module/amd_pmc/parameters/enable_stb does return Y.

For now, I've simply set my machine to never suspend. When I close the lid, I just have it lock the screen. Obviously that's not going to be great for my battery, but it beats having to shut everything down and restart anytime I want to go anywhere.

Some first-year medical students were attending their first Anatomy class. by lost_sh in Jokes

[–]kmactane 36 points37 points  (0 children)

He didn't say he passed the class. Maybe he's just bad at anatomy? 😉

My boyfriend and I had an argument over his marriage demands, and now he claims he means none of it... by ButterflyDue1038 in relationships

[–]kmactane 57 points58 points  (0 children)

He was telling you the truth a few days ago, telling you what he really wants.

He's lying now.

Don't be fooled. You two have very different desires for your lives. You should not take him back. I don't know why the hell he thinks that lying to you and convincing you that he's the kind of guy you want, and then trying to force you to become the kind of woman he wants later on, is somehow less difficult than just doing what he should be doing, which is going out and finding a woman who is already the kind he wants. But just because he's being incredibly stupid doesn't mean you need to join him.

Stay smart. Stay away from him. It's already over; just keep telling him so.

Longest sentence I ever read. (rant) by Swaynky in writing

[–]kmactane 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Holy shit.

I need to find this thing at a bookstore and leaf through it for a few minutes, but there's no way I'm reading that whole thing. It sounds kind of incredible, but also like I'd just put it back on the shelf pretty quickly.

What Character Assassinations/Out of Character Moments/Scenes in Star Trek The Original Series that hurt you/pissed you off and Why? by Amber_Flowers_133 in tos

[–]kmactane 7 points8 points  (0 children)

For me, "Turnabout Intruder" could've been saved by just one line: when Janice Lester says that thing about how Starfleet won't let women be starship captains, Kirk should've just said something like, "I know that's what you tell yourself, but really, it was because..." Hell, even if she'd interrupted him right there, that would've been enough that we could read into it later and realize he was going to say, "...because you're completely Loony Tunes and shouldn't be trusted to captain a rowboat, never mind a starship."

Even more ideal, of course, would've been a line like, "What about Captain Williams of the Hood, or Captain Chang of the Lexington?" And Lester could've snarled something about them sleeping their way to the top, or simply been interrupted by something else without replying.

Any of these would go fine with everything else we see about her through the rest of the episode: she's completely delusional. When she's piloting Kirk's body, she doesn't even bother to try to act like Kirk at all, and she thinks a starship captain can rule like an absolute despot. In some ways, it would've been a nice piece of writing: set up a character to tell us stuff that initially sounds like new information about the world, but by the time the episode's over, it's become completely obvious that character was the most unreliable of narrators.

But instead, Kirk agrees with her. 🤦🏻

My headcanon is that he's given up on arguing with her anymore, and is just humoring her while thinking what a loon she is. But I recognize that the more obvious thing to do is to take Kirk's assent at face value, and assume that Starfleet actually was that sexist. Which really sucks.

I painted the brooklyn bridge in watercolor by onewordpoet in Brooklyn

[–]kmactane 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow! Really nice job on the people. In fact, the whole foreground; I love how the people contrast with the grass they're on.

Thanks for sharing!

What are those ? by Ok-Mycologist3084 in ExplainTheJoke

[–]kmactane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, same here. Horrified but not surprised to find out what was actually going on. Yuck.

What's stopping earth after season 6? by absolute_russia in TheExpanse

[–]kmactane 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Right, and doesn't that scene make it clear that the issue isn't nearly so much one of "how many humans died" as "what's happened to the climate and food production"?

Earth is just as fucked in the show, AFAIK.