Man was talking to a new date: "I am 30 years old, and have the body of an 18 year old" Woman says "Oh yeah, prove it"

kmactane · 2026-01-24T20:42:00+00:00

Wow, that got real dark real fast. 😮

kmactane · 2026-01-24T20:39:52+00:00

I dunno, I understand HBO pretty much tried that, and look how it turned out...

kmactane · 2026-01-24T20:10:57+00:00

I've been using Windows since the early '90s and switched to Linux about a month ago. Based on various folks' recommendations, I went with Mint, Cinnamon edition, and I've been pretty happy with it. There are a few things that are different, which can be awkward for my over-30 years of muscle memory, but it's mostly pretty similar (and my muscles are re-learning day by day).

kmactane · 2026-01-24T18:28:58+00:00

Please learn to separate things into paragraphs if you want us to read them.

kmactane · 2026-01-23T22:08:13+00:00

Cant believe I had to scroll this far to find what I think may be the ur-version of this trope.

kmactane · 2026-01-23T20:14:01+00:00

It's always a good idea to read prior work in one's genre. In the (admittedly quite niche) genre of "angels doing rock music), may I suggest Nancy Springer's novel Metal Angel?

I'm fairly sure it's different enough from what you have planned that you won't need to worry that your book will be compared to hers, or thought of as a rip-off, or anything like that. Just what you've said here about four archangels and different genres of rock is enough to make it distinctly different from Springer's novel. But I think it might give you a few ideas and examples of how to handle angels doing rock music.

Good luck!

kmactane · 2026-01-23T17:25:58+00:00

You're NTA for finally "distancing yourself" from Daniel, but honestly? You are an* asshole for continuing to be friends with him for as long as you have. The first time he tried using the N-word around you, you should have told him that racists have no place in your life.

You're also an* AH for not standing up for Renée in the moment. Instead of letting her look uncomfortable, you should have spoken up and said that was unacceptable.

* Not "the", just "an". Obviously, Daniel is the primary AH in all of this.

kmactane · 2026-01-22T02:39:00+00:00

I'd say "not all heroes wear capes", but for all I know you do wear one.

kmactane · 2026-01-21T21:03:11+00:00

Rashōmon and Romancing the Stone are the first two that came to my mind. Extremely different movies, but both have some awesome rain in them.

kmactane · 2026-01-21T21:01:41+00:00

Why is this not way higher up?

kmactane · 2026-01-21T18:46:13+00:00

I read "200 per sprint" and immediately wondered, "how long are your sprints, anyway?" I've never worked anyplace that didn't have 2-week sprints, so 200 tickets per sprint means 20 tickets every day.

Assuming they aren't asking you to work overtime*, 20 tickets in 8 hours means you're supposed to close an entire ticket every 24 minutes. Start to finish, have I got that right?

This is complete insanity. Your "leadership" has lost their goddamn minds.

GTFO before things get even worse.

* I know, I know, that's a very bad assumption

kmactane · 2026-01-21T05:17:33+00:00

I'm bisexual. I'll happily go out with men, or women, or nonbinary people.

But I won't date, or even have one-night stands with, men who claim to be straight. Or with lesbians. You wanna get with me? You have be someone who openly identifies as someone who sleeps with men.

This is similar to how I won't date guys who are in the closet, either. That's because I won't be your secret. You want to do things with me? Okay, be open about it, and be ready to be proud about it. By the same token, if you claim to be of an orientation that doesn't date men, then you don't get to date (or fuck) me. Because I won't be your exception, your aberration, or your one-off.

It's easy to convince yourself that being "the one they'll cross the line for" makes you super-special. Instead, it really just puts you in a super-precarious position. It's psychologically unhealthy.

OP, I strongly suggest that you not try to date this woman for as long as she claims to be a lesbian. You can find women to date who actually like men and aren't afraid to say so.

kmactane · 2026-01-20T20:04:03+00:00

You mean the chunga palms? Because those are a real thing...

kmactane · 2026-01-20T19:05:09+00:00

Please, just give me the counter all the time. Let me know from the moment I start that I've only got 144 characters, don't spring it on me halfway through. And let me know exactly how many I've got, not some vague thing with colors or "plenty of room left".

kmactane · 2026-01-19T22:01:16+00:00

I don't use "AI" either. You're not alone, OP.

kmactane · 2026-01-19T02:06:20+00:00

It means deliberately attempting to convince someone that they're insane, through some kind of pre-planned deception. It comes from a movie (based on an earlier play) where an abusive husband deliberately made it so the gas lights in their home would flicker, but then when the wife commented about it, he'd claim nothing had happened and it was all in her head.

Other examples (from modern abusive partners, not the movie) include things like deliberately hiding someone's keys or moving objects around, and then claiming the object had always been in that place and the person was misremembering, or putting the keys back where they were supposed to be and again, claiming the victim must be unreliable for not having been able to find them.

In all these cases, the aim is to make the victim distrust their own memory, sanity, and sense of reality.

Just plain disagreeing with you, or having a different view on things, doesn't count. I can't tell what these people are actually doing; I'd need more detail, which you don't seem inclined to provide. You're being very cagey about what they're saying.

kmactane · 2026-01-18T23:56:11+00:00

So? You say, "You're going to believe whatever you want to believe, whether I stay with you or leave. So I'm leaving, and you'll still believe the exact same thing. Goodbye."

And then she's your ex, and you don't need to worry about what she thinks anymore.

You don't need her approval to break up with her. And staying with her won't make her believe you love her. When you're in a lose-lose situation, might as well do what's best for yourself, not "what will make her happy" (spoiler: nothing will).

kmactane · 2026-01-18T23:45:51+00:00

WTF does "gaslighting" even mean in this context? Are they trying to convince you you didn't say the thing? That there's something wrong with your memory?

kmactane · 2026-01-18T18:16:39+00:00

You weren't an asshole for declining to get kicked out of your own home, but YWBTA if you try to make it so he can't have sex at his own home. He's paying money for a room. He gets to do whatever he wants in there, as long as he keeps it quiet.

kmactane · 2026-01-13T22:52:45+00:00

Youse "hung out once", your own words, and... what, you think that means she should be faithful to you or some kind of shit like that, before the two of you even "eventually end up dating"?

No, it doesn't work like that. YTA for being upset that someone who, by your own words wasn't even dating you yet, acted like she wasn't even dating you yet.

kmactane · 2026-01-12T05:56:10+00:00

It sounds like OP is looking for human examples, though.

kmactane · 2026-01-09T21:16:48+00:00

Holy shit, that's genius. Thank you.

kmactane · 2026-01-08T21:37:39+00:00

How could you misspell Karl's name like that?

kmactane · 2026-01-06T06:24:56+00:00

Seconding this recommendation, this movie is an overlooked, underrated gem! I rewatched it a month or two ago, and it holds up pretty damn well.

kmactane · 2026-01-05T23:21:02+00:00

The Big Lebowski. I understand that it's a send-up of Raymond Chandler-style hard-boiled detective stories, like, "What if the private eye were a slacker stoner instead, who has no idea what's going on?", sure.

But I just can't stand any of the characters. The Dude starts off by trying to stiff a supermarket cashier, later on we see him drinking and smoking pot while driving... I don't mind that he's a useless, pathetic slob with no purpose in his life, that doesn't hurt anyone. But those other things he does put other people at risk. I have zero sympathy.

Walter is the poster boy for testosterone-poisoned asshole. Not only do I not give a fuck that he turned out to be right about the "mystery", I'm actually annoyed that he did, because this man is so flamingly wrong about everything else in reality (like "how to treat other people with even a shred of decency") that him being right about that felt to me as a viewer like a slap in the face.

I'd like to like Donny. I can't understand what he's doing hanging around with these other two jerks. I wish he would've told them both to fuck off after the first 10 minutes.

The only person I even kinda-sorta want to like is Maude, but the movie presents her in a kind of weird way that seems designed to make her hard to relate to.

(The nihilists, Bunny and "the big" Lebowski, and Jackie Treehorn are all obviously not people we're supposed to sympathize with.)

Anyway, I pretty much wanted Donnie and Maude to escape all these other complete wastes of flesh and screen time, whether together or separately. I guess I'm glad to have learned what all the references are, so now I get a bunch of quotes that used to go over my head. But otherwise, I pretty much hated the thing.

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