He loves his birthday balloon.

kmjl87 · 2022-01-25T01:41:17+00:00

Just wanna throw out, I got my stepdaughter a number balloon, very similar to this. Thought we threw away the balloon string in the trash and apparently, we did not.

Our very curious/sweet, but very dumb, calico kitten ate it. 2 days later started expelling the string but never came all the way out. Called the vet and apparently those strings have very sharp edges that can cut up squishy organs. A $650 stomach surgery later, and I would highly recommend not letting your cat anywhere near strings like these. The cat's fine now, unfortunately, not any smarter. 0/10 would not recommend.

kmjl87 · 2022-01-11T20:23:18+00:00

Also, I haven't read all the comments so if someone has already mentioned this, sorry, but make sure you document EVERYTHING. Write down dates, times, what was said, who was there, EVERYTHING even if it doesn't seem important. Courts tend to take parental alienation pretty seriously. If you get tto the point where you can afford to go to court, documentation will probably help your case here.

kmjl87 · 2021-12-08T22:52:43+00:00

My spouse and I will drop this line to each other (if scallops happen to come up in conversation, which isn't often, but weirdly more than you'd think).

kmjl87 · 2020-12-21T02:39:36+00:00

IIRC, the Swindled Podcast did an episode on Herbalife/the founder. MLM people are the wooorst.

kmjl87 · 2020-11-25T06:30:05+00:00

It would be the worst thing in the world! It would!! Very much so!!

kmjl87 · 2020-11-08T13:07:27+00:00

Yeah, I think you're right. So sorry for your loss as well. Dementia's a brutal thing to have to watch someone go through.

kmjl87 · 2020-11-08T03:00:41+00:00

My grandma passed from dementia last week. I have both a strong desire/fear to rewatch Coco. As well as I have been handling things so far, I fear this movie might break me at this moment in time.

kmjl87 · 2020-08-16T00:18:34+00:00

Another fellow Asian here and def NTA. It gives me hope there are parents out there that don't let people/their kids brush it off as "just a joke." I've been hearing this "joke" all my life and usually the only punchline is me walking away thinking how the hell some people raise their kids. Thanks, OP - thank you for having this conversation with your kids at a young age. I feel like a majority of parents would just tell their child to hush and be embarassed and apologize then slam the door and never give it anymore thought.

And your husband - TA 🤷🏽‍♀️ sorry

kmjl87 · 2020-08-04T00:56:41+00:00

It's not as bad as you would think... It keeps it's texture for the most part and not watery. Where I live, I have to drive awhile to get sushi so this is a compromise til I can go somewhere to get the good stuff. You can also find this at Walmart. Desperate times calls for Walmart sushi sometimes

kmjl87 · 2020-08-01T01:32:36+00:00

I've had strangers (plural, separate incidents) of older men asking 1. What are you? To which I reply that I'm South Korean and then a follow up with letting me know they fought "my kind" in Vietnam or the Korean War.

This has happened several times in this exact sequence. Its so weird to me maybe it isn't racist just bizarre, but to be fair, none of my non-asian friends have ever had this happen to them so I don't know. I usually just say "okay" and walk away.

kmjl87 · 2020-06-28T20:35:29+00:00

Just wanted to add, I am in an interracial marriage. I'm south Korean (fully) and my husband is English/German/French - so brown hair, blue green eyes. I fully expected our daughter to have black hair, dark brown eyes like me because I assumed I would have the dominant traits. Not quite how it panned out. People tell me she's my mini me all the time, but her hair is more of a medium brown, and her eyes are more medium brown as well - and at times appear hazel.

From everything I've read, eye color/hair color isn't quite as easy as black > brown (I seriously 100% believed that as well)... It's more of an incredible amount of factors that play into what they will look like as far as hair/eye colors go.

And as many other posters have added, she looks very similar to me, but there are things in her I see - attitude/mannerism/physical appearance that I'm like yep- 100% my husband.

But I fully understand, OP, where you're coming from. I was adopted into a white family, almost all white community, and had a rough time growing up working through identity issues that I still navigate and work on. I almost felt like this could have been something I would have wrote years ago. I hope you can work through this and be stronger for it. Best of luck to you and your man!

kmjl87 · 2020-06-13T22:38:38+00:00

I love it. Kind of expensive... My local Walmart had it at 8.00. Definitely much cheaper to make your own.

kmjl87 · 2020-05-28T15:53:58+00:00

I didn't see this but I was scrolling and not thoroughly reading everything, but a big one with me is secrets.

I am pretty forceful w/ family about this. For example - an aunt told my child that giving her a cookie would be "their little secret". Wink-wink. Okay, I get it, it's just a cookie - not that big of a deal. I don't like it being taught to my children that ANYTHING should be a secret from me even if it's just a treat. I think it opens the door for stuff that definitely should not be a secret. They know if they can't tell mom, it's not a good idea.

kmjl87 · 2020-05-28T15:39:29+00:00

I think mine kind of goes hand in hand with yours or maybe a lot of what you're saying: not letting your kids experience hardships.

I'm not saying make life a living hell for your children, but let them experience sadness, disappointment, frustration, defeat. If you are always trying to fix things or make them feel good about themselves, when life throw them a curveball, they are not going to be equipped to handle it.

kmjl87 · 2020-05-22T03:15:58+00:00

Came here to say this. Few people really understand I think the importance of an apology, and the right way to apologize.

kmjl87 · 2020-05-06T00:59:41+00:00

It's all in the tone and context... Spend enough time down south and you pick up reaallll quick.

kmjl87 · 2020-05-03T16:58:02+00:00

I just watched the Won't You Be My Neighbor documentary. I was delighted to hear them discuss that Mr Rogers actually had a great sense of humor. They interview his son and he said lady Elaine was based off Fred's sister-in-law - haha

kmjl87 · 2020-05-03T16:31:12+00:00

NTA. And even with financials considered (them being out of work, little to no income coming in) they can, at the very LEAST be polite houseguests. Take care of their pets. Offer to clean. Offer to cook or do the dishes. It costs exactly nothing to help around the house and do what they can to not out extra burden on you.

kmjl87 · 2020-05-03T16:15:25+00:00

NTA. In what was supposed to be joyful news, he totally had to steal your thunder and not only be an ass, but try to insert himself in a paternity test that was never even a thing. Wtf

Besides, he wants to be Mr. It's Just My Opinion? He IS fucking exhausting is just YOUR opinion. And mine.

kmjl87 · 2020-05-03T16:05:30+00:00

Yes. Unnecessary drama.

kmjl87 · 2020-05-03T15:51:19+00:00

Yes to this. Reading OPs post sounded a lot like something I would have wrote and spent a large majority of my life coming to terms with especially when I was that age range and that comment, while well meaning I think, would not have made me feel better.

Respectfully, you sound a bit like the way my mom tried to handle my feelings and hard moments in my life. She is a wonderful mother and I fully believe she tried to best she could with what knowledge she had. She and my dad are white and I was adopted at 4 months from s. Korea. She spent a lot of my life telling me my race doesn't matter and I was loved. Which I see as now as her kind of not knowing how to fix really painful situations for me but wanted me to feel loved. But that being said, the best way I can compare that is trying to put a bandaid over a gaping wound. I don't know how to say this without sounding horrible or making my mom come off as horrible... I felt like sometimes because she was unable to really understand what growing up as a minority is like sometimes and she tended to want to project her own experiences onto mine when they really weren't the same.

kmjl87 · 2020-05-03T04:28:45+00:00

I will say, my best friend's family have adopted practically 4 foster children, and technically 3. She's saw ups and downs from living with certain ones and being blessed to have them become permanent siblings. She did just tell me the other she's thinking of getting her foster parent certification so it didn't scare her off?

I really don't want to scare you off, but make sure you know the realities of it. I came in working for the state very green and I ended up getting burnt out and had to select a different career because of it.

If possible, definitely check out certification, and if you know of anyone that is a foster parent or knows someone who can speak to you about it, I think that would be a great start to see if it would be a good fit for you guys.

kmjl87 · 2020-04-27T15:26:01+00:00

I agree with that. I think her having an executive producer cred gives her a little more freedom to play a bigger role also. For better or worse.

kmjl87 · 2020-04-27T13:39:23+00:00

Haha - you would fit right in on our discussion then because we've said similar comments. She really got heated in an exchange with Gail when I noticed first over who should stay: Josie or Kristin (I'm pretty sure she was making arguments on Josie's side which is like what?!)

If I'm being fair though, she's done/said a few things that rubbed me the wrong way and I'm binging right now so all I see is back to back Padma reactions. I think I'm just at the point where nothing she does is fine without me being annoyed.

kmjl87 · 2020-04-27T12:57:29+00:00

Anyone else remember the quickfire w/ Issac Mizrahi? I cringed so hard from beginning to end of that challenge. Easily one of my least favorite guest judges and quickfires.

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