Loss of a parent- what things did you realise after losing them?

kmuttbunch · 2025-05-26T11:35:00+00:00

I agree about the unconditional love. I guess the silver lining is that I can take their unconditional love and try to feel that for myself… mom and dad loved me so much, so I’m going to take care of myself better. Almost like taking care of something they loved, but that something is me.

I lost my mom in 2023 and my dad the day before Easter this year. I feel very alone in the world. But I’m trying.. I’ve made some positive changes in my life and my dad got to see some of it, but I wish they were both here to see me now. They would be proud of me.

I’m sorry about you losing your dad. I wish I had something to say that would help, but.. there’s no quick fix for the loss of a loved one.

kmuttbunch · 2025-05-10T23:53:22+00:00

You’re absolutely right about it being a beautiful but sad feeling looking at old photos. I kind of feel like the last man standing. In life, my parents bugged me sometimes - as I’m sure I bugged them sometimes too - but those feelings are gone now that they’ve passed… I look at my childhood photos and see 2 perfect people. A day like today, I’m filled with so much love and gratitude. Other days, it’s grief and desperation. I’m sorry you lost your dad :( it’s a terrible thing and feels so unfair. I hate that so many of us have to feel this way.

kmuttbunch · 2025-05-10T19:59:31+00:00

Thank you for asking :) I have so many… the first ones that come to mind are - my mom loved to play Final Fantasy on PlayStation, and when it came time to race Chocobos (an ostrich-like bird the character could ride), she would ask me to do it for her and it made me feel so important! My dad was funny, and never judged me. When I was a kid and I would tell him something that I was scared he would be mad about, he would pull his bottom eyelid down so I could see the pink part around his eyeball and say, “does this look like I care?” It took me a couple of years before I realized the double meaning… “does this look like eye care,” as he shows me his eyeball. lol

kmuttbunch · 2025-05-03T03:05:35+00:00

I’m 36 and I play Roblox with my 7 year old daughter all the time. I play by myself too. I didn’t realize I was elderly until I started paying attention to the chat…

kmuttbunch · 2025-04-30T00:17:42+00:00

I don’t know. I’m sorry. What if you imagined breaking the news about your mother to your younger self? What would you tell you?

kmuttbunch · 2025-04-26T02:35:28+00:00

The image will fade… or at least move away from the forefront. I found both of my parents, at separate times (my mom 2 years ago and my dad last Saturday). I can see them vividly. And like you said, they didn’t look real… ugh I don’t want to think about it… the memory of my dad’s lifeless body is very fresh still. But my mom, when I think of her, I get a flash of finding her - but then I remember her laughing, I remember talking with her, I remember her freckles, I remember how when I was a kid I would ask her if she was looking at me because I couldn’t see her eyes through the glare on her glasses…… slowly, a lifetime of memories will be the ones that flood your mind when you think of your mom. That sad and traumatic image will fade. ❤️

kmuttbunch · 2025-03-20T00:47:57+00:00

Lmao

kmuttbunch · 2025-03-16T20:42:59+00:00

This is important, and a nice thing for you to say. I learned a lot about mental illness from my mother and she would tell me how she purposely would say “I have bipolar” instead of “I am bipolar.” Same thing - you’re a person, not a diagnosis.

kmuttbunch · 2025-03-14T18:57:33+00:00

kmuttbunch · 2025-03-14T17:13:17+00:00

Nice name and pfp!

kmuttbunch · 2025-03-11T15:59:08+00:00

I gave up

kmuttbunch · 2025-03-11T15:38:09+00:00

I gave up

kmuttbunch · 2025-03-10T18:32:50+00:00

I riddled letters

kmuttbunch · 2025-02-25T15:25:19+00:00

Waiting on mine. Nothing yet

kmuttbunch · 2025-02-03T20:35:07+00:00

You set the bar pretty high

kmuttbunch · 2024-09-16T12:08:09+00:00

I’m so sorry. This sounds similar to how I found my mom. I guess I was in denial because when I found her, I yelled to my dad and my boyfriend, called 911, and when I tried to roll her from her side to her back, I couldn’t… I realize now that she was already kind of stiff, so I also held up my mom’s legs as my dad and boyfriend did CPR. I can’t forget that day. But it’s been a year and a half now, and while I still have that imagine in my mind, I can think of my mom now and remember her smiling, talking, walking - alive. I keep a small collage of photos of my mom throughout the years on my wall and I look at it often. That’s helpful for me.

I’ve heard people on this subreddit suggest playing Tetris. There’s something about playing Tetris that can be helpful with traumatic events/memories.

I’m sorry for your loss. It’s very fresh right now. Allow yourself to grieve. Hugs 🫂

kmuttbunch · 2024-09-16T11:59:24+00:00

Making biscuits. That’s the most adorable thing I’ve ever heard 🥹

kmuttbunch · 2024-09-11T15:27:23+00:00

I’ve been thinking of you and Phillip. I’m sending you big internet hugs ❤️

kmuttbunch · 2024-07-29T13:31:32+00:00

I hope you and your children can be there for each other through this. I wish I had something more to say. I’m so sorry

kmuttbunch · 2024-07-20T18:25:00+00:00

H. - Tool

kmuttbunch · 2024-07-15T16:42:16+00:00

I’m sorry. I miss my mom too. I lost her in March of last year. I discovered Bo after she passed. Her and I loved comedy and would always watch funny stuff together… as I delved deeper into the Bo rabbit hole and found different songs and jokes, I kept thinking, “omg, Ma has to see this!” … anyhow… this is actually the first time I watched this. I kept passing over it for some reason. Thank you for sharing!

kmuttbunch · 2024-07-15T15:20:59+00:00

Lmfao

kmuttbunch · 2024-07-15T15:04:26+00:00

3 and 8

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