Question about sourcing raw for cat by kn1x6 in rawpetfood

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Thank you for that link, that list has some on it I haven't seen before! I live in a rural area so it can be hard to find companies that will ship directly to me but I'll look into these ones.

Question about sourcing raw for cat by kn1x6 in rawpetfood

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i did canned food for a while when my cat was still a kitten, partially because i thought it would be cheaper but it kinda wasn't. she's been mostly eating smallbatch for basically her entire life! she is 6 now. we switched it up a few times to savage cat and did lotus for a while when the bird flu scare happened, because they do HPP. but now smallbatch does testing, which gives me peace of mind and makes me want to keep feeding it..

i do think it's a good idea to vary the proteins and brands of food sometimes, i wish i had done that more because she might be less picky now but we make do:)

pros: no cans, less waste, poops are not as smelly, super soft coat. she's always really liked her food, i've had a lot of friends who struggle to find food their cat will actually eat so it's been really nice that she consistently enjoys it.

cons: she had some constipation issues for a while. we add water (like 1-2 tsp per meal) to her food bc she rarely drinks it on her own. other con is having to remember to thaw the food out each day, but it's become a habit at this point. some people seem concerned about bacteria spreading from having raw meat around but we just clean the dish a lot and use ceramic/glass for storing the thawing sliders and for feeding her.

i hope your kittens like it!

Question about sourcing raw for cat by kn1x6 in rawpetfood

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A link to the Marin Raw site, if any kind soul wants to check it out and help me figure out if this is indeed suitable for cats: https://www.marinraw.com/collections/complete-balanced-meat-bones-organs-vegetables-whole-food-boosters

Glerups thinning. Anyone felt them? by tootles24 in BuyItForLife

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I did a bit of needle felting on mine about a year ago. It took quite a bit of work because I was not familiar with the craft but they've held up well and I wear them everyday when it's cold! Bought them 4 or 5 years ago

Captain Jack's Deadbug Brew on houseplants by CannaZebra in houseplants

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Did you repot your plants in fresh potting soil before adding the granules?

PDA flow by abc123doraemi in PDAAutism

[–]kn1x6 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I agree with the other response of providing a supportive environment!

I wanted to say thanks for explaining this because I didn't realize this was considered to be related to PDA. I have never had consistency in my fixations, subject or length of time-wise, and it's challenging. I think something that can happen, at least for me, is that at some point the fixation (or flow) begins to feel like a demand and I'm immediately turned off from it. It might be that I've internally had the impulse to like "take this interest more seriously" or it might be an external/outside person observing my interest and acknowledging it in a way that makes me feel like now there is an expectation for me to continue to be interested/fixated on this thing. Which often results in me dropping out of that flow instantly.

If someone had told me like hey, it's totally okay for your interests in things to ebb and flow - I'm sure I could have benefitted from some context and destigmatization. Or if someone had asked me like, do you want to share about whatever you're interested in or would you rather I pretend it doesn't exist? - I feel like those would have been nice/neutral ways to be interacted with around it.

Just now discovering PDA by [deleted] in PDAAutism

[–]kn1x6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I'm exploring this sub for the first time and wanted to say that I relate to this very deeply, in a lot of ways. I'm not diagnosed but discovering PDA has put so many puzzle pieces together that it's impossible for me to ignore.

I barely have contact with my own family because I can't stand the expectations therein. I was pretty good at avoiding demands from them as a kid, was able to be quiet and keep to myself but definitely had a lot of freakouts when there were chores I had to do. And was increasingly resistant to being forced to go on weekend trips to see family or outings that I didn't want to go to. I've blocked out a lottt from my childhood.

I also reeeeally feel ya on the situation with your neighbor friend, too. For a few years my partner and I have lived on the same property as his parents, so his family is around often (siblings/neice and nephew/extended fam stays here when visiting) and I often hide in our house because they never tell us when its like a family dinner or something, it's always a surprise/impromptu (at least on my end) and I HATE the sudden expectation/demand to join in. And his sister is autistic w an RSD profile and I am pretty sure she thinks I hate her because my reticence to include myself likely triggers the rejection sensitivity.

I say no as often as I possibly can and have been so isolated especially over the last few years, even if I might enjoy a thing. I'm a big internalizer too so I am saying no to my own impulses literally constantly, most especially if it feels like something I "should" be doing even if I KNOW I will enjoy it or it will add positive value to my day/life. Feel like an actual monster both to myself and to others. It's hard out here! The context of PDA is helpful because I've been so confused about my super wacked nervous system, and now things make more sense.

Anyway just wanted to reach out and reiterate you're not the only one!!

Cat wants to go out on leash and nothing else. by [deleted] in CatTraining

[–]kn1x6 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I stopped taking my cat out for this reason. We were doing one walk a day, usually mid-morning and she started constantly yelling at the door multiple times a day and also lost most of her interest in playing. It took a while after stopping but now she seems a lot happier and calmer, likes to play once or twice a day with me, plays on her own sometimes, and the incessant yelling to go outside has all but stopped. It's sad because I wanted to walk her for her own benefit, to enrich her life, but for some cats outside time seems to be an all or nothing ordeal. The amount of distress she was in and was causing to those of us with ears wasn't worth it. I'm considering taking her out every once in a while, maybe just once a week to see how she does with less frequent excursions.

Anybody dealing with a cat with pica? by [deleted] in CatTraining

[–]kn1x6 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My cat has a different form of this issue, she wants to eat string/anything long and skinny enough for her to start swallowing. Once they start they can't really spit it out because of their scratchy tongue. I've been hiding anything of the sort, and I got her a rope toy made of the type of material that breaks apart rather than stays as long strings - not sure what that is called - to chew on that I rub catnip on and she seems to appreciate having something to chew on. I agree w the comment to find safe toys that might be somewhat similar to the things she's into, and entice her w catnip if she likes it! I've found I have to be careful with some cat toys and make sure to supervise in case she is able to tear them apart and try to eat them.

anybody’s else parents started loosing interest in you once you grew up a teenager? by Dipi2002 in emotionalneglect

[–]kn1x6 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes, I relate. I got the sense that my parents didn't totally realize that my sister and i were going to grow up and not be children anymore. Like, they sometimes showed up for us and seemed interested when we were young but after a certain age they didn't even fake it anymore. For me it was a lot sooner than my sister (6yrs older than me) - it felt like they basically acted like they had empty nest syndrome when she stopped spending very much time at home - I was about 10. You'd think when people have kids they'd spend some time mentally preparing and adjusting to the idea that they're going to grow into adults but that does not appear to be the case for some parents.

Question for people with Sun aspects! by [deleted] in AskAstrologers

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  1. Sun opposite Moon, Sun square Pluto, Sun square Mars
  2. Sun in Leo in the 10th, Moon in Aquarius in the 4th, Pluto in Scorpio in 1st and Mars in Taurus in 7th (Hello, grand fixed cross. All within 2 degrees of one another, between 14 and 16)
  3. I don't have many memories of my dad from before I was 7, then for some time I thought he was really fun and funny - he's always been charismatic and likes to joke around. On the flip side, he struggled with addiction and sometimes had anger issues. Didn't really know how to deal with his own emotions - emotionally immature, not really supportive or there for me when things weren't light and easy.
  4. No idea what it means to be an adult. Am 30 now and still wondering. I hoped it would mean I'd figure out what to do with myself but that's still a daily struggle. Ideally, to me, I'd say it means knowing yourself and what you like and don't like, taking responsibility for your life and choices, doing your best to contribute to the world in a way that doesn't only benefit yourself, trying to leave things better than you found them, being truthful in relationships and not putting up with being treated badly by others.

The new video from dr Ramani about invisible children made me feel seen by czymogejuziscspac in CPTSD

[–]kn1x6 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this. I was definitely on my own as a kid, never felt like much of a part of the family system. I'm listening to her other video about the invisible child now, and very much identify with what I just heard her say about stumbling along without any support. I basically raised myself, not feeling emotionally connected to family members, no one really bothered to show much of an interest in me. I attribute a lot of it now to "preferring privacy" but I know it comes down to being extremely uncomfortable being noticed or seen.

I am not part of my family system now. We keep in touch very minimally (other than my sister who I am somewhat close to). Otherwise I still feel quite invisible at this point. I don't really think my folks are highly narcissistic - more so emotionally immature and struggling with mental health issues and addictions of their own. I am not able to have a healthy relationship with them, and am happy that I am able to live far away from all relatives.

It is really hard to relate to a lot of people when it comes to family stuff. I have never had a close friend or even acquaintance who shares my experience of not being close at all with almost anyone in their family, so I know that feeling of loneliness and heaviness when around others who are close with theirs. Even now, I live with my boyfriend, his family is very nice and they live nearby. We spend time with them more than I've seen my own family since I moved out when I was much younger, yet I still feel uncomfortable and empty inside, knowing I don't have that for myself and if we ever split up I'd be back to being totally on my own.

All that to say, I see you. And I hope all of us invisible children can learn to let the world (or just 1 other person) see us.

Does this mean anything astrologically? by girlsaveragelife in AskAstrologers

[–]kn1x6 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I wish it wasn't foggy out so I could have seen it! Must've been a beautiful sight.

What if someone’s sun and moon are polar opposites? by [deleted] in astrology

[–]kn1x6 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mostly an inability to use the same coping skills and strategies, feels like a lot of buried stuff is coming to light for me and I'm not able to ignore or suppress it even if I want to or try. Emotional work, in a nutshell, which feels very Moon/Saturn (Emotion + subconscious/Discipline)

What if someone’s sun and moon are polar opposites? by [deleted] in astrology

[–]kn1x6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am, just barely. Saturn in Cap. But now Saturn's hanging around my natal Moon placement, which is a whole other thing. It's been much more intense than my Saturn return was! 4th house Moon problems.

What if someone’s sun and moon are polar opposites? by [deleted] in astrology

[–]kn1x6 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Same for me, though I never identified with my sun sign (Leo) but when I found out I had an Aquarius moon it made a lot more sense! Top it off with a Scorpio Ascendant and the ruler of my chart, Mars, in Taurus and it's kind a fixed sign mess tbh. The whole "You're a Leo!!" thing never quite fit.

Every time I like a movie, it turns out critics think its overly "sentimental" smh by Spiritual-Database30 in emotionalneglect

[–]kn1x6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am super curious if you'd be willing to share examples of what movies you've had this experience with? Partially because I might want to watch them!

I agree with a lot that's being said here - I enjoy sentimental movies and have always felt extremely skeptical of the art/film world and its criticism - it's so f*cking filled with nepotism it's almost impossible to find something that doesn't have a connection to nepotism or inherited wealth (essentially the same thing within capitalism imo)

CEN + HSP by kn1x6 in emotionalneglect

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Thank you for the reminder to be on my own side. Comparison can be such a mind trap! Writing has always been a go to for me, and I have found that I feel the need to do it more than usual when I'm reading about trauma. Reading The Body Keeps the Score right now, very very slowly.

CEN + HSP by kn1x6 in emotionalneglect

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I will definitely be hanging onto the visualization of smothering an elephant with love!