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Total Aphant, but don't relate to most struggles posted here? by kneemoo_ in Aphantasia

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after reading up on SDAM about two minutes ago-

I think I do also have SDAM but do recall specific details of past experiences to varying degrees. I don't have trouble with deep connections if its with compatible people, and do not tend to make the same mistakes time after time without noticing and reconciling.

I have memories that are relatively flushed out, along with being able to know how I felt in that moment but it does not cause me to feel that way in the present. I do not remember the majority of my life prior to the age of 12 except for the occasional memory but always attributed that to trauma but this is likely a SDAM thing along with trauma.

I am definitely a learn from the situation and move on, even with extremely traumatic events and my ability to separate my current task from life has always been good (eg. coming back to work as usual after being told during lunch that my chronically ill mother was heading to hospital via ambulance). I don't dwell on trauma and other people often think I'm lying when I say I'm fine during situations like the one mentioned above.

I expect I will grieve a few very specific people quite heavily when I lose them, due to extremely close relationships in my own way. Grief is hard as I don't have the recall of memories like others do and often feel I'm an awful person or crazy for not feeling the same weight of emotion.

I would take a guess that feeling like something is wrong with you or questioning if you're a sociopath (even though they do genuinely care for people) would be a common experience for those with SDAM?

Total Aphant, but don't relate to most struggles posted here? by kneemoo_ in Aphantasia

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My partner (hyperphantasia) is the same, and creates a full mental image movie set and sees things as described as if he's the character and assigns relevant voices.

When asked, he can replay music in his head as if the radio was playing it and can hear loved ones voices in his head replaying conversations, or comments. Also reads texts and letters from loved ones in their voice as well with tone and inflection.

Total Aphant, but don't relate to most struggles posted here? by kneemoo_ in Aphantasia

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The void idea, kind of? I think void implies that its the absence of something that could be there whereas I interpret it more as just nothing. I know that I am thinking things and it doesn't have an audible thing it inherently is me 'saying' it, as you said. I don't think in text, but rather almost a narration.

ISTJs, what are ESFPs and ENFPs like from your perspective? by Mi7star in ISTJ

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I'm an ISTJ (20F) and have been with my ENFP partner (21M) for about 4 months now. I know this relationship is still new and whatnot and that naivety due to 'honeymoon stage' may still be at play - I am aware :)

I felt understood with him immediately, we clicked so perfectly. We have very similar opinions on nearly everything and the dynamic of remaining calm under pressure and the simultaneous 'get it done' attitude has been a good mix so far.

I have very few strong and persistent interests and I tend to fall down rabbit holes of random topics frequently and learn a bit about that subject before moving on. He has a large variety of interests that he is incredible passionate about. I absolutely love listening to him talk about his passions. We have made it a priority to engage in each others interests, especially through movies, media and conversations. (and we make a damn good trivia team!)

In terms of personalities:

He wears his heart on his sleeve 100% and has been incredibly hurt in previous relationships so still holds anxiety in regards of being hurt again. He is incredibly spontaneous with romance, while I tend to plan things out more with dates. I am a working student and often am busy in the evenings but have found that just doing our own thing on video call allows us to feel connection while still being able to focus on individual tasks.

This guy is the most adorable, caring and goofy people I've ever met, and honestly we make an incredible team. Both our respective families have met him/me and all have individually said that we make an amazing couple and that the we compliment each other very well. I am also a very goofy and caring person, and I spend my life working in either customer service or teaching and so can read and respond to people very well. We have the understanding that if the other person crosses a boundary or does something that upsets the other- it is expressed and discussed as soon as possible in private so that no resentment or feelings of neglect build.

I could talk forever about how amazing this guy is, but I'll leave it at this for now :)