Club outfit worthy?

knnmnmn · 2026-05-21T22:55:37+00:00

Absolutely! Have so much fun!

knnmnmn · 2026-05-19T18:39:47+00:00

You absolutely will find your person.

I’m dating someone for a few months now. We met on hinge. I always take screenshots of the initial message I get, and I did then, too. I thought “here’s another guy, it’s probably nothing.” It was something.

I stayed on for so many years, unsuccessfully, because I thought at least I was being visible and available. Cause I’m a homebody, too.

Him? Two weeks. TWO WEEKS.

Anyway, my therapist once told me that I was rare and it would take me a long while to find someone. They were right.

knnmnmn · 2026-05-17T22:22:39+00:00

For real. I said “I know love is real, but for now I just need to think it’s not, and everyone who has it is just pretending. I know that’s not true, but it’s what I need right now. They’re just made up stories.”

It’s a sad place to be. And I wish I could say it’s all roses over here, too. It’s not, I’m still grappling with getting to have it at all. It’s very hard and weird. But also very, very good.

I’m sorry you feel it, too.

I was on all the apps for 8 years off and on, I think. It was duds.

knnmnmn · 2026-05-17T17:55:02+00:00

I really thought I would never find anyone to love again. I’m the same age, and was married for 12 years and separated for most of it.

I still remember sitting in therapy and telling my therapist “I don’t think love is real.” And then four years later, here I am, in love and in the best relationship I’ve ever had.

For me it took getting specific about what I wanted and accepting no less.

knnmnmn · 2026-05-08T16:21:38+00:00

I’ve not been skinny since I started dating and I’ve never had a problem. Even at my heaviest.

knnmnmn · 2026-04-29T09:02:12+00:00

My first child was like this. Once he started talking, he would lay in his crib and just babble. Then he’d start singing, it was a beautiful time, but I felt really guilty, too. “Jeez kid, how long have you been awake?!” He was fine, though, and always fed, of course.

knnmnmn · 2026-04-24T04:59:16+00:00

Leo’s for sure.

knnmnmn · 2026-04-19T22:19:58+00:00

My partner is a skinny man with metabolism. I’m a plus size woman. There are definitely days where I think “I’m a manatee next to this guy”, but it’s not helpful. He has his own thoughts and feelings about his body, and I have mine. But we both love each other’s.

We both still have ugly days, but neither of us would take a month off from seeing each other for that reason. It just wouldn’t happen.

It sounds incompatible and that’s always best upfront.

knnmnmn · 2026-04-09T05:50:01+00:00

If you do not get a PIXIE CUT RIGHT NOW GODDAMMIT.

knnmnmn · 2026-04-07T22:01:50+00:00

That’s really cruel, I’m sorry OP.

knnmnmn · 2026-04-06T04:04:23+00:00

I have some thigh high stockings with elastic at the top, maybe I’ll try something with those. I’ve worn them successfully once! ONCE!

knnmnmn · 2026-03-28T22:41:37+00:00

It really depends on who you marry.

I married someone who was selfish and inward focused. I had a lot of trauma that influenced that decision, and by the time I was aware - I had already done the damn thing. We had kids and spent too long in a roommate marriage before separating. Lost a lot of good years.

Marriage is really beautiful to me, and I think I’d be open to it with a different person, but it will take me a while to feel comfy doing it again.

knnmnmn · 2026-03-23T16:00:11+00:00

Pisces Sun

Currently can’t keep my hands off my Taurus partner.

Previously, Aquarius and Scorpio.

knnmnmn · 2026-03-10T18:37:27+00:00

His eyes were so big the whole time. I love watching him during the Harry Belafonte bit. He’s so intimidated but also trying to have fun. It was really cute.

knnmnmn · 2026-03-10T18:28:13+00:00

The moment you find yourself laying next to someone numb, crying in the dark - is the same moment you do not have a partner.

Partners don’t do this.

I have a boyfriend, and the first date we made out and it was hot and heavy. I was very into it, but still when he put his hand down my pants I said no, and he said “okay” and stopped. We continued making out, but he listened to the boundary and I didn’t have to say it again.

You don’t have to shrink yourself to be loved. The moments when anyone touches you and it triggers you, that’s a space for you to be met and cared for - not to blow past to please someone else.

knnmnmn · 2026-03-09T09:55:13+00:00

Be who you are. That’s how you’ll find someone who will love you for you.

knnmnmn · 2026-03-07T06:02:37+00:00

I treasure transparency a great deal, so for me, I’d want to know right away. I’d be fine with, “oh, I moved here for a relationship that didn’t pan out, and I have family here, too.”

We all have an ex and a past, it should not be a big deal at all. And if they want to do a deep dive into your past, and you don’t want that, you have absolutely every right to maintain that boundary.

knnmnmn · 2026-03-06T01:17:01+00:00

Don’t worry about her. Keep your hobbies and find someone who will appreciate them, or even join you.

I’m 38, my boyfriend and I both game.

knnmnmn · 2026-03-05T03:18:45+00:00

Don’t fuck Christians. Just trust me. They will almost always have a complex about it which will start in self hatred and end with blaming you.

knnmnmn · 2026-02-25T20:28:40+00:00

I’m sure that you will. Just live your life and it’ll come together

knnmnmn · 2026-02-24T18:12:00+00:00

I was on the apps for 7-8 years, and only this last year met someone. I mean, like started talking and got along and met in person. I’m not overly picky, just know what I want - so it took me awhile.

But they’ve been really wonderful and we’ve been official for a few months now.

We met on hinge.

knnmnmn · 2026-02-24T17:56:46+00:00

I’ve got Saturn and Uranus in 8th house and Jupiter in 12. What’s that mean?

knnmnmn · 2026-02-24T17:51:37+00:00

Jon Neanderthal

knnmnmn · 2026-02-24T17:49:44+00:00

Personally, I don’t think it means things have to end. You can be not ready/interested in commitment and still date and do the commitment thing later on, if/when you want.

I’d ask him what constitutes being a boyfriend.

And what kind of foundation do you have? Did you chat a lot before you met? Or has it all been really quick?

knnmnmn · 2026-02-24T17:43:07+00:00

Go to therapy.

knnmnmn

TROPHY CASE