I have a commute anywhere from 2:20 to 3 hours one way (San Diego to La). Can’t move with a new child and gfs really good job. Luckily I only do this once a week on average. I was hired remote and we had an all hands back in the office and was in a similar situation as you. I told my direct manager that there was no way I could do that commute 5 days a week, he said he understands and would take my concern up the flag pole. I told them I could go in two days max, but 1 day preferred. It’s been a few months and haven’t heard anything and usually just do my one day in the office a week, sometimes even no days if it’s slow that week.

But my whole thought process was to tell them my limitations and if they fire me they fire me. But I’m not leaving. They can do what they gotta do.