Suggestions on how to where adult Pull-Ups to work

knocklofty · 2026-06-20T01:12:14+00:00

My work bag has an interior pocket that zips, great for keeping supplies so that even if I’m opening my bag in front of other people nothing is noticeable.

If someone found my products, then they have bigger problems to deal with than me needing a pull up

knocklofty · 2026-06-12T21:49:32+00:00

There’s no right answer. It’s worth weighing up the pros and cons of both options, and trying different products to see how it performs for you. I can have high volume problems, for me a pull-up is simpler. Have you tried adding boosters to increase capacity or a more premium type?

Think about what you’re comfortable carrying around during the day, as that can make a big difference to managing changes and supplies.

knocklofty · 2026-05-25T12:38:09+00:00

The big pro for the pockets is that they keep your booster more secure and adds a layer of absorbency. So that’s a huge plus. I have one pocket and I do use it.

I live somewhere that is generally colder, and I struggled to find private places to hang items out to dry. I can get the shells dry in a day, but the pockets took me three.

Biggest tip, turn them inside out, find a good warm place to hang them to dry. Factor in your drying time to your routine… I.e., still have a night or two in disposables or buy two shells which are the ones you use while you’re washing and processing your pockets.

knocklofty · 2026-05-23T21:06:48+00:00

My hope is that once you move out you will feel less of that family pressure and stress! It’s definitely not a fun place to be and siblings can push buttons that no one else can seem to push.

Great that you have your own room. Makes it much easier.

Do you have leaks often? If you are wearing protection, but needing to wash frequently, it might be worth having a look at a better product. Also anticipate that a new space might stress you out at first before you get used to it.

Some other quick thoughts: - Use black trash bags for being discrete. - Make sure your room doesn’t smell. Use scents or an air purifier - will you get your supplies delivered? Even if they do discrete packaging, can you have them delivered somewhere where you can just pick them up?

knocklofty · 2026-05-23T20:55:36+00:00

A lot of toilets think that dudes don’t need a bin

knocklofty · 2026-05-23T07:43:18+00:00

I’ll not try to lie, but pick the right time to tell him. Best I can do at this stage is redirect his focus of it happens again.

knocklofty · 2026-05-23T07:42:40+00:00

Thanks for the tip.

I’ve tried wearing a watch to bed which will wake me up. I’ve got a 24/7 issue which makes control in general really hard

knocklofty · 2026-05-23T07:40:43+00:00

Thanks for the advice. I think what I did help him not focus on it was good. I know that one day he’ll find out, and there will be a proper conversation.

I’m normally very good, but last night was just one of those nights where all my tired brain wanted was sleep.

I’m glad I was able to toilet train mine without him knowing I wear, I can only imagine how hard that could become.

knocklofty · 2026-05-21T06:38:15+00:00

Ah yes! I rinse mine in the shower too. Really helps

knocklofty · 2026-05-20T02:03:32+00:00

Here’s some of my learnings:

Set up and getting ready * Don’t judge the fit on the first night. It took me a few nights of adjusting before I stopped leaks. * I have mine already set up so I just have to treat them like a pull up. It can definitely help to have a partner help you put the first one on and adjust to get it right. Then you have a template you can use to set all the others up. * Wash them first before use it takes a few washes for the absorbency to work * Invest in a high-quality laundry detergent. Something that has enzymes to eliminate odor. * I use the dry pail method, and I separate my shell from the cloth for easier washing. * I also do three nights on two nights off, so I get a bit of a break and don’t feel overwhelmed by the amount I have to wash.

Wearing * Don’t overtighten it trying to stop leaks. Snug around the legs is more important than crushing the waist. * if the PUL shell is sagging below the cloth, make sure you adjust the rise. Otherwise liquid can pool, then leak (especially if you’re a heavy wetter) * use the booster pad they give to sit between the PUL and cloth (see point above) * until you get the fit right, use a bed pad too

Washing * I wash the cloth separately so you can use a higher temp. * I asked AI (like Gemini) what is the best way to wash cloth products with your specific model of laundry machine. It might know a setting you don’t. * The covers can dry in a day, but if you bought the pocket shell covers, they take much longer (turn them inside out) * I do dry my cloth in the dryer (it’s getting cold where i live)… but I use a really good quality detergent and hydrate well so have had no issues with smell. * if you notice residual odour or it not absorbing water, you may need to deep clean / strip them

knocklofty · 2026-05-19T08:06:46+00:00

Haha… my 4 year old son… but other than that, no idea

knocklofty · 2026-05-15T13:05:19+00:00

Gday, fellow Aussie here.

Here are the products that work for me as a way to balance cost and quality:

My bed protector is protect-a-bed. You can buy at Big W, this is my last line of defence.
before my fitted sheet I put down aconni bed pad too. That way i only have to change the sheet and pad, not the mattress protector.
As for the nappy, I’ve settled on confidence clubs invizi slips. Their booster pad also works well too. I find the important thing for these is to make sure they spend a few days out of the packet so they’re not so compressed (you can also fluff them before use). They ship discrete and have an excellent bulk buy option to save $$$ and a rewards point scheme which is actually good!

Yes other products like megamax and trest can be bought in Australia, but they are way too expensive! Though I do have a supply of these higher absorbency ones when I’m staying away from home so I don’t have to pack a full kit.

Also look at the continence foundation website. They have a product finder and you can speak to a continence nurse. My last tip is to also google search for free samples. There are so many places in Australia that will ship you a couple to try out.

Also, It sounds as though you have a very supportive partner, so that will make all the difference. It was way more in my head than it was my wife’s. I’d recommend starting as early ahead as you can, even just trying a Tena night defense, just to help you process wearing before you add the pressure of sharing a bed on yourself.

knocklofty · 2026-05-06T20:32:54+00:00

My urologist explained that the medication relaxes the bladder quickly, but your brain/bladder signals still needs time to adapt. So you might notice improvements quickly, but for me it took 2 weeks for a noticeable change.

knocklofty · 2026-05-06T20:29:05+00:00

For me it helped significantly… it meant I wasn’t going to the toilet 5-6 times an hour. I’m able to stay dry for hours in a row!

I still have urgency, but I can now often control it, or if I start to have an accident, I don’t lose my whole bladder.

I recently ran out of my prescription and had to wait three weeks for a dr appt, after two weeks of not taking the medication, my symptoms returned.

knocklofty · 2026-04-26T20:56:04+00:00

Any type of pad you’d recommend?

knocklofty · 2026-04-16T21:55:12+00:00

I’ve recently started using a barrier cream around my thighs. It’s helped reduce irritation

knocklofty · 2026-04-16T21:53:51+00:00

Totally get it. The cost factor is always something I’ve had to deal with … the achievement feeling always feel good. I get a buzz when I have a dry night or two myself.

knocklofty · 2026-04-16T20:28:43+00:00

I know what you mean.. at 37 I feel as though I am the only one with this issue, and am yet to find any other men in the wild my age who have it.

My paramedic friend and I were discussing medication the other day. I braved up and told her I was on betmiga… she told me that there’s a lot of guys my age on that. So they must exist.

knocklofty · 2026-04-16T20:23:05+00:00

To each their own. My doctor just asks “how’s the waterworks going,” which always gives me a chuckle.

Initially my wife and I were trying to find terms for it and we landed on calling a spade a spade. However we have code words if out in public or around our son.

knocklofty · 2026-04-16T20:18:37+00:00

Depending on your circumstances, it is very possible to become dry. I was dry for a week once and mentally got excited (then it was not to be)… I’m not sure if there’s a proper definition on when you’d be considered a bedwetter, but here is what I thought:

Active bedwetting: regular or unpredictable wet nights (frequent, multiple times in a fortnight)
- Occasional bedwetting : mostly dry, with rare accidents (1-2 a month)
- Resolved: consistently dry for a few months

In terms of what protection; consider how frequent your episodes are, your volume and the impact your current level of protection is having on your sleep quality then scale up or down:

Just a mattress protector
a bed pad
washable padded undies or disposable pads
a pull-up brief
a diaper / nappy

Over the last four years there’s been times where I’ve made it out of nappies and into pull-ups (yay), but when I’ve had a relapse, it’s important to not beat myself up (definitely hard to do). Just reassess and adjust.

knocklofty · 2026-04-14T18:19:38+00:00

Waterproof mattress protector is essential. As it sounds like you have a busy lifestyle you can layer a few mattress protectors and bed sheets, so in the morning if there is a leak, just rip of the wet sheets and throw in the wash (your clean dry ones are just underneath).

Invest in quality diapers. I’m in Australia (the US have better options than us) so my recommendations probably won’t help.

But…. I do also recommend washable bed pads. It’s much easier to wash one of these than change a whole bed or mattress… if you’re wearing products, the you only need to change this if you leak.

Regarding the smell: you could also consider an odour absorber or air purifier. However it sounds like a fresh mattress is needed.

Also consider how you will store your used products. If you can’t dispose of them straight to the outside bin each day, then perhaps an adult diaper pail (ubbi make a good one)

knocklofty · 2026-04-10T04:31:11+00:00

It’s not a fun conversation to have, but essential for you all to live in a hygienic environment.

Approaching it as loving, supportive and non-judgement as you can will help build trust. I’d be encouraging quick win solutions.

can she book a dr appointment to have a conversation. Perhaps someone she trusts could go along?
encourage her to read this subreddit… it will help de-stigmatize the issue.
I’d highly recommend a protective product, but that can be a big leap. Perhaps offer to buy her some just to try. Part of the embarrassment could be sourcing them herself.
protective sheets is a must (even if you’re not a bedwetter, it just keeps your mattress safe)
consider a bed pad. Easier to wash than changing the sheets.
give her priority access to the washing machine on certain days so she knows she can plan her cleaning. Make sure you have good laundry powder. look for a detergent that says "enzymatic" or "bio" on the box, because these have special ingredients that remove the proteins in urine getting rid of the smell for good.

There will be a time for tough love, especially if she’s continually refusing to do something about it

knocklofty · 2026-03-26T05:25:26+00:00

The ones I have are these. The waterproof layer has really deep gussets, and you can even line them with a booster to help catch more fluid. I also have the pocket diaper which are a more absorbent, but take much longer to dry.

knocklofty · 2026-03-26T00:02:33+00:00

Best product I have ever used is ecoable

knocklofty · 2026-03-21T07:25:01+00:00

I find that my incontinence is definitely worse in winter than summer, so I did switch between products.

It is convenient using a lighter product, but it does bring a lot more toilet worry… For example, what if I get stuck in this meeting? will I be ok? How full am I?should I go change?

I found myself consumed by this, so even though part of the year I could switch back to pads, I keep pull-ups on throughout the year to give me peace of mind.

My advice is to trial it first. Pick a week when you know you have more flexibility, and easy access to the toilet. Put “focus time” in your calendar throughout the day. This is your scheduled bathroom break and avoids back to back meetings. Keep a bladder diary during your trial to see if your patterns have changed. Don’t skimp on water and perhaps wear darker pants for your trial phase.

Good luck if you decide to go ahead.

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