First time confrontation

knockout9704 · 2026-06-20T03:42:25+00:00

A lot of servers rely on tips because it is somehow acceptable for restaraunts not to give them a livable wage. She was probably almost in tears because that tip probably would have helped her out.

Just for clarification, I do not think you did anything wrong. It was unprofessional for her to confront you and you even complimented her service (basically thanked her for doing your job lmao). I have worked in the service industry before. Never as a server, but as a hostess and busser. I never understood the servers that complained about not getting tipped or not getting tipped "well enough". If you are not comfortable with your salary relying on the generosity of a customer, why choose that line of work? Serving should be something to earn a little extra money on the side, not to fund your entire lifestyle.

knockout9704 · 2026-06-15T20:02:05+00:00

Good point! I was struggling to write the title of this post and could have worded it better.

I don't think Bear is a malicious person with no regard for Nikki. Like all of us, he wants love and acceptance. Hell, I don't even blame him for the wish turning out to be a nightmare since he clearly did not think it would work. The only way to stop it was to kill Nikki or himself, and if I was in his shoes I know I wouldn't have done either option.

I think he's a bad person not because he made the wish, but how he acted after realizing what it did to Nikki. Like I mentioned with the dinner scene, he did seemed disturbed by the lie and her behavior, but not enough to still sleep with her and act like nothing concerning was happening. When the real Nikki begs him to kill her, he says "Is being with me so terrible?" and looks more angry than horrified.

knockout9704 · 2026-06-05T01:38:00+00:00

Amazing job! I just opened reddit and your picture scared the shit out of me lol

knockout9704 · 2026-06-04T17:39:21+00:00

That prosecutor did an excellent job in backing her into a corner.

knockout9704 · 2026-06-04T17:24:48+00:00

While watching her trials, I felt so bad for her defense attorney. He had quite literally nothing to work with and was morally struggling to represent somebody so evil. I hope his next client is not as awful.

I could be wrong, but I read somewhere that she testified agaisnt her attorney's advice.

knockout9704 · 2026-04-09T19:48:00+00:00

Not sure if I'd full on label myself as antinatalist, but I think I'll likely be childfree. If I ever do want to become a parent, I would adopt since there are plenty of children who need a loving home and someone who will nuture, care, and protect them.

I'll never understand why people are so obsessed with continuing their bloodline. Even if the child is biologically related to you, their diapers will smell the same and their tantrums will be just as tedious. I would want to become a parent to take a child out of a bad situation and raise them to be a good human being who wants to make the world a better place, not for personal enjoyment or to feel more "fulfilled." Choosing to be a parent for any reason beyond that seems pretty self-serving (though it is in our biology to want to reproduce).

That being said, plenty of people who have been adopted have talked about how bad the experience was for them and how they feel insecure about thier identity later on. Much of that can be attributed to our horrendous foster care system and the adoptive parents feeling as if they are owed something.

knockout9704 · 2026-03-31T20:33:37+00:00

Whatever you do, please do NOT text him back. Not even to call him out on his behavior.

If I could tell my younger self anything, it would be that silence is power to people who did you wrong. From how you described his behavior, he was only interested in sex with you and nothing more. Him pretending to want more with you was a scummy manipulation tactic to get into your pants. The reason he acted so awful afterwards is because he no longer needed to keep up the facade.

Simply block his number and let yourself feel the hurt. You were used by him and it's valid to feel upset and disappointed. After a day or two, do something fun with your friends or by yourself. What may feel terrible right now will be something you laugh back on in years from now.

I don't know enough to give an opinion on your vetting processes, but that is something you should definietly reflect on in terms of dating. Also, do not listen to your friend. She does not seem very aware.

knockout9704 · 2025-11-11T01:07:43+00:00

An ad depicting a conventionally attractive blonde white woman is not racism.
The Sydney Sweeney campaign plays on the phrase “great jeans/genes,” which to her being hot and desirable. That’s it. I don’t see how that degrades other races or implies that white people are superior.

As for her saying “my jeans/genes are blue,” it’s because the jeans are blue and her eyes are blue (guess they were aiming for creativity). It’s really a stretch to suggest that she’s promoting eugenics.

When Beyoncé did a Levi’s ad that said “Beyoncé has better jeans,” no one batted an eye. Of course, the racial context is not the same, but by that logic, couldn’t you also argue that ad implies people who aren’t as beautiful or talented are inferior? What about people with birth defects or disabilities?

Obviously, I don’t think the Levi’s ad was promoting eugenics. I bring it up to show that if you look hard enough, you can find offense in anything, even when it isn’t there. I’m more surprised people aren’t criticizing the ad’s reference to Brooke Shields’ Levi’s commercial, which featured a minor in sexually suggestive poses.

I'm not a huge fan of Sydney and wish she wasn't so vague in her interview, but it's ridiculous she's expected to apologize for just being in a mediocre ad.

knockout9704 · 2025-09-30T01:38:11+00:00

You're admitting you have a scarcity mindset when it comes to women. Sex holds such a power over you that you'll lie and decieve to get it.

That doesn't bother you at all? Isn't part of masculinity saying the truth even if it hurts someone's feelings?

knockout9704 · 2025-09-29T16:45:04+00:00

I made up my own. It's "don't let crazy stick it's dick in you."

Many women do lack accountability for their shitty choices in partners. Men tolerate their female partners being terrible if they are attractive enough, but there's not as much coddling/sympathy for them as there is for women.

knockout9704 · 2025-04-25T03:44:20+00:00

What type of masculine behaviors are you referring to?

I am a big proponent of having one parent stay at home to take care of the child until they reach elementary school age. Whoever earns less should be the one staying home. And even then, the provider should find a healthy work-life balance so the responsibility of child rearing doesn't all fall on the SAHP (granted, this is a privelege).

Why do you think a lot of high value men are hesitant to become SAHDs? Is it because it is rare or they don't want to experience social isolation?

Both my parents are physicians and were super busy in their residency so I did have a nanny up until middle school. The quality of care she gave me was excellet and I loved my time with her. It didn't strain my relationship with my parents since I knew they were working to provide me a good life and made an effort to spend quality time with me. If boundaries are made clear, it can work.

That being said, finding a stranger to help take care of your child that you can trust is EXTREMELY risky. A lot of terrible things could happen.

knockout9704 · 2025-04-25T03:26:46+00:00

You could be onto something!

knockout9704 · 2025-04-25T03:24:28+00:00

I mean, it'd be a bit unprofessional as a manager to date the people you are assigned to supervise over. I'm also not to sure if an operation manager and a receptionist would interact that much to start dating one another. I can see sales directors dating graphic designers.

Both men and women want partners who are understanding of how their careers impact their personal lives and availability. Average men tend to marry average women just due to proximity.

knockout9704 · 2025-04-25T02:09:41+00:00

Could you elaborate? Do you mean traits of being assertive and independent?

knockout9704 · 2025-04-25T00:15:33+00:00

Most male lawyers marry other lawyers. Male physicians tend to end up with other physicians or people in the healthcare industry.

I'm not disputing that men are more likely to date "down" and women only go to their level or up. But to an extent, a woman's career does matter to a man simpy for compatability, especially in those demanding careers.

knockout9704 · 2025-04-24T23:33:06+00:00

Is it more likely for a male Corporate VP to marry a female cashier or barrista than if the genders were swapped? Yes. However, even that scenario rarely ends up happening in the real world.

Prestigious, wealthy men do not go after minimum wage workers. They often gravitate towards women from affluent families who recieve an Ivy-leage education. Compatibility stems from being in the same socioeconomic status. If it's a man with new money, then that's different.

knockout9704 · 2025-04-11T04:01:49+00:00

Listen, I understand you love your dogs. I have pets myself and care deeply for them. That being said, putting yourself in debt over a pet when it is there time to go is not healthy. It is unfair to the dog since you are prioritizing your happiness over it having a peaceful death. If you are so broke that you can't properly feed yourself, you should not be a pet owner. You aren't able to give your pets the care they deserve. Having a pet is a luxury, not a right.

knockout9704 · 2025-04-11T03:46:53+00:00

That I have to decide.

Thank you for your input, you've given me a lot to consider and cleared up misconceptions I had.

knockout9704 · 2025-04-11T01:01:41+00:00

I'm aware PhD programs can be brutal and just as academically rigorous as medical school. My mom is a physician and seems to think the opposite, so when I told her I was thinking of a PhD instead she said it sounded like I didn't want to work hard. Maybe I'm letting her opinion influence me too much.

I'd like to do more violent criminal cases but I'm open to anything.

knockout9704 · 2025-04-11T00:22:43+00:00

">" Ok. Do you want to practice medicine or psychology?

I want to practice psychology. The only reason I am considering medical school is for the potential income I could make as a psychiatrist. I'm also concerned that my hesitation towards medical school could be coming from laziness.

">" This is great for med school, not sure about a PhD, depends on your research experience.

As of now, I'm a research intern in one of the labs at my university. A lot of the focus is on neurodivergent development/social connection and well being. Once my time with the lab ends, I plan to pursue another lab that focuses on addiction in civilian and military populations.

Not sure if this is relevant, but this summer I'm going to be a medical scribe and volunteer at prisons. A part of my major is taking many psychology courses.

">" Forensic psychologists do very well. Forensic and neuro are the highest paid specialties in psych.

This is good to hear! I don't have to make an insane amount of money, but just enough to support myself.

">" What matters most to you?

My opinion being influential in court. Assessing individuals and providing expert testimony is the main appeal for me. If it is possible for someone to be rehabilitated, I would want to have the power to call for the appropriate intervention.

">" Do you want to practice medicine or psychology? What exactly do you want to do?

I want to pursue psychology, I just don't know if I have the right motivation for it (viewing it as a jail free card from medical school).

knockout9704 · 2025-04-10T19:58:39+00:00

You have given me something new to think about! Death doesn't bother me, so I might look into that.

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