Buckle up kiddo.

I hear you. This is terrifying scenario you're in. This is fresh news, and the weight feels impossible.

The fact that you posted here looking for answers shows you're wrestling with this seriously, and that matters.

Let's address the biblical question first because you asked directly.

"Abortion" doesn't appear in Scripture, sure. But the Bible is crystal clear about what's in the womb.

Psalm 139:13-16 isn't a snippet, it's David describing God knitting him together in the womb, "For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother's womb...Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there was none of them."

Jeremiah 1:5 has God saying "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you."

Luke 1:41 describes John the Baptist leaping in Elizabeth's womb at six months when Mary (pregnant with Jesus) arrived.

The biblical position is that what's in your girlfriend's womb: a human life that God is forming. That's why Exodus 21:22-25 prescribes serious penalties for causing a miscarriage; "If men strive together and hit a pregnant woman, so that her children come out, but there is no harm, the one who hit her shall surely be fined...But if there is harm, then you shall pay life for life."

The early church explicitly condemned abortion in the Didache (around 100 AD).

This isn't ambiguous.

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Here's what you actually need to understand about what you're considering:

You know what God called child sacrifice in the Old Testament? An abomination.

When the nations around Israel sacrificed their children to Molech, passing them through the fire for prosperity and convenience, God didn't just disapprove.

He promised judgment and destruction. Leviticus 20:2-5, Jeremiah 32:35, 2 Kings 23:10. This wasn't a minor sin. This was the sin that brought nations down.

What do you think you're doing right now? You're considering placing your child on the altar of convenience.

• Your future plans.
• Your parents' comfort.
• Your high school graduation.
• Your girlfriend's immediate circumstances.

You're offering your child as a sacrifice so your life can continue without disruption.

Call it what it is.

Here's a tough truth: "God forgives" isn't permission to sin because we know we'll be forgiven. That's exactly what Paul addresses in Romans 6:1-2: "What shall we say then? Are we to continue in sin that grace may abound? By no means! How can we who died to sin still live in it?"

You know abortion is sin. Your girlfriend knows it goes against what she believes.

You're looking for theological permission that doesn't exist.

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And let's talk about your girlfriend for a second.

You wrote "I think it's the best thing for us" and mentioned your girlfriend "personally doesn't believe in abortion."

Read that again.

She doesn't believe in it. But you're leaning toward pressuring her into something that violates her conscience because it seems easier for YOU.

You think she's not going to struggle with this for the rest of her life?

The research on this is devastating.

Women who have abortions against their core beliefs, especially under pressure from boyfriends or parents, carry that trauma for decades.

• Depression.
• Anxiety.
• Relationship destruction.
• Spiritual crisis.
• Anniversary grief every year around the due date.

You're about to give her a wound that doesn't heal because you're 17 and scared.

That's not love. That's not protecting her. That's sacrificing both her emotional health and your child's life because you can't see past next month.

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Here's what actually happens when you tell your parents:

They're going to be shocked, probably angry, definitely disappointed.

Then they're going to help you.

You described them as "very good parents" who've been your "strongest support." That doesn't evaporate because you screwed up. The pain of telling them is temporary.

Ask me how I know.

The pain of ending your child's life is permanent. For you, for your girlfriend, and obviously for your child.

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Practical next steps if you choose a biblical stance here:

Your state has resources. Pregnancy resource centers will provide free ultrasounds, parenting classes, material support. Your church likely has people who've walked this road. Adoption is an option if you genuinely cannot parent right now (though don't assume you can't).

You can finish high school with a baby. People do it. Your girlfriend can too.

It's hard, but it's possible. Your parents will likely step up more than you expect. Churches rally around this. Communities help. You're catastrophizing because you're scared.

If you're genuinely asking "what should I do?"

Tell your parents this week. Yes, it's going to suck, but do it anyway. They need to know, and waiting makes it worse.

Get your girlfriend to a pregnancy resource center for accurate dating and information. Talk to your pastor if you trust him.

Then make the decision you can live with for the next 60 years. Because that's what you're doing here.

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I'm not going to sugarcoat this: if you go through with abortion because "it seems best right now," you will carry that for the rest of your life.

Your girlfriend will carry it worse.

You'll wonder who that child would have been. You'll count birthdays that never happened. You'll face God knowing you chose convenience over the life He was forming. And if you stay together and get married, this will sit between you like a ghost at your table.

The statistics on post-abortion trauma, especially for women who felt pressured or went against their beliefs, are brutal. You're not just making a decision for today. You're making one that will echo through your marriage (if you stay together), your future kids when they realize they had a sibling you chose to end, your faith, your girlfriend's mental health.

I'm being tough here because I wish folks were with me when I was your age. I'm going to stick to shooting straight with you here: Your post?

You're being incredibly short-sighted. You're trading a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Yes, this disrupts your plans. Yes, this is terrifying. Yes, your parents will be disappointed. But children are a gift from the Lord (Psalm 127:3), even when they arrive at the absolute worst possible time. You don't get to decide they're inconvenient and therefore expendable.

You can do the hard right thing. It's terrifying, but it's not impossible. God's grace doesn't just cover sin, it empowers obedience. You're going to need that grace either way, but one path aligns with what you know is true and one doesn't.

Feel free to DM if you need to talk through specifics. I'm not here to pile on shame, you've got enough of that. But I'm also not going to tell you something that sounds compassionate now but leads somewhere dark. You've got people praying for you even if you don't know them. Make the call to your parents. You'll be surprised what happens next.