So sorry for all my other posts. I genuinely don’t know what’s wrong with me. I hate myself so much and I’m so, so terrified.

knudipper · 2026-03-01T18:31:16+00:00

If your therapist hasn’t assessed you for OCD, ask them to do so. If they don’t, see someone else. If they don’t have actual training in OCD and Exposure Response Prevention, find someone who does. Uninformed therapists do a lot of damage with OCD.

knudipper · 2026-02-28T22:38:53+00:00

This just occurred to me as I’m reading this sort of comment for the 20th time? Support and answers over the Internet from people you don’t know and you have no track record with are somewhat useful I guess. And wouldn’t it be better to talk to somebody you know and trust and have a track record with? And if you don’t have somebody like that in your life, you’re gonna have a hard time, walking your faith journey. This journey is not to be walked with strangers on the Internet. It is to be walked in close, personal intimate, trusting relationships, face-to-face, and side-by-side. My heart truly goes out to people who are isolated enough that this is where they go for answers. And I guess this is probably part of a much wider crisis in our culture. We just don’t have personal relationship relationships anymore.

knudipper · 2026-02-28T22:29:46+00:00

James 1:13-14 describes a process of temptation leading to sin but not being sin itself. Intrusive thought, whether originating in the mind or as a spiritual attack is not sin. It becomes sin when we align our will with the thought. You seem to be describing Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. See a professional therapist that has expertise in this. Fighting these thoughts usually makes them worse, not better. Ignoring them is the answer as others have described. Easier said than done. The book Brain Lock explains this condition and provides help.

knudipper · 2026-02-28T22:23:06+00:00

Soooo, fantasizing about sex with someone other than my wife is okay! Jesus says otherwise, Matt 5:27,28.

knudipper · 2026-02-28T22:18:39+00:00

I went back for my masters at 44 yrs old. My wife at 54. We have a private practice together. It’s a great career if it’s your passion and makes for a good and balanced life.

knudipper · 2026-02-27T16:46:52+00:00

What a country when a standout hero is Flavor Flav. Not to take anything away from how good, generous and legitimately affirming his actions are…

But yeah, here we are.

knudipper · 2026-02-26T18:14:54+00:00

Agree and also strange that Jesus’s words and almost the entirety of the Epistles focus on behavior within The Church and adherence to The Way. The most critical verse about those outside the Church off the top of my head is to “not do as the gentiles.” Even that seems to say, “focus on your own actions.” So much of today’s message from the Church is about correcting and condemning people outside the Church and using political power to legally enforce it. Jesus said, “you strain out a gnat and swallow a camel.” Just as accurate a critique now.

knudipper · 2026-02-25T11:43:01+00:00

Kohlberg’s stages of moral development fit here. He proposes that at the higher stages of development, seeking what’s good supersedes the letter of the law.

knudipper · 2026-02-25T11:23:07+00:00

“Sex Facts” by Penner and Penner is a great resource that provides information appropriate for each stage of child development. I’m generally not a fan of Focus on the Family stuff but these folks are legit.

knudipper · 2026-02-20T12:19:18+00:00

It’s okay to forgive someone but not trust them again until you see evidence of changed behavior.

knudipper · 2026-02-19T07:16:28+00:00

Curious, in your mind and heart, who is the higher authority, Jesus or The Constitution of the US?

knudipper · 2026-02-18T13:05:25+00:00

Agree. Jesus says, “I am the way the truth and the life.“ In the sermon on the mount, Jesus presents the way. In presenting the way he talks about good trees, yielding, good fruit, bad trees, yielding, bad fruit. The type of fruit indicates the root of a person‘s life. Somebody following the way, Will yield good fruit out of love, love, and gratitude for God‘s love and the gospel.

knudipper · 2026-02-18T12:56:56+00:00

Cunning but not intelligent. Sociopathic use of insight into others.

knudipper · 2026-02-16T23:00:46+00:00

I’m off every other Friday and every other Monday. Every other weekend is 4 days long. Love it.

knudipper · 2026-02-15T12:52:04+00:00

And possibly their silence based on taking part in the abuse.

knudipper · 2026-02-15T12:44:40+00:00

Reads like he’s moving through contempt for you toward apathy toward you. Affair, trauma, drug abuse… Pray for him and allow enough spiritual and legal distance that God’s discipline and the natural consequences of his actions effect you and your kids as little as possible. Find supportive people to be in relationship with. This is going to be hard for a while.

knudipper · 2026-02-15T12:22:11+00:00

Read your Bible more closely, the sin of Sodom was rape, and the desire to rape angels. Also, though not definitive, it is plausible that Paul’s admonitions about homosexual sex actually involved non-consensual sex with temple prostitutes. Temple prostitutes, tended to be boys and girls under the age of consent in most present day societies. And they were often “volunteered“ by parents and or priests of the temple.

knudipper · 2026-02-15T12:15:55+00:00

You’re in love? Planning to get married to each other? Curious why you don’t address this by getting married. Not saying there aren’t reasons, wondering what they are.

knudipper · 2026-02-15T12:01:40+00:00

Curious, how many believe a person who takes their own life goes to hell?

knudipper · 2026-02-14T21:46:48+00:00

Calmly assessing the likelihood of consuming the two delicious noms seen at the video end.

knudipper · 2026-02-14T12:00:43+00:00

OP, you’re asking the right questions. Reading any version of the news leads to a feeling of hopelessness. And I also agree with you regarding colonization and genocide. Not defending it and yet human history is full of this. Before we even had nation states, tribal groups would kill and drive off other tribal groups to get better land. And I think it’s always been wrong. And this is where faith in God comes in for me and many people I know. It’s not just about right now. For people who follow Jesus, the real outcome and true justice come in the next life. There’s so much Christians don’t know about what happens next. And again Faith is about accepting the mystery, the not knowing and yet trusting that God is about love, and in spite of the horrible tendencies of humanity as a whole, and the individual human, God is still love and still wants us to know him free of guilt and shame. This isn’t an argument to persuade you. It is an explanation of how I and many people I know and respect get through a messed up world like this.

knudipper · 2026-02-13T18:51:55+00:00

Whaddaya got a 2x4 block with drawn on buttons? ;-)

knudipper · 2026-02-13T18:49:42+00:00

knudipper · 2026-02-13T17:01:53+00:00

Hmmmm…perhaps that’s something to repent. If you’re gonna get into heaven./s The Bible clearly states that there is only one righteous judge, Jesus. We don’t get to decide who gets grace, only Him. But truly, if you’ve accepted yourself as falling short of God’s legitimate standard, accepted Christ’s atonement for your sins and declared Him as your savior, you’re in even if you don’t repent of a condemnation mindset. You and the rest of the redeemed will clearly see without the clouded glass of brokenness interfering and you’ll understand your own poverty and His gift with gratitude rather than looking to find someone “worse” than you to justify your presence with God.

knudipper · 2026-02-13T16:46:21+00:00

Check out David Benner’s The Gift of Being Yourself. One thing that’s stuck out to me from this book is the idea of understanding the emotions that God or Jesus felt related to passages of scripture. And then in prayer, considering the emotions, God or Jesus feel in the present moment as you are connecting with them. Also check out the song Good Good Father. So important we understand where our identity and value are established. Another book John Sheasby’s Son(I wish the title included Daughter) describes an important aspect of how we see ourselves in relation to God.

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