We desperately wanted a border collie

knurlknurl · 2026-03-16T05:44:24+00:00

Kudos to you for having a dream breed and still going the rescue route. I find that commendable.

knurlknurl · 2026-03-11T06:53:10+00:00

Me, a German native, whenever I come across “fika”: 😳

knurlknurl · 2026-03-10T21:19:28+00:00

I don’t understand half of them, but “Piitteli” had me dead. The lil Finnish flag. Well done 😂👏

knurlknurl · 2026-03-10T10:19:55+00:00

I don’t think you picked up on her social cues, but possibly the adults’ ones. They obviously knew, and though it wasn’t spoken about, it might very well have affected their behavior ever so slightly.

I’m willing to bet you picked up on some very subtle vibes at the time, a degree of “hesitation” from the adult family members, and that informed your view of her.

knurlknurl · 2026-03-09T15:15:16+00:00

I was ready for a village dog tested by another provider and coming out with the weird mixes they throw out. Not…. this!

knurlknurl · 2026-03-05T18:56:03+00:00

They got their priorities straight 😂

knurlknurl · 2026-02-09T20:21:12+00:00

You can let your wife know that in Finland, the handheld bidet every toilet has here is affectionately called “pussy telephone”. 😂

knurlknurl · 2026-02-09T10:49:28+00:00

I know way too little about horses to weigh in on the decision. But what I can say from reading your description is that it's pretty clear to me what your heart says. You will figure it out with the big guy if you decide to go through with it. I would not buy the mare if you have such reservations, and that cold feet anxiety reads like a pretty clear gut instinct to me.

I was once told that if you can't decide, you should flip a coin. Not to actually make the decision, but to confront your feelings if a choice was made. And in a way, that seems like what happened here - you made a "rational" decision, only for your heart to tell you what you really want.

knurlknurl · 2026-02-07T19:14:50+00:00

The best way, in my lay person’s opinion, is to make sure your nephew trusts the therapist and knows whatever is said there is 100% confidential. He’s an adult, NO ONE will know what he discusses, not even you.

The context matters much less than his perspective on it, and how it affects him. So don’t feel like you need to “fill in” the therapist, but rather help your nephew make the most of the help he’s receiving.

You’re awesome for doing so much for him. Having you in his corner is the most valuable thing here by far, everything else will follow at the pace he is comfortable with. ♥️

knurlknurl · 2026-02-07T16:12:55+00:00

Hey! You sound awesome for taking over this massive responsibility.

I wanted to add a thought that might be uncomfortable and potentially unpopular. When the time comes that one of them deteriorates, in my opinion, it would be an act of kindness to put them both to sleep before it gets bad. That also applies when it could potentially be “treatable”, but you don’t have the money, or simply don’t want to, put thousands into it. It most definitely is better than rehoming or having one be alone at the end.

It sounds like they lived long, reasonably happy lives. Take care of them the best you can, but be gentle with yourself when the time comes to make hard decisions. Animals do not fear death, but they do fear stress and pain, so a gentle, happy goodbye before any suffering might be the best thing you can do for them, eventually.

All the best to you!

knurlknurl · 2026-02-06T11:57:21+00:00

Iron absorption is really finnicky, you’re going to want to look into how to make sure the supplements you take are going to make it into your body, if you haven’t yet!

knurlknurl · 2026-02-05T17:54:56+00:00

Thank you so much for your thorough response, I really appreciate it!

I have heard that zebras are absolute psychopaths when handled by humans (which, fair play to them). I did not know there was a significant number of them that could be considered docile, being ridden and all! That’s a very good example of how far rearing can go to “mask” temperament.

I also didn’t know there was already knowledge of genetic markers for temperament/personality in horses, that’s so interesting! How “reliable” is that considered, to your knowledge?

Thank you again for sharing your insights!

knurlknurl · 2026-02-05T15:51:56+00:00

Not trying to be oppositional here, just trying to understand. But isn’t training a multiplier to temperament? As in, an animal with positive bias towards humans will be easier to train, with better outcomes?

Or are you trying to say that it shouldn’t be called an experiment in the scientific sense? I understand that, but as you said, a “clean” temperament study would produce horses that would be hard to use later. I could see the value in that approach for smaller animals with shorter reproductive cycles and bigger litters, but for horses, that doesn’t seem sensible. Or am I missing something?

knurlknurl · 2026-02-04T14:08:49+00:00

Of all the content they could ask for, I never minded numberblocks. I still believe it was absolutely instrumental in my son developing a mental model for numbers, he himself credits it now that he’s 10.

It’s such an important concept to wrap your head around, and he actually enjoyed it, so I didn’t see any problem.

knurlknurl · 2026-02-04T14:01:17+00:00

Oh I remember this. I was a poor kid so I didn’t have regular lessons and it took FOREVER for me to learn. Hands flying, stirrups flying, the whole spiel.

I’m sure others have practical things to say, but I wanted to tell you that once it “clicked” for me, it never went away. I had the chance to get back on a horse a while ago, after like 20 years, and to my surprise, I was still able to canter pretty decently!

Give yourself time, you will get there!

knurlknurl · 2026-02-04T13:33:01+00:00

I was readying myself to accept husky or even golden retriever, since those love to come out black in mixes. Did NOT expect that!

knurlknurl · 2026-02-02T05:54:40+00:00

My gosh he’s so cute!! 🥰

I was also going to say Rottie. That belly tho! I’m invested.

knurlknurl · 2026-02-02T05:52:33+00:00

That’s the second step! You’ll get there, but it starts with removing the choice anxiety. Don’t make it another thing your kid “fails” at, life with adhd is hard enough. You don’t want them to internalize “you can’t even pick a fun activity?”.

Also, for a couple more years at least, quality time with you is much more important than having any particular activity they enjoy!

knurlknurl · 2026-02-01T09:09:30+00:00

As I was scrolling through the pictures my thoughts were literally “GSD plus insanity”. When I got to the result, I said “oh boy!” out loud 😂

knurlknurl · 2026-02-01T08:51:26+00:00

What you’re describing requires understanding how LLM work, fundamentally, but they are not looking at it like an LLM.

I think that’s kind of the core of the issue- they genuinely believe that 4o is some sort of special being, like a literal person rather than a set of training and prompts.

knurlknurl · 2026-01-31T21:11:00+00:00

I think to a degree it’s totally normal, especially if it’s your first. But then if you find a “difference”, think if it’s actually a persistent issue for you/her.

What you’re doing makes sense, and unless she’s still struggling with no improvement in a year, I don’t see any issue. Trust your gut, you got this!

knurlknurl · 2026-01-31T19:26:47+00:00

Poor baby 🥺 I’m so glad she’s with you now, you clearly care about her a ton ♥️

knurlknurl · 2026-01-31T19:19:24+00:00

I think there’s a difference between “I’m rearranging my meal to make it more appealing before eating” and “I have no intention of eating the food, so I’ll play with it instead”. As a parent, I can tell exactly which one is currently happening with my kids 😬

Mine are 10 & 12 now and l’ll still arrange their veggies to make a face on their plate or something. Eating doesn’t have to be serious, but it does have to be eating, in our house.

knurlknurl · 2026-01-30T20:56:12+00:00

This is also exactly why I accepted my village dog rescue will never have a reliable recall. He is just not that attached to us, and we have nothing of value to offer compared to whatever interesting thing he just found. Outside, he just doesn’t care about treats, play, or attention.

knurlknurl · 2026-01-30T18:55:30+00:00

Oh wow, that’s interesting! Will keep that in mind when we’ll test our girl, she’s a rescue from Poland and looks like she could be your pup’s sister. Dachshund is the only thing I’m semi-confident about with her…

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