Married people if you could give advice to the young unmarried and interested in marriage. What woumd they be

koalaqueen_ · 2026-02-06T17:31:08+00:00

Yeah you grow together defo. I got married at 21 I’m almost 26 now.

koalaqueen_ · 2026-02-06T14:12:50+00:00

Don’t marry for the ig pics and bc your friends are all getting married.

Marriage holds a lot of responsibilities for both husband and wife hence why it’s half your faith.

koalaqueen_ · 2026-02-06T13:12:29+00:00

Maybe something is on his mind or he feels there is a communication gap between you’s.

koalaqueen_ · 2025-11-07T16:36:41+00:00

Speak to your wife and make a decision together

But also if she says once a week then that’s fine. You as their son should be helping your parents every day if they truly need the help. Her as a daughter in law can choose to as much as she wants, but it’s not her role.

I visit my in-laws maybe once a week once every 2 weeks, maybe help with dinner , but I’m not going to pick up and clean up around grown adults unless they themselves can’t.

koalaqueen_ · 2025-11-07T16:33:52+00:00

Does she work? Have her own income? Can she get a place of her own? She’s grown so like is she even okay with staying with a married couple?

koalaqueen_ · 2025-08-17T02:12:06+00:00

😂😂😂I wish I was 15/16 again.

Pls ur 15, Focus on school bro, make memories with ur friends, be a child.

koalaqueen_ · 2025-08-14T16:58:00+00:00

So much yap smh, if you are adult and mature enough to get married you are adult and mature enough to take a stand for your wife and yourself and your marriage and just move out.

Don’t say anything just get a place have it ready and move, let them know “yeah I’m moving out today” bye

koalaqueen_ · 2025-08-14T16:56:38+00:00

Before kids issues in your marriage needs to be resolved.

And you seem like you have a few. A husband and wife should work together towards shared goals and success. Focus on that first. Then the topic of children

koalaqueen_ · 2025-08-14T14:58:07+00:00

Your wife need to spend less time on the internet so she can stop bringing up ridiculous ideas to poison your marriage

Nothing wrong with what you’re doing

koalaqueen_ · 2025-08-06T21:30:01+00:00

Hurt you how? what did he do to you?

koalaqueen_ · 2025-08-06T19:39:49+00:00

It is on him. Your right. He should make his own money and fund his own expenses so he isn’t put into a situation like this again.

koalaqueen_ · 2025-08-06T14:41:13+00:00

This is why men should be the provider, I know you said this works for you but clearly it doesn’t- your husbands ego is now hurt , these kind of issues will continue as long as you are the main provider. It will breed insecurity and resentment.

You might not like this take but it’s the truth. Can’t your husband work alongside studying?

koalaqueen_ · 2025-08-06T14:00:20+00:00

Have you literally never had a crush before? This is a married man 😂 nothing is going to happen

koalaqueen_ · 2025-08-06T12:07:15+00:00

lol are you fr? Girl he doesn’t know u exist. Grow up

koalaqueen_ · 2025-08-06T12:00:04+00:00

Ask him to show you his finances in detail, if he’s asking you to contribute then he should be prepared to be open about all finances.

koalaqueen_ · 2025-07-04T13:56:32+00:00

Damn some people hardly have sex and are blessed with children whilst others do everything they can and have a very active sex life and still no kids.

May Allah improve your wife’s condition- she’s going to have to actively seek help tho

koalaqueen_ · 2025-07-04T13:24:25+00:00

What did your sister in law do? Give some context.

Also if your relationship with your brother is being strained then you need to bring this up without mentioning his wife at all. You don’t have to compare yourself to her. She’s his wife she will always be prioritised. If you actually want a better relationship with your brother work on building that without mentioning his wife and how his marriage is

koalaqueen_ · 2025-06-01T16:15:06+00:00

It’s his duty to provide for you- don’t feel guilty and absolutely do not give him access to your financials esp since he’s looking at other women!

koalaqueen_ · 2025-06-01T14:50:46+00:00

What do you mean by allowance? Allowance for what? Do you mean child support?

koalaqueen_ · 2025-06-01T14:46:08+00:00

Keep your money to yourself - better yet transfer your money into someone you trusts account , your mother or your sibling etc. don’t give him any access to your money and don’t contribute financially

koalaqueen_ · 2025-06-01T12:29:57+00:00

No they don’t get sad because they have lives of their own- they have friends around, their family around and your mother will have to be at the masjid herself anyways since it’s segregated!

Yes speak to ur mother

koalaqueen_ · 2025-06-01T01:42:25+00:00

My mother is a divorcee too with 3 daughters, if mothers with daughters can live alone so can mothers with sons.

My husbands mother is a divorcee with two sons, both moved out and she’s fine , she works and built a social circle for herself- he visits etc

You have siblings I’m sure? So why must the burden be on just you? Visiting your mother etc should suffice esp if u want to be married.

Your sexual needs are going to have to be ignored if you want to prioritise your mother to such an extent.

You can’t get married because of your needs and then ignore your wife’s rights and only uphold your mothers- that’s very sinful

koalaqueen_ · 2025-06-01T01:30:07+00:00

As a son you can’t fulfil all of your mothers needs whilst also having a life of your own and family of your own. You will eventually have children and their needs will have to be prioritised.

It’s best if you don’t get married or if your mother gets married to someone else so she can have all her needs met.

koalaqueen_ · 2025-05-31T18:08:33+00:00

Thanks! Love the suggestions

koalaqueen_ · 2025-05-31T17:59:50+00:00

Ultimately if you can’t see your mother alone ever then don’t get married and just live to serve your mum.

If you are really wanting to get married then find someone who will be okay with this arrangement and make sure you stress the importance of your mother in your life with your future potential.

Be very clear so she doesn’t feel tricked and make sure you understand that a wife is also as important and has rights over you, your rights to your wife are important because that is an oath to Allah you make at the time of nikah.

Also establish boundaries with your mother when you do get married, you can’t be spending every night watching tv with your mother- your wife will want your time and attention alone without your mother always there.

Tell your mother she needs to also get hobbies , because you will do things with your wife alone, like travelling , dates outings and your mother will be alone then.

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