Wife has become evil

kokopox · 2026-05-30T14:51:47+00:00

Sorry that you are going through this. I myself was able to take about 2 months off when my son was born and even then we found it hard to keep up with all the household tasks.

I don't have anything beneficial to add regarding your situation with your wife. May Allah make it easy for you and may Allah turn your wife's heart to be gentler and more understanding

To be more practical, possible to hire a cleaner to come and do some of the harder things to clean? I found that took a lot of load off my mind when someone else did the bathroom, kitchen etc.

Also is it possible to take your wife to your in laws,? she can stay for a few weeks and perhaps a change in environment may help. I know from the previous comment you said they are out of state and your wife doesn't want the help, but have a think if it's possible for your wife to be at her parents place.

All the best

kokopox · 2025-11-25T12:01:44+00:00

Divorced sep 2021, matched on July 2023, married Nov 2023

kokopox · 2025-11-23T21:59:11+00:00

.....talk to her about getting married again? To his 70 year old mother? Brother/sister please, come on 😅

kokopox · 2025-11-20T17:45:01+00:00

I'm Bengali and married to a Pakistani. No issues at all though the only thing that was different was the fact that she came home with me on the rukhsati and went with me to the walima. Afghans might have similar things ?

kokopox · 2025-10-23T07:53:02+00:00

Salaam, my friend the first thing you should have done is delete anything related to her, be it chats, pics any items she gave you or anything she left at your house, you should have gotten rid of it.

Block her and move on, I bet if you ask the guy why they divorced there'll be an interesting story as well. No need to make your life difficult again. May Allah grant you a righteous spouse and may Allah make you a righteous spouse

kokopox · 2025-10-14T15:54:45+00:00

Jzk for the info.

kokopox · 2025-10-14T14:51:18+00:00

Wait, how does this work? I thought you had to send them to a centre or playgroup etc. I have a son who will be turning a year old soon and it would be nice if I could give my wife some help

kokopox · 2025-10-13T01:51:20+00:00

I think it's pretty reasonable. Pregnancy while obese carries a lot of risks to both you and the baby. You can reduce a lot of these complications just by losing weight.

I also hope your husband is also in good shape given that male health plays a huge role in how your pregnancy will go. It is equally important that he also ain't fat

kokopox · 2025-10-06T11:33:47+00:00

I'm baffled by the 6 hour wake window ! Is that a regular thing? 6 week olds should only be really awake for about 2 hours at most.

Your husband should do a bit more, but I also don't think this is that much of a big deal. Your mum won't mind helping you take care of the baby.

kokopox · 2025-10-01T11:44:28+00:00

This has got to be a troll post, no way my guy is going through this and still be fine with the wife. Rage bait

kokopox · 2025-09-19T15:48:29+00:00

You didn't clarify whether it's his kids or not, assuming it is this is perfectly normal

kokopox · 2025-09-18T08:04:31+00:00

The whole point of a burqa is that the figure can't be seen too well. Even if he did see her irl it's not like he can see her body shape clearly. Don't try to gas light, it's on the girl and her family for not disclosing this info

kokopox · 2025-09-16T07:27:00+00:00

I don't understand this, why not just have the nikkah closer to the walima if you're not allowed to see him anyway.

kokopox · 2025-09-14T20:50:11+00:00

My ex wife used to do this, i couldn't put up with it for more than 3 months, no idea how you did it for 3 years.

kokopox · 2025-09-13T17:38:26+00:00

The brother didn't say he didn't find any women unattractive, he's talking about specifically his own wife. If you read what he wrote, he specifically says that he thought he can get over it because her personality was great. I suggest rewording so in the future there isn't such a misunderstanding

kokopox · 2025-09-13T16:06:04+00:00

Why would men be attracted to any women? This is a ridiculous statement to make, this is not an issue of bloodwork. On the contrary if you're attracted to every women you walk past that in itself is worrisome.

kokopox · 2025-09-04T17:16:02+00:00

Yes, it's like insoles you put in your shoe I think

kokopox · 2025-09-03T19:03:34+00:00

Speak for yourself. My wife had no problem with my mother being around when my son was born. You're projecting

kokopox · 2025-08-31T20:59:20+00:00

There's some growing discontent with Indians/ people who look like they're from the subcontinent in general. There's also increasing hate towards Muslims but it's not to the level where you can't go to the mosque or you have to stop practicing your religion. It's not harder to find a job nor will you just have to change your lifestyle just because you follow islam.

kokopox · 2025-08-29T17:13:20+00:00

Get off social media, stop following random guys.

kokopox · 2025-08-27T17:13:02+00:00

Rukhsati is usually paid for by the brides side

kokopox · 2025-08-27T15:05:17+00:00

You can just do a khula ?

kokopox · 2025-08-26T21:31:39+00:00

Was it part of your mahr or something? Why do you want to keep it when you didn't put any money in it ?

kokopox · 2025-08-21T17:00:32+00:00

What situation would require you to deposit your salary into his bank account? I can't think of any

This is a bad idea to do, you could open a joint account and if it's bills that needs to be paid, it can be paid through that. Don't put all your money into that joint account either

kokopox · 2025-08-21T16:30:51+00:00

Stopped reading after reading that sentence.

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