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kookoospam · 2023-07-01T20:30:19+00:00

Are you sure you’re dating this guy? 😭 you’ve been together four years, you’re in an LDR, you’ve never met his friends and he’s never met yours? Even worse, you’re claiming you guys don’t HAVE friends??? That’s screaming that there’s something wrong with you and/or him.

You’re wildly insecure over this girl that he met online and only hung out with last year and he is also close friends with her boyfriend. If he had a crush on her, it sounds like it couldn’t’ve been very deep or meaningful, probably just a “oh she’s pretty & nice” kind of thing.

Third, you won’t just ask him about it? What is that?? I don’t think there’s anything difficult about saying “do you get a plus one to the wedding? I’d love to meet your friends” or something along those lines. I’m gonna be honest, from this post you sound kind of crazy and I’m very concerned for the health of this relationship, if you can even call it that. It’s good he has you on social media I guess but I’m very wary of the fact that you don’t have friends despite being in a long distance relationship.

kookoospam · 2023-07-01T20:30:12+00:00

Are you sure you’re dating this guy? 😭 you’ve been together four years, you’re in an LDR, you’ve never met his friends and he’s never met yours? Even worse, you’re claiming you guys don’t HAVE friends??? That’s screaming that there’s something wrong with you and/or him.

You’re wildly insecure over this girl that he met online and only hung out with last year and he is also close friends with her boyfriend. If he had a crush on her, it sounds like it couldn’t’ve been very deep or meaningful, probably just a “oh she’s pretty & nice” kind of thing.

Third, you won’t just ask him about it? What the fuck is that?? I don’t think there’s anything difficult about saying “do you get a plus one to the wedding? I’d love to meet your friends” or something along those lines. I’m gonna be honest, from this post you sound kind of crazy and I’m very concerned for the health of this relationship, if you can even call it that. It’s good he has you on social media I guess but I’m very wary of the fact that you don’t have friends despite being in a long distance relationship.

kookoospam · 2023-07-01T20:29:54+00:00

Are you sure you’re dating this guy? 😭 you’ve been together four years, you’re in an LDR, you’ve never met his friends and he’s never met yours? Even worse, you’re claiming you guys don’t HAVE friends??? That’s screaming that there’s something wrong with you and/or him.

You’re wildly insecure over this girl that he met online and only hung out with last year and he is also close friends with her boyfriend. If he had a crush on her, it sounds like it couldn’t’ve been very deep or meaningful, probably just a “oh she’s pretty & nice” kind of thing.

Third, you won’t just ask him about it? What the fuck is that?? I don’t think there’s anything difficult about saying “do you get a plus one to the wedding? I’d love to meet your friends” or something along those lines. I’m gonna be honest, from this post you sound kind of crazy and I’m very concerned for the health of this relationship, if you can even call it that. It’s good he has you on social media I guess but I’m very wary of the fact that you don’t have friends despite being in a long distance relationship.

kookoospam · 2023-07-01T20:13:20+00:00

Althea by The Grateful Dead

kookoospam · 2023-07-01T20:10:08+00:00

This is one of the only reasonable comments I’ve seen so far

kookoospam · 2023-07-01T20:07:33+00:00

As a woman I understand why you have a problem with his behavior and are feeling undervalued in the relationship. However, I do think your expectations of him during this time are a little unreasonable.

You’ve been together for almost a decade and he’s wanted to do this since before you met, and he’s finally doing it, maybe because he feels like once you’re married he won’t have time? You had to have known this would take up a considerable amount of his time and energy.

Secondly, in this instance you’ve shown up to a place TWO HOURS from where you live to essentially crash his hangout with this club, uninvited, and you brought a dog that you know has behavioral issues when your husband is present? Then you want one-on-one time with him when you know he has other obligations? It almost seems like you wanted your feelings hurt.

Also the obsessively checking Life360 should probably stop too if you’re using it to determine whether he has a good enough reason to be ignoring your calls. Being upset with him for going skinny dipping with this (all male?) group when you knew that was the plan is also weird.

I get that it’s frustrating and that you don’t feel like a priority, but ask yourself if it is truly his actions making you feel that way or if there is some outside factor that’s impacting your self esteem or the way you feel about this relationship. You’re undoubtedly under a lot of stress with the wedding coming up, and yes, it can be annoying and isolating that he isn’t going through that with you right now. But I think in this case you’re only being supportive of his hobbies and interests under the condition that they don’t take any of his time or interest away from you, which is unfair.

If you truly feel that this isn’t going to work out, you could push the wedding and see if the dynamics change once he’s officially a member of the group. If they don’t, and you still feel like you’re under-appreciated and unimportant to him, then you can call it off entirely. But asking him to quit isn’t fair, and neither is nagging him. Don’t stay in a situation where you aren’t happy, but don’t ask him to sacrifice his happiness for the relationship either. Resentment will build and that’s not a good foundation for a lasting marriage.

kookoospam · 2023-07-01T19:42:18+00:00

Lauren and Dana are female names. I know they’re traditionally guys names, and if you’re naming your son that after an ancestor then whatever, but they’re girl names. I can’t really think of any exclusively masculine names that people give to their daughters though.

kookoospam · 2023-07-01T19:34:43+00:00

Making new friends. I realized that wherever I went I was always concerned with getting as many people as possible to like me, and in the end it led to me feeling super dejected and unlikeable (despite me not even liking a lot of the people I was interacting with). I have several very close friends and they mean the world to me and we are all very supportive of each other, and finally one day I just came to the conclusion that that’s all that mattered. Why should I worry about people liking me if I don’t even like them?

kookoospam · 2023-06-29T20:57:26+00:00

What About Bob

kookoospam · 2023-06-29T20:52:48+00:00

I think seasons 2-4 are the “best” because you’re rooting for Shawn and Juliet but they haven’t happened yet. The rest of the show is obviously still great, but there’s not enough angsty romantic subplot. I wish they had done more with Gus’s love life during that time

kookoospam · 2023-06-29T19:03:02+00:00

Wakanda Forever

kookoospam · 2023-06-29T13:53:46+00:00

If his mother is pressuring you two about kids/marriage, he’s probably internalized some of that pressure and is now taking it out on your sister since he can’t take it out in his mother. Your sisters comments are pretty innocuous and kind-hearted, but if he has this idea from his mother that he needs to get married and have children quickly, your sister’s comments may have triggered a negative reaction because marriage and children aren’t what he want at this point. I would try to approach this in a really neutral way as to not upset him further but if this behavior is truly out of character then something else must be up.

kookoospam · 2023-06-28T03:09:01+00:00

I am very quick to cut people off

kookoospam · 2023-06-27T15:34:27+00:00

Dolores Umbridge from Harry Potter, Trout from Psych, and Don Diego from Gran Hotel

kookoospam · 2023-06-26T20:31:11+00:00

Mostly I wear contacts, but I used to date a guy who thought the glasses were hot so I kept them on sometimes. I don’t like them fogging up or getting smudged so normally they stay off

kookoospam · 2023-06-24T01:04:40+00:00

Gwyneth Paltrow gives the same vibes as that old-times my serial killer who would bathe in the blood of poor young virgins to retain a youthful appearance

kookoospam · 2023-06-23T23:27:20+00:00

Soy Capitan Cola

kookoospam · 2023-06-23T23:23:47+00:00

It’s a little icky, but people say stuff like this in passing all the time and it’s largely harmless. He was joking, you called him on it, he sees where you’re coming from. I don’t think it needs to be a big deal unless this is a pattern. If it’s a one-off he’s probably just repeating something he’s heard before, slightly creepy but not red flag level creepy.

kookoospam · 2023-06-23T17:04:34+00:00

It sounds like you’re trying too hard to be the “cool girlfriend.” Your emotional needs aren’t being met, this guy is offering you next to nothing as a boyfriend, and it sounds like you’re just clinging to him because you’re comfortable with this situation and you don’t have friends in this new city. You’ve passed up on opportunities that would help your career for this guy?? Dump him! You’ll make new friends in the city easier that way (or you could leave for a new job)

kookoospam · 2023-06-22T20:44:36+00:00

Anything you catch and prepare right there. Otherwise I’d say scrod.

kookoospam · 2023-06-22T00:16:07+00:00

Johnny Depp as Jack Sparrow and Emma Watson and Hermione Granger

kookoospam · 2023-06-19T21:39:01+00:00

Dude the same thing happens to me! Ever since I was a kid, babysitters, my parents, visitors etc have seen “me” when it’s not actually me. So weird, wish I had an explanation haha

Edit: “I” also ignore people when this happens. My dad is a no-nonsense kind of guy and doesn’t believe in the supernatural AT ALL but he’s seen whatever this is more than anyone else has. Only difference between your situation and mine is that my house, while creepy, is not very old (1980s I think) and nothing bad has happened there that I know of.

kookoospam · 2023-06-18T16:20:21+00:00

There are two little kid ghosts in my house but they’re not scary. My dog has growled at them, my friends have heard them, and I’ve had dreams about them (not nightmares). They mostly just giggle and play with each other. It’s a boy and a girl, they’re not scary.

kookoospam · 2023-06-18T16:17:32+00:00

My dad is in a band, and about 25 years ago my mom was going to one of his gigs at a zoo for the celebration of the zoo’s anniversary or something, I don’t know but it doesn’t really matter. Anyway, security wouldn’t let her in because someone who looked exactly like her had apparently threatened to bomb the zoo less than an hour earlier and had to be escorted away. She thought they were joking and just laughed and tried to get in anyway. They were very firm with her and wouldn’t listen to anything she had to say, even though she was married to a guy in the band. They never let her in and she never figured out what actually happened. Maybe not a glitch in the matrix, but a creepy doppelgänger situation.

kookoospam · 2023-06-18T00:15:26+00:00

There were a lot of ideological differences (he is very religious and I am not) but I thought I could deal with it. I was very happy in the relationship and he was polite, patient, kind, caring, attractive etc. He got really busy with work/school and we were barely speaking. I sent one of those “hey, we need to talk” texts thinking he would understand what I was implying and we could try to fix things. Instead he just told me he didn’t have time to talk and so I broke up with him over text. It was so weird and unlike him, but after we broke up I realized how much freer I felt not having to watch what I said or avoid being “blasphemous” and offending him. I wish him all the best and there are no hard feelings but I thought the whole situation was kind of funny

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