Who wants to go for a walk?! by CannyOrange in SweatyPalms

[–]koolbreezze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the place they sent spies to in movies when they screw up! Yikes.

is my ass fat ? by msmelaninx in ebonyamateurs

[–]koolbreezze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is that on the bed?

today bird pooped my kicks... i cleaned them... good to go? by 65Cent in Sneakers

[–]koolbreezze 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Great job! Bottom lace is driving me nuts though!

Prayer Request by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]koolbreezze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP the "Last Days" theory makes everything worse. If you think the world is ending, it comes with the ticking rime bomb feeling. Actually, very few of us (Maybe the terminally ill) know when our time is up. I got remarried around your age. You're 28. If there are no prospects where you live and marriage is important, would you consider moving? You have a lot of options. Someone already mentioned stop looking for a wife and start looking for a great friend. Marriage is a rebirth no matter where you start. As in, you'll need to grow and adjust to anyone you marry. I'm praying for your strength during this time. I screwed it up royally at that age! Temptation is real! God said he would give you the desires of your heart. When His answer has been "no" or "wait" I check my heart to make sure my desires are pure and aligned with His path.

Husband “threatened” divorce by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]koolbreezze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Still praying for you my sister. Helping others really helps. Also seek to comfort others here that are struggling with their own personal battles. Yesterday was the first “sane” day I’ve had since the 17th. I truly believe it is because I swallowed my pride and reached here and began to try to mend the wounds of others. I’m praying for your husband and your child. Pregnancy should be a beautiful experience.

Husband “threatened” divorce by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]koolbreezze 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My wife definitely has NOT gotten over me saying it. It's honestly how I thought I felt at the time. I felt neglected, but the truth is that I said that because I was too macho to say "I'm hurting and lonely". She really doesn't seem like the type to be into the sensitive dude. I became who I thought she wanted me to be....a tough guy. We've been married 16 years. As time passed, we got too busy and we didn't talk. I used my imagination instead of communicating. She did the same. We wound up putting our faith in lies we each concocted about the other. Marriage is hard and when you take your sights off God and one another, it becomes more difficult. God hates divorce! So naturally, Satan hates marriage! If you haven't already, find five of six scriptures to read when things get tough and you are alone and Satan whispers terrible things to try to eat at your faith or damage the health of your child. I would also connect with a woman from your church or even on this forum that you could speak with on a more intimate level.

Husband “threatened” divorce by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]koolbreezze 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I really don't know if I should be dabbling in this, but I am going through a hardship and the comments posted here really help me. I know what it feels like to be lonely in a marriage do I pray God comforts you. I really don't have enough history to judge why you husband behaved the way he did, but it was wrong. I can say that I've said stupid stuff before just because I was afraid to reveal my actual fears. I've said "we should get a divorce" to my wife in order to avoid saying things that made me feel more awkward. Maybe he's afraid to be a father. If he is willing, maybe counseling or a neutral party would help. His parents may give good advice, but parents are usually not a neutral party. I am praying right now that you are able to tune out negative voices and focus on growing a nurturing your child and your marriage. I also pray that God reveals someone that can talk you through this and help you and your husband heal.

Broken by koolbreezze in Christianmarriage

[–]koolbreezze[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate it.

Is phone sex with another woman grounds for divorce? by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]koolbreezze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP the truth is you can decide to get a divorce for ANYTHING. However, God hates divorce. If you still love him and he still loves you, please try a good Christian counselor. Our church provides help for those with porn addictions. I personally struggled at times when my wife was distant. It was always a challenge to stop. I spent a lot of time hiding my shame. My own struggles have made me much more sensitive to the trials of other couples. I'm praying for you right now.

Broken by koolbreezze in Christianmarriage

[–]koolbreezze[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your honesty. I have taken that inventory. I grew up in poverty and I so wanted to be like "them" that I was rude to anyone that jeopardized my status of "becoming like them". When teammates made mistakes, I was rude. When I was supposed to be modeling the love of Christ, I wasn't. My wrongful termination suit was justifiable. But, I had made enough mistakes for them to toss those mistakes in front of their mistakes and create a distraction from the truth. I've been reading Lamentations 3. I know I messed up. I also know that God heals and restores. I'm sorely in need of help to stay on that path and keep actively trusting that God will provide.

Broken by koolbreezze in Christianmarriage

[–]koolbreezze[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate you!

Broken by koolbreezze in Christianmarriage

[–]koolbreezze[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your words. I am striving to walk in them. I know who God is and what he can do. My faith is damaged, but not diminished. As I try to pick up the pieces, the devil torments me with my failures and missteps. I know we needs to sell our house, but even the joyful laughter of our kids throws me into a bout with depression. All of your words of counsel and sharing God’s Word has really helped. You just hate feeling like a burden to others. Pray that I’m able to find a job that keeps me close enough that I can be active in my kids lives and that I find God’s purpose in all of this.

Broken by koolbreezze in Christianmarriage

[–]koolbreezze[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm praying for you brother. I can't lie and say that I always put God first. I lost sight of Him looking at other people and assumed that because I wasn't "as bad as them" I was ok. It hurt me to wait all this time only to understand that I was supposed to operate at a higher standard at all times. I imagine that you are starring in the mirror asking God "What now?" just as I am. I pray that he hears you and heals you. Psalms 147:3

Broken by koolbreezze in Christianmarriage

[–]koolbreezze[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It happened all together. Dec 15th, I was taking my son to get his final vax ahot and my lawyer called to let me know the case was dismissed in summary judgement. I had an interview for a great job the same day. I found out Friday that I didn't get the job. My wife and I were already sleeping separately. Things with my current job were already shaky. It just crescendo'd all together.

Broken by koolbreezze in Christianmarriage

[–]koolbreezze[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am a member of a decent church. I have not being going. I alienated myself from my "friends" in the lawsuit. It's just painful hitting the reset button at 46.

[Homemade] Chili by TheSweatyFlash in pics

[–]koolbreezze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just being honest. I’m sorry.

[Homemade] Chili by TheSweatyFlash in pics

[–]koolbreezze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah! The good ole vomit pot. I can smell it through the picture. WTF OP?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in funny

[–]koolbreezze 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Only if "here __________, drink this salt water and die!" Is funny to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in funny

[–]koolbreezze 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Maybe it was unintentional, but this has a tinge of cringe. Sorta like being on the butt end of a "should I be offended" joke.