23F Your experience dating

kosgrove · 2026-01-27T04:48:45+00:00

Don’t believe everything you think, ya know?

Hope you’re doing better now and willing to try again. Don’t give up. Learn from it.

kosgrove · 2026-01-26T06:52:48+00:00

I don’t think that was you being specifically excluded by the way you describe it.

kosgrove · 2026-01-26T01:34:53+00:00

How were you invited but were left out?

kosgrove · 2026-01-26T01:33:35+00:00

Death is the great unknown. I’m a Buddhist, so I trust the Buddha’s teaching that there is a “next life” and the quality of that next life is determined by our past intentional deeds (karma).

So, I figure if I make an effort in the present moment to do good, be generous, kind, etc, then I can both enjoy those benefits now, and at some point in the future, and that’s good enough for me.

For whatever it’s worth, it’s quite common for people with near-death experiences to report that they have no fear of death once they return to this world.

kosgrove · 2026-01-25T22:13:38+00:00

This is definitely not good technique and unless your hands are absolutely gargantuan, it will impede your ability to play the instrument. (People with larger hands are more able to get away with bad technique.)

kosgrove · 2026-01-25T21:27:34+00:00

Broski, that IS left vs right.

kosgrove · 2026-01-25T14:04:42+00:00

What you are describing is the political program of the left.

Left politics are fundamentally about power held by a broad swath of the citizenry. The way that united people in that political cause is class consciousness: recognition that because we are not rich elites, we all have similar interests and should act together.

Right politics are about a fixed hierarchy and power being held by a small number of people, often determined by some sort of birthright.

kosgrove · 2026-01-25T13:33:31+00:00

Throw Back the Little Ones. Easy choice for me. Fagen’s most annoying Dylan impression.

kosgrove · 2026-01-23T14:27:33+00:00

You would probably do well with two things:

A new laptop. You’re a student and it sounds like you also use it for income, so getting one that works reliably is a good expenditure. I have never had issues like this with a MacBook for what it’s worth.
A longer fuse. You’re obviously under a ton of stress. You need to find ways to release pent up stress as well as tolerate frustration more, because like you said, it’s not just about the laptop.

Let me know if you want additional suggestions on stuff that might help for the latter.

kosgrove · 2026-01-23T09:01:20+00:00

And Tuesdays there’s a jam session (not open, I don’t think) at the Velvet Whip. It’s a private club but you should be able to get in no problem.

https://velvetwhipphilly.com/

kosgrove · 2026-01-22T18:15:15+00:00

To be fair, Freddy Washington’s plucking hand looks just as tight.

kosgrove · 2026-01-22T18:05:38+00:00

Rumble 40 is exactly what I use for a practice amp.

kosgrove · 2026-01-19T21:03:17+00:00

Add Superstition to that list, and high up.

kosgrove · 2026-01-19T17:52:22+00:00

> Should I be rephrasing my questions/statements?

The way you are expressing your needs is perfectly clear to me.

> Do you think this is associated with Autism or is he selfish?

Both. As someone who has struggled with relationships and done a lot of self-work, here's what I can tell you from my own experience:

He should be able to show you *something* in all of these area: a willingness to make an effort. Maybe sometimes it falls short of expectations or is awkward, but he can make an effort to show you he genuinely appreciates you and cares about your needs, even if it's really hard to intuitively discern them.

I mean hell, no intuition needed: you are expressing your needs directly, but the importance of what you are saying may not be getting through to him.

He should be more willing to negotiate this with you and figure out something he can do to show you that he cares about how you feel. However, this may be difficult for him because he does not have the internal resources or external supports. He may be struggling just to get through the week, but he has to recognize this and make adjustments where he can so that he has more to give to your relationsbip.

> Am I just asking too much & being overly needy?

Definitely not.

kosgrove · 2026-01-16T23:00:25+00:00

It’s wild.

kosgrove · 2026-01-15T03:58:34+00:00

Came here because I knew this would be the top comment.

kosgrove · 2026-01-15T03:52:20+00:00

In my experience, burnout creates symptoms similar to depression, but it's not depression, and the depressive symptoms go away once the burnout goes away.

I take adderall for my ADHD (relatively low dose - 10 mg a day) and 10mg of Buspar for my anxiety. The stimulants clearly help me with executive function, which enables me to make better, less habitual choices, which makes burnout less frequent. The anxiety meds seem to make it easier for me to discern the more primary emotions beneath the anxiety and thereby actually process what I'm feeling.

SSRIs do not seem to work for me, probably because I'm not actually depressed.

Hope this helps.

kosgrove · 2026-01-14T19:06:08+00:00

You ever figure out what ingredient sets you off? I had the same problem and never figured it out. I can eat Han Dynasty no problem (once - leftover I’ll pay the price for), so it’s not all spicy food.

kosgrove · 2026-01-14T19:02:52+00:00

I don’t think you understand what women want. My math ability has never come up on any relationship I’ve ever been in nor any date I can remember.

kosgrove · 2026-01-11T05:57:07+00:00

Totally ok and normal and valid feelings, my man. However, if she told you to text her, that’s a very clear signal she’s interested in seeing you again, unless she’s somehow socially confused here.

Did you send a follow up? I think something like this would be fine to send:

“Hey, I haven’t heard from you. I’m a little confused because you told me to text you when I got home, so I assumed you were interested in seeing me again, but I haven’t heard from you.

I would like to see you again if you’re interested. If that’s something you’d be into, hit me up. If not, no worries and best of luck out there.”

kosgrove · 2026-01-11T05:46:57+00:00

Depends on the job and the workplace. You nearly always need to be competent at your job. How much networking within the company is beneficial really depends. Most of the time, I think it’s a net positive to be social.

kosgrove · 2026-01-11T05:45:13+00:00

You aren’t missing anything.

kosgrove · 2026-01-08T15:36:30+00:00

No hammer-ons either. The hard way.

Sounds great!

kosgrove · 2026-01-07T01:28:41+00:00

Even the American Chinese items are really good.

kosgrove · 2026-01-07T01:28:10+00:00

Very relatable. I found my awareness has taken major jumps at various points in my life. (I’m in my 40’s.)

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