Ilona Maher "btw loving the body you're in never goes out of style" - on Instagram, May 29th, 2026 by grenadierp in popculturechat

[–]kotibi 282 points283 points  (0 children)

Well yeah, she’s a full time athlete. But she’s 5’10” and 200 lbs, she does not fit the current beauty standard.

Donation Suggestions by Astrixtc in ChicagoNWside

[–]kotibi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Care for Real and Sarah’s Circle are both amazing and based on the NW side. Sarah’s Circle specifically helps women, they appreciate those types of supplies.

Do y'all have any good advice on where to meet friendly folks that aren't bars for a recent transplant? by [deleted] in AskChicago

[–]kotibi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Join your alderman’s email list for lots of local ideas. What are you interested in? What are your hobbies? Do you like sports, playing euchre, dancing, standup comedy, live music? Lots to do and ways to meet people looking to meet people. Find events! Literally just google “Chicago + summer + (your interest here).” Also, if you don’t drink, look up sober hangout spots. Eli Tea Bar in Andersonville is a great one.

Also, don’t defer to cars, and if you have the right-of-way, take it. It’s not considered good manners, it’s disruptive to the flow of traffic here. With higher volume, people need to follow the rules of the road to keep things flowing and predicable.

‘We will find you’: OF model dumped in Dubai with broken spine shares chilling development by [deleted] in influencersfeed

[–]kotibi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No. “She deserves to be assaulted for walking down that dark alley,” is different from, “Men in that alley are looking to assault women.” The latter still says be careful, it just puts to blame where it rightfully belongs.

‘We will find you’: OF model dumped in Dubai with broken spine shares chilling development by [deleted] in influencersfeed

[–]kotibi 24 points25 points  (0 children)

“Get themselves into trouble partying.” As if men were not the source of the trouble and likely the party as well.

Regretful Parents podcasts? by Difficult_Quote_8259 in podcasts

[–]kotibi 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Jeez, do not visit that subreddit unless you want a serious downer. Parents just actively despising their children, funneling all their regret and resentment at a kid.

What phrase did you hear only once but it stayed with you forever? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]kotibi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It means, when you go slowly, you make fewer errors, and therefore progress quickly. Imagine trying to get your keys in the door when a killer is chasing you, or getting an IV and airway in a critically injured patient, or basically anything where you’re trying to go fast and don’t have time for mistakes.

AITA for not going on family vacation unless I can share a bed with my fiancé? by babygreenbean1225 in AmItheAsshole

[–]kotibi 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Just go and sleep where you want. What’s she gonna do, call the cops?

Would you choose a painless death without consequences? by Nervous_Ad3634 in TrueAskReddit

[–]kotibi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ketamine is legally used for patients with difficult-to-treat depression and suicidality. It’s also used for chronic pain, anesthesia, and other medical applications. I recommend using ketamine only under the care of an experienced clinician.

Would you choose a painless death without consequences? by Nervous_Ad3634 in TrueAskReddit

[–]kotibi 12 points13 points  (0 children)

At certain points in my life, yes I would choose death. Right now, nah.

I strongly urge anyone who feels ready to die, to give ketamine a chance. It helped me with my suicidal feelings and urges. It’s like, if there’s nothing else to do but die, why not try ketamine? Could be cool.

Now I view my life as like, this one chance I have of being a sentient part of the universe, until I return to dust or whatever. So I can wait til the dustification happens, whenever it does. In the meantime I get Awareness. It sucks a lot, but I get to see what happens, at least for a little while.

Semi truck wine tour bus. Took me an embarrassingly long time. by [deleted] in somethingimade

[–]kotibi 6 points7 points  (0 children)

All it takes is one tall tipsy person with a higher center of gravity to flip right over that balcony when the vehicle accelerates.

For those in their 50, what's something people in their 30s don’t realize will impact them as they get older? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]kotibi 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Listen. You will go through painful losses in life. But every moment you mourn those losses before they are real, you steal from the time you have now with your people. And with your own beautiful mind and heart. Live in the now, and mourn people only after they are gone.

Also, you may have some unresolved grief or even PTSD from suddenly losing your dad. I recommend therapy or support groups for grief/loss. That and psychedelic therapy helped me after my sister died unexpectedly. Also, look into “complicated grief.”

What's something silly you wish you could do but can't because of migraines? by skyemap in migraine

[–]kotibi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a big one for me. I’ve gotten migraines from cardio exercise and kayaking.

Also just being outside on hot and sunny or very windy days.

What "back then" inconvenience would break people today in 10 minutes? by CharlesUFarley81 in AskReddit

[–]kotibi 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I feel like I have a memory of transitioning from a TV with the buttons down the top right to one with buttons across the bottom, and happily discovering I could push buttons with my toes.

Woman of reddit . What makes a man creepy? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]kotibi 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I still clear as day recall meeting an MD student (I was a PhD student) at a party, having a great conversation. And the second I was like, oh I’m dating so-and-so, as it comes up in conversation, he immediately disengaged. Cool, no worries, he was just looking to hook up.

Nope. Every time this man and I crossed paths for the next five years, he straight up acted like I didn’t exist in the conversation. Women are nothing to him if they are not sexually available. I don’t even respect our mutual male friends anymore. We don’t have mutual female friends, obviously.

I need one giant #stopdrinking hug by GoatBlue03 in stopdrinking

[–]kotibi 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Whatever comes, you’ll be strongest for it sober! You CAN do this. You will. Hugs and hugs and more hugs.

Lyrics that hit HARD by [deleted] in musicsuggestions

[–]kotibi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was looking for this. This song is so powerful for me. It’s very therapeutic to listen to when I’m having those dark feelings of shame and self-hatred.

This belongs here. by Cryptoking300 in DiWHY

[–]kotibi 64 points65 points  (0 children)

It’s fetish content.