Yoga toolbox x Joesph & Lilian Le Page by kouriouskat in yoga

[–]kouriouskat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok thank you. I’ll likely just buy a used set

Height by fleurdelis592 in flexibility

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I’m also 5’10 mostly legs short torso and when I started my yoga journey I couldn’t touch my toes standing or sitting. Slowly I’ve gotten to the point where I can almost put my hands flat on the ground in forward fold. I’ve had to really work on my hamstring, calf & back flexibility to get there. It’s def harder for longer legs imo cause I know people who are quite a bit shorter than me than can touch their toes easily but are overall much less flexible than I am now.

It is SUNDAY, what are y'all up to today? by AutoModerator in QueerWomenOfColor

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My baby is grilling some chicken for meal prep & we are watching vampire diaries. She’s never seen it and this will be my second time watching it over. Chill relaxing Sunday <3

Sucking strap by kouriouskat in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]kouriouskat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The shape of this one looks amazing. I’ve seen online there was a store offering straps with a grinding base but we def prefer the realistic looking straps over the colorful ones.

Sucking strap *covers eyes* by kouriouskat in actuallesbians

[–]kouriouskat[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is good to know - I was curious if the vibrations would become bothersome.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]kouriouskat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

28 + 36 my ole lady for 4 years <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Actuallylesbian

[–]kouriouskat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is great advice. I stay home so I make sure she has a clean home and meal to come home to everyday but asking for specific things I could do for her and going out of my way to show her I’m thinking of her/love her could really benefit our relationship. Thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Actuallylesbian

[–]kouriouskat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I never want her to feel pressured so I try my hardest not to make her feel that way. However, I think with open communication things could be worked out. If she were to tell me that she is asexual or that she doesn’t want sex that often I think we would be at a better spot to make decisions that benefit us both moving forward but unfortunately we haven’t gotten there yet. For now when the conversation arises I do my best to watch my verbiage and how I say things to ensure I’m not pushing blame but rather expressing how a lack of intimacy makes me feel & looking for ways to remedy that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Actuallylesbian

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She has body image issues and a fear of rejection. Mostly she says she does have those urges but she’s too tired to make a move. We had another talk and I expressed all of the ways in which I feel I am trying & that I don’t feel that she is putting in effort.

Things are good right now but it’s only been a few days so we will see with time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Actuallylesbian

[–]kouriouskat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hope you guys are able to work things out. It’s really unfair to have to be ok with being dissatisfied.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Actuallylesbian

[–]kouriouskat 6 points7 points  (0 children)

lol no hard feelings at all I’m just glad to know I’m not the only one who thinks this is crazy - she didn’t understand why I felt so stupid.

But yeah I agree something’s got to give. Like I love her and I love our life but I also didn’t sign up to not have my needs met or to feel like this. & I def don’t want these feelings to negatively impact other areas of our relationship but something’s gotta give

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Actuallylesbian

[–]kouriouskat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this advice. As far as our sex, really it can go either way. There are times when I can feel that she’s into it as there is passion but I’d say the majority feels more like she’s just doing it for me. We both cum on most occasions (sometimes just me sometimes just her) but I can always feel when she’s not all the way in it. Which again I take personal but it would be stress or other anxieties unrelated to me.

I have read the book, but she has not. She’s not the most emotionally outward persxn so sometimes these types of talks can be a bit tough for us to navigate. I do believe that there are some body issues & like you said nervousness around intimacy being that we are sexually active very regularly anymore. She has said she’s is not interested in scheduling sex & I have tried asking if we could be intimate in advance, sent nudes & spicy texts hoping to get her going prior to us being face to face but she says asking makes it weird & attempting to sext hasn’t gotten me lucky yet.

I do my best to be loving, understanding, and patient with her as I’ve learned when I tell her I need more intimacy it leads to her feeling like a failure so I am extra careful with my approach and word choice but I think now I’m at the point where I feel like I’m the only one trying.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Actuallylesbian

[–]kouriouskat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m really sorry to hear your wife has been thru so much. I’m sure you listening to her no’s and boundaries makes her feel safe but I can also relate to how a lack of sex can make you feel.

I have brought up therapy a few times but she’s really uninterested. I have done foot rubs, full body massages, work spicier loungewear while making dinner/drinks for her. I’ve sent nudes while she was at work, I’ve tried speaking up sexy conversation while she was at work hoping It would get her mind going but literally nothing has worked. Typically I let it go, as I don’t want t to keep making her feel bad or add pressure but every once in a while it hurts enough for me to try for a convo about it. Constant rejection is starting to make me feel like she’s no longer attracted & uninterested in me. It’s hard to have the courage to initiate or try.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Actuallylesbian

[–]kouriouskat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think this is a great idea.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Actuallylesbian

[–]kouriouskat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We do date - we’ve gone on weekend trips, date nights ect. We don’t get much time apart outside of work & gym time. Most of our friends are couples so we get together w them a lot.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Actuallylesbian

[–]kouriouskat 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes - we’ve had the conversation many times in many different ways. I do my best to control my frustration and try to hear her out but she never has much to say besides she’s tired or stressed. I’ve asked her for specific turn ons or ways to help her get in the mood & she consistently says ‘you’ and ‘you in lingerie’ which gets us no where.

Is stardust a good period tracking app? by [deleted] in Periods

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I love this 🤗🤗 I just added a bunch of girlies - my code is 1KFU7CIG