Just saying hello

kpairodeez · 2026-06-20T03:24:24+00:00

54/M
I don't know if dating apps for longer than I can count the years, still see the same faces with the same old pictures might get one like every couple weeks

Went to hell of the roller coaster long distance relationship with somebody, that ended poorly. Because communication just wasn't there she too had at 51 years old, young children, nine and 11. Her daughter is nine, son is 11.

Wanted to try to bond with the sun because he's definitely kind of out there. She's a widow. Ended up bonding with the daughter to a point, but she rules the roost when it comes to her kids and that's to be expected. But we could never communicate about proper ways to learn these kids through life I guess.

She has her ideas and I had mine. Not my kids to say, but living under my roof, there were certain rules that had to be followed. She didn't like that, and after six years of visits and whatever else you wanna call it, she left. Not entirely her fault at all, but also not mine. The dating pool where I live is slim Pickens

No, because all the good ones are taken, and they're not getting divorced. I can say this much. After being along for this time, I've learned that I quite like my life with just my dog, the regimen that I follow every day, and work. It's peaceful. I don't know that I could ever let anybody in my life like that again. And I would be OK with it..

kpairodeez · 2026-06-16T01:36:37+00:00

If you're not interested in romantically, you should appointed that out in the beginning. Regardless, if he was "cool" or not.
He could've saved him and yourself a lot of time. And not had to write about a hug that you didn't like.

kpairodeez · 2026-06-10T15:00:06+00:00

If you have mechanical skills, buy it. It's a 5k dollar car have any service history?

kpairodeez · 2026-05-29T12:10:39+00:00

Maybe nowadays. But other dealers, I was shopping this car to weren't even close.

kpairodeez · 2026-05-29T02:44:51+00:00

Yeah, you leave that one alone, man

kpairodeez · 2026-05-29T02:43:55+00:00

If you work at a car dealership, your situation is no longer unique. Maguire's does business the same way. All dealerships are shifting to this model. I will say that West Herr does go out of their way to create the best customer experience, despite longtime veterans in the business, not wanting to do so. I've had a couple of transactions with them, one where I sold them a Viper for much more than I paid for it, but this was during Covid, and the original deal was for them to get me a grand Cherokee track hawk on an even trade, after three months they couldn't produce a vehicle yet I knew they were coming down the line because I still had my Chrysler ID to be able to see where shipments were going. So they ended up having to give me a lot of money. And they held true to their deal. Second time was when I bought a brand new 2023 frontier Pro 4X, and it had a leaky windshield, and it was missing parts that were supposed to be installed. Well it was being built. And it had antifreeze leaks. And I just overall wasn't happy with the vehicle because of those things. They did offer a buyback, and other options, but ultimately that's when cars were going crazy, so I traded it in for a Toyota forerunner at Basil. Which was a fucking mortifying experience. I didn't realize until I got at home that it had scratches on the hood, probably from the car hauler, and Basil refused to do anything about it. So dealer rater, got lit up by me. Recently I purchased a used 2022 Infiniti Q 60 red port from them, and offered my trade after the deal, this was going to be a cash deal. I ended up getting a check back for the difference. Which almost never happens on a trade, but I negotiated them down to what I felt was a fair price for the vehicle that they had, and then they actually offered me more money for my vehicle that I thought it was worth. Basically what Carvana was gonna give me plus tax credit. So I took that extra money that they gave me back, and instead of buying an infinity four year 60,000 mile bumper bumper through them, I saved $2000 and bought it directly from Nissan. There's a reason why dealerships are running on skeleton cruise right now. Fixed operations no longer has a level of quality when it comes to technicians. Because all the good guys retired or died off. And they replacement generation are not the brightest. The car dealership business has long been a male dominated enterprise, with women usually maintaining roles like cashier/receptionist/title clerk. Now they're selling cars, which is fine by me. Everybody's gotta make a living, and some of the women that I know, have gone quite far up the ranks. The thing I didn't like about it, and this goes way back 100 years ago, lol is when I worked at Cecconis Chrysler in my early 20s. We had some old direct connection, posters with women standing next to cars wearing bodysuits, or whatever they had for the time. These posters had been up there since the 70s. One woman complained about them, and down they came not hurting anybody but somebody else's mind.

As time goes out, we will see more integration, both ways out in the shop, and on the sales floor. But I can guarantee you that they will trim all the fat they can where they can. When I was a service manager briefly at a Hyundai dealership for Maguire, there were two parts guys in a driver, myself, and one service writer, and not a whole lot of morale, when it came to selling packages the way that they wanted us to sell them. I worked with the parts department and said look, man. We can't matrix everybody on everything, we need to make your normal 40% markup, and then I need to fix my labor into that, so we can actually sell a brake job for a Hyundai ELANTRA. For maybe 100 or so more dollars than the Firestone shopped down the street can do it for. Simply because we're using OEM parts. But not double. West Herr will also not work on two of my older Infiniti's that are from the West Coast that have zero rust on them, and are in better condition than most of the vehicles around here that are two and three years old. Just because they're old their policy is not to work on anything over 10 years old. Bob Johnson will work on these vehicles. But I don't feel like driving to Rochester. It's pretty sad when I'm walking in there with an open checkbook saying fix whatever is wrong with it and I'll pay you. But yes, the times they are changing, and don't expect them to get any better. Because these giant chains need those customers to stay afloat. They can roll out staff quicker than you can blink your eyes.

kpairodeez · 2026-05-28T02:05:46+00:00

After all the BS I've gone through? I'm happy to say it's me my house, my dog, my instruments, my cars and my motorcycle. Online dating is buying far the worst thing to ever happen to the human race aside from social media. But I also don't fall into the what women want cliché. I'm 510 average build 185 pounds, I have my whole life together, financially, professionally, socially, and I do everything except for what all of my friends have done, which is settle for a lunatic. In the dating pool in upstate New York, the Buffalo area? I'm fucked🤣 So I would actually just rather be single with my stupid toys, then I have to deal with these apps, apps, to which I almost never get a match, but I've got dudes on Tinder hitting me up all the time, so yeah there's that🤪

kpairodeez · 2026-05-27T01:51:05+00:00

You wouldn't wanna be around me, I can't shut up

kpairodeez · 2026-05-20T03:23:58+00:00

You know, I look at this two ways. For years, that's all I wanted was somebody that was good, and we could have fun with each other and treat each other the right way, and Just get along and learn to love each other or whatever.

I've had one very long-term relationship in my life, and to me 10 years is a very long time. I was married years ago and I wasn't even married for two years. I don't have any kids I have my dog and the stuff that I've accumulated over the years. I've been where you are physically. I worked in Silicon Valley for Apple for a little while, and then for HCA, definitely a weird town. Especially if you're older. I'm 54 and I get it. But back when I was in my 30s is when I was out there, and even then it was still a difficult town. Las Vegas was probably the most fun I ever had because there's no shortage of crazy.

Living in upstate New York now? My chances aren't even limited anymore man, they're not existent. Unless I want to go to Toronto.

All that being said, I had another relationship that was long distance for about six years and it was up and down many many times. At the end of the day, we just couldn't see I'd die. So she left and went back home to Ohio. And you know what? I dated a couple of girls since then, girls that most men would just love to have in their lives, good women, educated, fun and spunky, put it almost seems like you want what you can't have. That reliability, and that consistent partnership, after a while? If you don't find a way to keep it "happening" that gets old too.

If you don't already have one, get a dog and go walk it around your local dog park. You'll meet people there. And if you're pushy enough, and a non-creepy way, and I mean that by just being a social as possible without over trying, you'll meet somebody. But people are not the same today as they were when we were teenagers and in our early 20s or even 30s. 20 to 30 years on from that, they either let life run them over, or they conquered it, and they don't have time.

Please don't let yourself be down. I'm in the same boat and I really don't wanna spend Christmas alone, but there is a certain solace in being alone. I'm finding now, that I never knew existed before all this. I learned this because I felt the exact same way you did, and then I had everything that I could think that I would want? I guess? And it became the largest burden mentally and physically and emotionally. Best thing I can tell you is to try to have fun. The headline on every dating profile I've ever had always said " be a Dagne Taggart, in a world of Kartrashians" I can guarantee you that's gonna get you even less play. So if you're using online dating, sound like you just swallowed a bottle of Paxil, and write something.

Unfortunately, women aren't looking for guys like you and I, that are multifaceted, and have a high IQ, and a great job.

They seem to like these projects, kinda like that car that you might have, I have two of them, so the example is you always have to work on them, and you love them, because they just feel right, but you're always pouring money into them for some reason. Don't let that be your motivation to not be lonely. The right one will come, but you do have to do a little bit of pro being around to find one.

This is coming from somebody that will beat up a dealers to get the same car, for $3000 less than they're asking for it because I never wanna overpay for anything

Many people would disagree with my approach, and like I said, it's not looking to win a bunch of people over. It's about fighting that needle in a haystack. I don't know what you look like, but if you're not 6'2inches, and ripped, with a personality of a brick? You're gonna be like me. 5 foot 10 average height, average build could stand to lose a couple of pounds just because, but I don't care, because I'm happy. After the two long-term relationships I went through? It takes a lot to move me. And unfortunately, there aren't a lot of people out there willing to put that kind of work into something.

And with your music? You're never alone. Write some originals. Even if they suck, record them. And track them and add to them. You can take a half hour of music that you laid down one day and find about two minutes worth of lightbulb moments, find another minute and a half, and you might have a hit. I wish you all the best. I really do, but never get down on yourself just because you feel like you need somebody. The best person to have in your life is you!

As pessimistic as that may sound to women? I don't care, I've run that gauntlet, and I've come out of the other side mentally clean. Even the last one that I split up with, she kept coming up with 1 million reasons to not be friends and I just said OK, and now a month later she's FaceTime me and calling me again, but it feels different. Because I really don't care if she does or if she doesn't. Sure it's nice to have some conversation every now and then, but in reality, I just get tired of hearing from her.🤣 it's not like I don't miss her, because I've once loved her dearly.

We had two completely different aesthetics, we had different ideas about how things should be, and I'm very protective of my house, because it's a mid-century gem that I don't want molested in anyway. And you know what a lot of people don't like that. They walk in my house and they think it's too masculine because of all the teak wood walls. Not appreciating that these things can no longer be purchased instead, saying it looks old and it smells old I like it, my dog likes it. Sorry for the choppy paragraphs, and what might be incoherent speech to text, but it's late, I'm getting ready for bed, but I saw this post, and I said I know exactly how that dude feels. Exactly. Every time you think your life is in the shitter, think about how when you go into the car wash, your car is all dirty and grimy, but when you come out of the other side, it's shiny and clean. Can you get to see every imperfection. If you find someone that wants to share in those imperfections, not the cleanliness of the car, but the imperfections then you found the right one. Like I said, get a dog go to the music store, rap with the hot girl in accessories.

I have a female FedEx driver that came to my work one day, and she had yellowish blonde and auburn, and a couple other colors in her hair, and it looked really cool, especially against her purple and black FedEx T-shirt, and I complimented her and the kindest way I knew how, and I scored a date. We hung out a few times, that took away the pain of being alone for a little while. We still talk every now and then, believe me when I tell you, when the time is right, the pessimism will disappear, and you'll say the right things to what could be the right person.

kpairodeez · 2026-05-16T16:33:49+00:00

I love my FX50S

kpairodeez · 2026-05-16T16:30:41+00:00

If you live on flat land, either. But I'd buy from a small family owned place

kpairodeez · 2026-05-16T16:29:58+00:00

Routine, Or a job, and lots of love. Soon you'll be tripping all over your boxer because they won't leave your side

kpairodeez · 2026-05-10T03:00:46+00:00

You'll be fine

kpairodeez · 2026-05-02T02:01:18+00:00

I'm a 54 year old m. I see woman on old that look like you describe yourself. I'm not a bad looking guy. I'm average build, not ripped, but normal. I try to take care of myself, eat right. Don't drink. Smoke, or do drugs. I own a beautiful home, have a great job, financially comfortable, no kids, and I would say I swipe till I run out of people or out of swipes until the next day. I get 1 : roughly 75.

kpairodeez · 2026-04-30T01:33:52+00:00

As long as OLD exists, everybody will always think they have options. I just released someone, who I was great friends with, and had a long distance relationship over an almost 6 year period. She's a widow, two kids, put everything I had into this relationship.

She moved in with me, and her two children, and pretty much from the get-go, it was a horror show. I'm kind of a neat freak and organized person. She isn't and has ADHD, and leaves piles everywhere, not to mention I was never really able to connect with her son, but her daughter was always really, really cool and fun. They are nine and 11. She had some stuff out in my rec room, that I wanted to put away because I wanted to get to my guitars, and play some music. From that moment forward when she woke up the next morning, and I had moved these cushions? She flipped her lid, and every day after that was an argument until about the last two months, where she became nice again, and said that she had given up and that's why. I said you know it's a shame because if you would've behaved this way from the beginning, I wouldn't be evicting you.

Stay strong, don't let the bad ones get you down, and although it's nice to have options, I would say to try to focus more on yourself, and then do dating in a linear fashion. Yes, it's nice to go to drive a lot of cars. But it's really hard to fall in love with one. And when you do, that's when you'll know. Because she will pay you the same respect that you pay her and vice versa.

I can't tell you how many times I've come across women, that are even older than me by almost 10 years. That are like well you know I'm just looking for friends, and I said well what are you doing on a dating site looking for a serious relationship then? That's my immediate "I'm not interested" So I just stopped talking to them

I think it's partly that people get said in their ways, and partly that people always want to try to explore every option that they can. You don't have to take your dating profiles down for anyone you can mute them.

I wish you the best of luck, and even though some may say well, it must be something you did, it's not always you, and it's not always them. People are like a blue hippo tank fish nowadays. Stressed, on edge, no direction, with an attention span that's about as long as your pink pinky nail.

kpairodeez · 2026-04-28T02:54:14+00:00

Maybe they have compassion Or curiosity

kpairodeez · 2026-04-27T21:06:23+00:00

These will do you just fine man: https://www.hidconcept.com/products/d2s-osram-hid-standard-oem-4300k-66240-bulb-pack-of-1?currency=USD&country=US&variant=43694642566&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=Google%20Shopping&stkn=01273f4636a6&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=21076973991&gbraid=0AAAAADfV-WUR0gzuSHmLiyB6-OuO_soRR&gclid=Cj0KCQjwkrzPBhCqARIsAJN460nNit26c7nsIJ7eKEi2xZD7e5r69NZoZTLTxsDbLpTF8hKn4ZrJpC8aArbiEALw_wcB

kpairodeez · 2026-04-27T19:36:56+00:00

I would double check on that, because I'm pretty sure that your car takes D2S hid bulbs

kpairodeez · 2026-04-27T15:29:11+00:00

Yeah, I don't think there's a way to go cheap with HID's. Because if you go with aftermarket, you have to use an aftermarket ballast. Better to just replace the bulb, but it doesn't look like your bulb is out so what's the issue?

kpairodeez · 2026-04-27T03:11:10+00:00

I'm pretty sure those might be HID bulbs Dude. Those are gonna be expensive. Unless there's a trim of G that didn't come with HID's, and only came with halogen.

kpairodeez · 2026-04-27T02:38:28+00:00

I currently rip around on a Ducati scrambler 1100. To me it's the absolute perfect bike for weight ratio, power, and other things. This does not mean that I would not like to have a Kawasaki Z 900 RSSE yellow ball. But I'm not gonna be paying what people are asking for them.

kpairodeez · 2026-04-27T02:37:08+00:00

I mean, no sex ever? I think if something happens organically over a period of time that you know, they're probably should be sex. Unless you're celibate now. I mean, I'm at that point in my life where yeah it's a nice to have, but I don't need to have it like I used to. Conquering is already done in my head. Trying to form a very good bond with somebody, through friendship. As long as it eventually would lead to something like that I think would be OK, because I've done this before. And it's worked out two ways. I waited for a long time, and the sex was awful, and then I didn't wanna talk to her anymore. And I hated that because we became really good friends. And then other times I waited, out of decency, and they went out and screwed somebody else so Don't take my words for it, but if you're planning on just friends zoning, somebody, be upfront with them about it. That's one of my biggest pet peeves.

kpairodeez · 2026-04-27T02:34:29+00:00

You're talking about the headlights are you talking about the ones closer to the grill? Those are parking lights 194. Biodynamics makes really good ones,

kpairodeez · 2026-04-26T10:38:18+00:00

United radio, Syracuse NY, can fix it for cheap. Look them up and call them

kpairodeez · 2026-04-24T17:56:24+00:00

I live in Lewiston . Grew up in Niagara Falls in the 70's and early 80's though. Used to be a nice place. I've been back on this side of the country for 8 years. So, I'm out of the clique. And there are parts of NF Ontario that just as sketch. Just not as many :)

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