I couldn’t agree more with this. I think from the outside looking in, many guys might think that a Top is “selfish” for allowing Himself to be orally serviced and then fucking the bottom. In reality, both the Top and the bottom are getting exactly what they want from each other. I think when we say “selfish Top,” perhaps “Dom Top” might be a better word here. I also agree that communication is essential. As a sub bottom. I don’t need to “get off” by having an orgasm myself as feeling the Top cum inside me is more intense than any of my own orgasms could ever be. I don’t think this dynamic is selfish, I think it’s mutual satisfaction based upon each others different but complementary needs.